Today I was insulted beyond return

[Hybrid()]

I came back from Istanbul a few weeks ago myself and tbh the situation there is less than ideal for foreigners. Yes, people can live there and the quality of life is not terrible but the Turks don't treat foreigners with respect generally.

I heard this from multiple people who actually live there and I met a Somali girl who studies there and said she can't wait to leave the country after her studies.

Somalis always stick out because of their horrible dress code and annoying culture. I won't tolerate any of that in my home. My family will be upper class and behave like one in turkey. My wife will have to unexceptionally do away with her fobish culture.
This is how my wife will have to dress

if she can't dress and behave like a civilized person then I'll send her ass back to hargeisa

 

[Shimbiris]

Somalis always stick out because of their horrible dress code and annoying culture. I won't tolerate any of that in my home. My family will be upper class and behave like one in turkey. My wife will have to unexceptionally do away with her fobish culture.
This is how my wife will have to dress

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if she can't dress and behave like a civilized person then I'll send her ass back to hargeisa

I honestly wanna witness this. Bringing some essentially country bumpkin from Somaliweyn over to the west and making her westernize to that extent. Should be interesting stuff.

 

[anonimo]

Somalis always stick out because of their horrible dress code and annoying culture. I won't tolerate any of that in my home. My family will be upper class and behave like one in turkey. My wife will have to unexceptionally do away with her fobish culture.
This is how my wife will have to dress

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if she can't dress and behave like a civilized person then I'll send her ass back to hargeisa

Yo, are you gonna tutor her on asphyxiation too?

 

[Hybrid()]

I honestly wanna witness this. Bringing some essentially country bumpkin from Somaliweyn over to the west and making her westernize to that extent. Should be interesting stuff.

Somalis were unlucky to adopt a civilized culture due to the civil war and the fact that they're homogeneous people doesn't help either. That's why it's so surprising to see a civilized fob but it wouldn't be the case had the civil war not occur.
Hopefully it wouldn't take her too long to adapt as she's a fast learner. She had the second highest score in her high school exit exam in the entire city of hargeisa. Her IQ is probably closer to genius level.

 

[Angelina]

Somalis always stick out because of their horrible dress code and annoying culture. I won't tolerate any of that in my home. My family will be upper class and behave like one in turkey. My wife will have to unexceptionally do away with her fobish culture.
This is how my wife will have to dress

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if she can't dress and behave like a civilized person then I'll send her ass back to hargeisa

You want a girl raised wearing a jilbab, not even just a headscarf to start dressing like that? Why bother with someone from back home then lol?

 

[Hybrid()]

You want a girl raised wearing a jilbab, not even just a headscarf to start dressing like that? Why bother with someone from back home then lol?

People from back home are in touch with their Somali roots. They were just unfortunate to be plagued with civil war and poverty hence why they don't have a civilized culture.

 

[Angelina]

People from back home are in touch with their Somali roots. They were just unfortunate to be plagued with civil war and poverty hence why they don't have a civilized culture.

Lol that isn't my point. Why bother with someone who doesn't dress or have your mentality? Even many Somali girls in the West wouldn't feel comfortable wearing tight trousers, so why would a girl raised wearing a jilbab, who has never seen people in her country dress like that?

 

[Hybrid()]

Lol that isn't my point. Why bother with someone who doesn't dress or have your mentality? Even many Somali girls in the West wouldn't feel comfortable wearing tight trousers, so why would a girl raised wearing a jilbab, who has never seen people in her country dress like that?

because being able to dress differently isn't rocket science. I told her about how she'll have to dress by being with me and she agreed.
Why would it be unusual for a fob to dress like a Westerner when their grandmothers used to dress like this pre civil war

 

[anonimo]

Somalis always stick out because of their horrible dress code and annoying culture. I won't tolerate any of that in my home. My family will be upper class and behave like one in turkey. My wife will have to unexceptionally do away with her fobish culture.
This is how my wife will have to dress

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if she can't dress and behave like a civilized person then I'll send her ass back to hargeisa

Jokes aside.

