Unsolicited Dating Advice: Don't GHOST

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Something I noticed in the modern dating world, is when people decide to ghost people, instead of communicating effectively, and saying 'hey, it was nice to meet you/get to know you, but I think we're on different pages, but I wish the best for you, will pray for you and take care'.
Some of you, unknowingly, have ruined your reputations, by being a poor communicator. Every person you ghost, has god knows how many friends and relatives. Even if you're inherently a selfish person, at least be smart about guarding your name. You only have one name and one reputation in this world.

When you end a relationship on a good note, the person you ended it with, may even recommend you to other people, and open you up to many other people. Learn how to navigate the dating world with class.

Also, dadka ishooda iska ilaaliya.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I remember in my single days, speaking to a man I was convinced was a chauvinist, so when I said 'no thanks abowe', he was gracious about it, and for that, I had respect for him. Guess what? Several ladies I know, spoke to him after me and had the same thing to say; chauvinist, but honest about it, and polite.

So that was his reputation. We all have reputations, whether we like it or not.

Don't ghost, don't do the slow fade either, man up, woman up, be firm, direct and very polite/friendly about the exit strategy.

 

[wonyluvr]

you heard her DONT GHOST

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

you heard her DONT GHOST

You know what might be worse than ghosting low-key, people that do the slow fade. I saw my brother doing it to a girl and had to cuss him out. It's so selfish, and they do it because they don't want to 'hurt feelings', meanwhile they are wasting someone's precious time.

 

[Hared]

There is a difference between ghosting and communicating in silence. Communicating in silence is a form of speech that can speak volumes and is usually used in non casual relationships. Ghosting can only apply in a casual encounter before a relationship develops into something further.

 

[Interested]

Right.

Also slowly cutting communication with someone who is oblivious is more painful than ghosting.

I wear my heart on my sleeve, that's why I avoid attachments that obviously go no where.

 

[_Yusuf_]

I remember in my single days, speaking to a man I was convinced was a chauvinist, so when I said 'no thanks abowe', he was gracious about it, and for that, I had respect for him. Guess what? Several ladies I know, spoke to him after me and had the same thing to say; chauvinist, but honest about it, and polite.

So that was his reputation. We all have reputations, whether we like it or not.

Don't ghost, don't do the slow fade either, man up, woman up, be firm, direct and very polite/friendly about the exit strategy.

What did he say that lead you to that conclusion? I’m curious!

 

[Shimbiris]

"will pray for you"

I would be livid. , I don't need your goddamn prayers. f*ck you saying? Something wrong with me? Abaha wasse. Okay... too much passion, sorry.

 

[empressjamila]

The reason why ghosting has become so common is because of the popularity of online dating.

Unless they’re really bila xishood, most people would not ghost a person that was recommended to them by a friend or family member as that will come back to bite them. But online dating on the other hand has bred an environment of zero accountability. There’s no incentive to behave respectfully if you do not run in the same circles and have no mutuals, you will never see them again.

 

[trucel]

Ghosting is a sign of immaturity imo

 

[Yaraye]

There is a difference between ghosting and communicating in silence. Communicating in silence is a form of speech that can speak volumes and is usually used in non casual relationships. Ghosting can only apply in a casual encounter before a relationship develops into something further.

tf is communicating in silence?! the two ward are contradictory in itself!

 

[xxx_newacc]

tf is communicating in silence?! the two ward are contradictory in itself!

“Ward” sis . You and @Hared:

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

What did he say that lead you to that conclusion? I’m curious!

This man didn't believe a father should bathe his children, do their hair etc. He wanted some weird Cadaan 1950's sexist parenting, where he comes home from work, and at most, does the homework with the children.

Imagine how that man would behave if his wife died.

 

[Basra]

Something I noticed in the modern dating world, is when people decide to ghost people, instead of communicating effectively, and saying 'hey, it was nice to meet you/get to know you, but I think we're on different pages, but I wish the best for you, will pray for you and take care'.
Some of you, unknowingly, have ruined your reputations, by being a poor communicator. Every person you ghost, has god knows how many friends and relatives. Even if you're inherently a selfish person, at least be smart about guarding your name. You only have one name and one reputation in this world.

When you end a relationship on a good note, the person you ended it with, may even recommend you to other people, and open you up to many other people. Learn how to navigate the dating world with class.

Also, dadka ishooda iska ilaaliya.

I am so glad the person ghosted YOU walaahi. U sound like some work. U expect personal relationship to happen just like your HR job???? I demand two weeks notice if you want a good reference. Seriously????

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

This man didn't believe a father should bathe his children, do their hair etc. He wanted some weird Cadaan 1950's sexist parenting, where he comes home from work, and at most, does the homework with the children.

Imagine how that man would behave if his wife died.

What if he could afford an au pair, and just wanted you to look primed for garden parties?

 

[Sophisticate]

No man will provide you with a reference like a former co-worker. To someone more suitable, be it more compatible in certain characteristics (clan, similar upbringing, personality and outlook) or higher in attractiveness, education, income or piety.

 

[Yaraye]

“Ward” sis . You and @Hared:

*words

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

No man will provide you with a reference like a former co-worker. To someone more suitable, be it more compatible in certain characteristics (clan, similar upbringing, personality and outlook) or higher in attractiveness, education, income or piety.

Actually, it does happen amongst mates, and more often than you might think, where if one knows a demure lady, say at work, but one is the paramour type, and has a mate who is of the same as her, then one definitely would think of matching the two.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

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Basra,

I thought you had good reading comprehension, did I say I was ghosted?? All those Jane Austen books, but you're acting illiterate. What a shame!

 

[Macawisley]

Thank you for this advice, noted.