Virgin or not

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I know someone personally who's came out to me and said they were drunk and were taken advantage of by two guys she's been in a relationship with at separate times.

She still considers herself as a virgin but I don't want to say she's not or she will get upset.

Do you agree she's still a virgin?

 

[Drago]

 

[JewhanOmar]

Depends on whether she was penetrated or not

The back door, not the front. They were friends so they wouldn't steal her virginity

 

[Drago]

Depends on whether she was penetrated or not

implied with the drinking since purity in all other forms isnt really on the table

 

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Depends on whether she was penetrated or not

She says it was against her will and she was out right drunk and is in denial it even happened .

 

[JewhanOmar]

she put herself in a situation where she could be taken advantage of.

If I was a women, and went to male friends house and I got drunk, If I get raped by him, its my fault. I will even go further to say that I wanted it, If I visited another mans house and got drunk and get raped again.

 

[Drago]

she put herself in a situation where she could be taken advantage of.

If I was a women, and went to male friends house and I got drunk, If I get raped by him, its my fault. I will even go further to say that I wanted it, If I visited another mans house and got drunk and get raped again.

If you are in a relationship with someone and are under the influence all your defences are down

 

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she put herself in a situation where she could be taken advantage of.

If I was a women, and went to male friends house and I got drunk, If I get raped by him, its my fault. I will even go further to say that I wanted it, If I visited another mans house and got drunk and get raped again.

She was in a relationship with both guys so she knew what would happen once she got drunk.she remembers it vaguely.

 

[JewhanOmar]

If you are in a relationship with someone and are under the influence all your defences are down

Never trust a man, I will put my stick on anything that resembles a hole. We are dogs, and not the sweet ones.

 

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She's a smart girl too I don't know why she put herself In these situations.

 

[Drago]

Never trust a man, I will put my stick on anything that resembles a hole. We are dogs, and not the sweet ones.

This is true in a sense
But if they were already in a relationship both of them should have brought up the scenario of what happens when drunk
And im surprised she didnt before the second time
Guys dont mind if you are easy or throw yourself at them when drunk

 

[psyche]

She's a smart girl too I don't know why she put herself In these situations.

Smart =/= wise

As a young woman she must of still been naive and innocent which allowed these men to take advantage of her.

I just hope that she doesn't claim that she is a virgin and decieves her future husband (if she is Muslim)

 

[Miro]

She says it was against her will and she was out right drunk and is in denial it even happened .

The truth is that she's no longer a virgin whether she denies it or not, but if she is clean of STDs, then denying that ever happened to her isn't such a bad thing. It's probably good for her psyche. Living in denial isn't so bad either and virginity is dumb anyways

But like @JewhanOmar said, she was fully responsible for putting herself in position to be taken advantage of, and she needs to be careful around men from now.

Men truly are dogs

 

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Smart =/= wise

As a young woman she must of still been naive and innocent which allowed these men to take advantage of her.

She said she has learned from her mistake and will only be in a relationship with someone who would stay with her in the long run.

 

[Macalin M]

Two bodies and she’s calling herself a virgin

 

[Drago]

you cant reseal this package but you can drop the devil's nectar

 

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She seems like a innocent girl , she suddenly felt comfortable telling me some of her confessions. I've known her for only a year from uni.

 

[psyche]

She said she has learned from her mistake and will only be in a relationship with someone who would stay with her in the long run.

I'm not into victim-blaming but the literal meaning of a virgin is one who hasn't had sexual intercourse before.

This story honestly seems very rapey and I suggest that you support her since she opened up to you.

And if it makes her feel better then yes she can regard herself as spiritually still a virgin.

 

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I'm not into victim-blaming but the literal meaning of a virgin is one who hasn't had sexual intercourse before.

This story honestly seems very rapey and I suggest that you support her since she opened up to you.

And if it makes her feel better then yes she can regard herself as spiritually still a virgin.

I feel like she's low-key is going through trauma, because she randomly brought it up to me and said she's only ever open up to me about this. I said in my eyes your still a virgin to keep her from victim blaming herself.

 

[Juke]

She seems like a innocent girl , she suddenly felt comfortable telling me some of her confessions. I've known her for only a year from uni.

"Innocent"? She voluntarily drinks alcohol and has relationships in uni.