If that's your thing, Get a Khaleeji Somali, the type that have been there for a generation or two. You will find many of them are keen on Westernised clothing and ditching the Abaya.

I don't know why you think that clothing is a civilisation determiner. If she in Turkey, she can dress modestly without the need to ape Cadaans.

You are conflicted bro between maintaining your Somali identity and a liberal bias at a time when Orthodox Islam dominates back home. Can't have your cake and eat it necessarily. Sumfin's gotta give.

 

[Hybrid()]

Jokes aside.

If that's your thing, Get a Khaleeji Somali, the type that have been there for a generation or two. You will find many of them are keen on Westernised clothing and ditching the Abaya.

I don't know why you think that clothing is a civilisation determiner. If she in Turkey, she can dress modestly without the need to ape Cadaans.

You are conflicted bro between maintaining your Somali identity and a liberal bias at a time when Conservatism dominates back home. Can't have your cake and eat it necessarily. Sumfin's gotta give.

I actually like gulf xalimos style and personality even though I was warned by my mother that they're too high maintenance.
The way Somali fobs dress is utterly ugly and should be cancelled. I don't mind my wife wearing the black abaaya when praying or going to cultural ceremonies but other than that she'll wear what I like her to wear or else she can go back home

 

[anonimo]

I actually like gulf xalimos style and personality even though I was warned by my mother that they're too high maintenance.
The way Somali fobs dress is utterly ugly and should be cancelled. I don't mind my wife wearing the black abaaya when praying or going to cultural ceremonies but other than that she'll wear what I like her to wear or else she can go back home

You can't have it all man.

You are also forgetting she is a human being with her own cultural bias. Might develop mental health issues if you enforce change that goes against her values. You are not buying a Doll that you can dress according to your fancy.

If her family is conservative, this could also cause issues for you if they think their daughter is being Islamically and culturally abused.

I get you value your Somali identity but it is interlinked with the Islamic values of Hijab. A Xalimo from back home will naturally be more attached to it. Shop elsewhere and accept that you are more a product of the Western society that you consider more civilised than the one you were born into regarding certain cultural practices. Basically, get a Westernised Xalimo that is partially Somali culture wise. Hard combo to find though.

Naftada Beenta Ka Daa!

 

[Shimbiris]

I actually like gulf xalimos style and personality even though I was warned by my mother that they're too high maintenance.
The way Somali fobs dress is utterly ugly and should be cancelled. I don't mind my wife wearing the black abaaya when praying or going to cultural ceremonies but other than that she'll wear what I like her to wear or else she can go back home

You should judge all prospective partners on a case by case basis but your hooyo isn't wrong that Khaleeji Somali women are "high maintenance". A lot of reer Khaleej families are rich or upper-middle class and living standards in the Khaleej generally surpass the west even for the Middle-class like housekeepers being a regular occurrence. Chances are your wife to be will be used to housekeepers, ordering pretty much everything over grocery shopping herself and overall luxury when going out to restaurants and cafes that sometimes borders on opulence. But most Khaleeji girls are also very well educated and there are plenty who, despite the comfort they grew up in, had good hooyos who taught them life skills like cooking and cleaning up after themselves.

 

[Angelina]

I actually like gulf xalimos style and personality even though I was warned by my mother that they're too high maintenance.
The way Somali fobs dress is utterly ugly and should be cancelled. I don't mind my wife wearing the black abaaya when praying or going to cultural ceremonies but other than that she'll wear what I like her to wear or else she can go back home

Abayas are classy, especially Khaleeji style:

 

[Shimbiris]

You can't have it all man.

You are also forgetting she is a human being with her own cultural bias. Might develop mental health issues if you enforce change that goes against her values. You are not buying a Doll that you can dress according to your fancy.

If her family is conservative, this could also cause issues for you if they think their daughter is being Islamically and culturally abused.

I get you value your Somali identity but it is interlinked with the Islamic values of Hijab. A Xalimo from back home will naturally be more attached to it. Shop elsewhere and accept that you are more a product of the Western society that you consider more civilised than the one you were born into regarding certain cultural practices. Basically, get a Westernised Xalimo that is partially Somali culture wise. Hard combo to find though.

