What’s your opinion on arranged marriages?

[World]

Do you believe that arranged marriages are a good thing? Do want you or your children to have an arranged marriage? Why or why not? Is it backwards?

 

[Lady Whistledown]

It depends. I like the Somali version of arranged marriage. It's not really forced, just desperation. If things don't pan out for me within the next 5 years, I will let aabe make it do what it do.

 

[Xooshdheere]

arranged marriages is a bad thing tbh

 

[bluebird]

Arranged marriages work out well because there isn't the glossy expectation of love and other nonsense. infatuation/attraction can blind you and later when money problems start arising or he gets bored or the true personalities come out that's when divorce starts happening. This is my observation in seeing the two kinds marriages. But non arranged based on practicality instead of infatuation seem to last long too.

 

[Sucaad]

Let the person find who they'd want to spend rest of their life's with. I don't agree with arrange marriages.

 

[BestCaseScenario]

Let the person find who they'd want to spend rest of their life's with. I don't agree with arrange marriages.

Assuming there are guarantees in life. Reality does not support such expectations. Love is conditional, sacrifice is a two way street, plus people can lose interest. Never go into a union expecting perfection and that you will be with the same person forever even if the person gives you that confidence in them. You put in the efforts believing in the success of the life you share with your spouse but also expect anything can happen. People aren't meant to worship a lifestyle, a person, or an object.

Be good but also be rational about everything.

 

[BestCaseScenario]

Do you believe that arranged marriages are a good thing? Do want you or your children to have an arranged marriage? Why or why not? Is it backwards?

It depends. If all parties are involved in making the arranged-marriage happen and they give their consent, then it might be successful depending on how they conduct themselves as married couple.

Arranged marriage can not be said to be a success or a failure by virtue of it being "arranged". The outcome hinges on the people getting into the contract. It is no different from people finding each other and then getting married in a sense.

Parents are supposed to help their children find someone suitable. Or give their blessings to whoever their children bring home if they become satisfied with their children's choice.

Parents mean well in general. It does not mean they are always right in certain cases. But they mean well.

 

[Sucaad]

Assuming there are guarantees in life. Reality does not support such expectations. Love is conditional, sacrifice is a two way street, plus people can lose interest. Never go into a union expecting perfection and that you will be with the same person forever even if the person gives you that confidence in them. You put in the efforts believing in the success of the life you share with your spouse but also expect anything can happen. People aren't meant to worship a lifestyle, a person, or an object.

Be good but also be rational about everything.

I would say. Each to its own. Whatever makes two parties happy then why not? I hear you tho. You did make valid point.

 

[BestCaseScenario]

I would say. Each to its own. Whatever makes two parties happy then why not? I hear you tho. You did make valid point.

When you are young, you think you can conquer the world and that is good. Your parents will be proud if you bring home someone decent they can trust your life with. I am sure they would not object to your choice provided they can feel secure about your future with your choice.

With that said, there is nothing wrong with your relatives taking the initiative and suggest to you someone they find decent and good for you. You make the choice ultimately, but their suggestion would be borne out of love for you, not the other way around.

You have all the time in the world now to find a suitable man for yourself, so, I would say no worries. May you find the man of your dreams hoping those dreams are reasonable.

 

[Hades]

There's no right answer, arranged marriages work for some & doesn't for others. As long as it isn't forced I see no issues.

 

[Sucaad]

When you are young, you think you can conquer the world and that is good. Your parents will be proud if you bring home someone decent they can trust your life with. I am sure they would not object to your choice provided they can feel secure about your future with your choice.

With that said, there is nothing wrong with your relatives taking the initiative and suggest to you someone they find decent and good for you. You make the choice ultimately, but their suggestion would be borne out of love for you, not the other way around.

You have all the time in the world now to find a suitable man for yourself, so, I would say no worries. May you find the man of your dreams hoping those dreams are reasonable.

Somalis would say woman who pass the age of 25 and still single. Is expired.
Thank you again walaalo. You are far too kind and likewise