Naftada Beenta Ka Daa!

Yeah, I picture her family saying he's making her "gaal" and it stirring up a lot of unneeded drama and stress for the poor girl.

 

[Angelina]

You should judge all prospective partners on a case by case basis but your hooyo isn't wrong that Khaleeji Somali women are "high maintenance". A lot of reer Khaleej families are rich or upper-middle class and living standards in the Khaleej generally surpass the west even for the Middle-class like housekeepers being a regular occurrence. Chances are your wife to be will be used to housekeepers, ordering pretty much everything over grocery shopping herself and overall luxury when going out to restaurants and cafes that sometimes borders on opulence. But most Khaleeji girls are also very well educated and there are plenty who, despite the comfort they grew up in, had good hooyos who taught them life skills like cooking and cleaning up after themselves.

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[anonimo]

Yeah, I picture her family saying he's making her "gaal" and it stirring up a lot of unneeded drama and stress for the poor girl.

Let us keep it real, it will be half true.

No offense meant Hybrid but it is the truth, you wanna look in the mirror when you stare at your wife.
I can imagine you saying:

Huuno, Corsetkan Xiiro, Cawada Waa Bashalena!

 

[Hybrid()]

You can't have it all man.

You are also forgetting she is a human being with her own cultural bias. Might develop mental health issues if you enforce change that goes against her values. You are not buying a Doll that you can dress according to your fancy.

If her family is conservative, this could also cause issues for you if they think their daughter is being Islamically and culturally abused.

I get you value your Somali identity but it is interlinked with the Islamic values of Hijab. A Xalimo from back home will naturally be more attached to it. Shop elsewhere and accept that you are more a product of the Western society that you consider more civilised than the one you were born into regarding certain cultural practices. Basically, get a Westernised Xalimo that is partially Somali culture wise. Hard combo to find though.

Naftada Beenta Ka Daa!

Some xalimos end up staying with abusive husbands others end up being impoverished by their jobless husband. Yes you can't have it all that's why I gave her an obtion. She can either accept it or go on her way. I'm generous enough to buy her a luxurious lifestyle and honest enough to let her know of my intentions. It can't get any better than this for a miskiin xalimo.

Yeah, I picture her family saying he's making her "gaal" and it stirring up a lot of unneeded drama and stress for the poor girl.

Lol she'll be under my orders once I marry her and her family knows that. Besides her family are extremely happy an American is willing to marry their daughter

 

[Angelina]

Some xalimos end up staying with abusive husbands others end up being impoverished by their jobless husband. Yes you can't have it all that's why I gave her an obtion. She can either accept it or go on her way. I'm generous enough to buy her a luxurious lifestyle and honest enough to let her know of my intentions. It can't get any better than this for a miskiin xalimo.

Lol she'll be under my orders once I marry her and her family knows that. Besides her family are extremely happy an American is willing to marry their daughter

Bits in bold are depressing. I really feel for Somali women back home and to think Faraxs here like to compare us. Imagine the power rush Western Faraxs feel knowing they can change their lives.

 

[Hybrid()]

Let us keep it real, it will be half true.

No offense meant Hybrid but it is the truth, you wanna look in the mirror when you stare at your wife.
I can imagine you saying:

Huuno, Corsetkan Xiiro, Cawada Waa Bashalena!

lol I'm a fob myself, not your average western Farah. I know how to put women in their place

 

[Angelina]

lol I'm a fob myself, not your average western Farah. I know how to put women in their place

No, only ones entirely dependent on you. Try telling a Western practising hijabi to wear tight trousers and she'll laugh in your face. She doesn't need you and is most likely financially independent.

For your wife to be, it's a test. Either the pleasures of the dunya (potential passport, lifestyle upgrade ect) vs Akhhira.

And you, for someone that supposedly values 'Somali dhaqan', then please understand that Islam is a big part and Muslim women should wear hijab. If you have issues with Somali attire, then there are classy modest alternatives. In fact Turkey has a lot of amazing stylish hijabi brands.