the somali marriage system is designed to fail

[Hassan mahat]

how can you marry someone you didn't even dated? seriously, i will have to to be in a gf and boyfriend relationship for about 4 years before thinking about marriage. rushing into marriage is one of the reasons the somali divorce rate is high.

finally, how can you marry someone without sleeping with them first?

 

[Alluring]

Your title is correct.

Your reasoning is wrong.

 

[gbrlax3]

how can you marry someone you didn't even dated? seriously, i will have to to be in a gf and boyfriend relationship for about 4 years before thinking about marriage. rushing into marriage is one of the reasons the somali divorce rate is high.

finally, how can you marry someone without sleeping with them first?

marriage will work inshAllah if the woman puts good effort in

 

[Never Broke Again]

i see my noga

how can you marry someone you didn't even dated? seriously, i will have to to be in a gf and boyfriend relationship for about 4 years before thinking about marriage. rushing into marriage is one of the reasons the somali divorce rate is high.

finally, how can you marry someone without sleeping with them first?

your back! we'll I guess my negotiation with @Admin worked

 

[Never Broke Again]

how can you marry someone you didn't even dated? seriously, i will have to to be in a gf and boyfriend relationship for about 4 years before thinking about marriage. rushing into marriage is one of the reasons the somali divorce rate is high.

finally, how can you marry someone without sleeping with them first?

no, you learn about each other while married. the divorce is in sky-high in the west because people marry someone they know for 6 years+ and get bored in the relationship because they already know everything about each other.

 

[Epi]

how can you marry someone you didn't even dated? seriously, i will have to to be in a gf and boyfriend relationship for about 4 years before thinking about marriage. rushing into marriage is one of the reasons the somali divorce rate is high.

finally, how can you marry someone without sleeping with them first?

There’s no way you’re a Muslim at this point.

 

[Villainess]

There’s no way you’re a Muslim at this point.

lol we established that a long time ago

 

[Mercury]

how can you marry someone you didn't even dated? seriously, i will have to to be in a gf and boyfriend relationship for about 4 years before thinking about marriage. rushing into marriage is one of the reasons the somali divorce rate is high.

finally, how can you marry someone without sleeping with them first?

Youre clearly have no clue about islam and marriage if you did you would know why bf/gf relationship is haram and you would know that Islam cares about the rights of men/women and protecting the family unit being in a bf/gf relationship is a waste of time

 

[Hassan mahat]

Youre clearly have no clue about islam and marriage if you did you would know why bf/gf relationship is haram and you would know that Islam cares about the rights of men/women and protecting the family unit being in a bf/gf relationship is a waste of time

having a close relationship before marriage such as bf/gf is way better than marrying someone you didn't even spend one night with.

 

[Amal Hassan]

how can you marry someone you didn't even dated? seriously, i will have to to be in a gf and boyfriend relationship for about 4 years before thinking about marriage. rushing into marriage is one of the reasons the somali divorce rate is high.

finally, how can you marry someone without sleeping with them first?

You can experiment during marriage nooh. Also you can ask for n00des if you’re THAT desperate before marriage (I would cancel a Muslim man for this). & you usually know if someone has potential in the first 6 months otherwise Muslims really get to the point instead of wasting time

 

[Mercury]

having a close relationship before marriage such as bf/gf is way better than marrying someone you didn't even spend one night with.

You can get to know someone you been talking to than see if you share similiar views and values than get married no need to be in a bf/gf relationship

 

[Boogie]

Back then they didn't really care if she was not ugly and could make kids boom marriage loool

 

[J-Rasta]

I was about to agree with your title , man, but nah I have to strongly disagree with this one , this is out of context.

Gf and bf relationship doesn't work in a Muslim household.
Dating is haraam and not permissible in Islam.
Having sex before marriage is unislamic.
You can't compare a gf relationship with marriage done according to the jurisprudence , they're too different.

I'm still puzzled by your remarks, sxb
Not trying to be judgemental but this isn't what a Muslim would encourage, say or condone these sort of activities in public , even if they sin they'd repent, I don't judge who ever is affiliated with theism or irreligious , but weigh your words carefully as there are many close minded people who are eager to label you an apostate , you should not bring this up , I'm starting to question wether your threads are sincere or you just make the lives of irreligious Somalis harder.
If this is true then , then reer Waaq will wage a fatwa a holy war that you will you run to a bar mitzvah and join the Israelites .
Jk but please do not tarnish the reputation of the voiceless minorities.

Somalis however have higher divorce rates than any ethnicity due to the different circumstances , I'm talking both the diasporans and the ones at home , it has something to do with the couples themselves , perhaps it's their relationship falling apart and deteriorating , or they were too young to jump into marriage hence the ups/downs really took a toll on their relationship hence they seperated.
It is basically their issues that lead to this.
But there are good suggestions, that they should consult a therapeutic professional which is highly advisable.

 

[Juliet]

Sex isn’t really hard to learn, so i guess most Somalis prefer saving themselves for marriage, especially girls, because virginity is valued a lot more in girls

 

[Distant1]

Youre clearly have no clue about islam and marriage if you did you would know why bf/gf relationship is haram and you would know that Islam cares about the rights of men/women and protecting the family unit being in a bf/gf relationship is a waste of time

But wouldn’t you like to have a gf if your weren’t Muslim?

 

[Abu_Adnan]

"The [unmarried] woman or [unmarried] man found guilty of sexual intercourse1 - lash each one of them with a hundred lashes,2 and do not be taken by pity for them in the religion [i.e., law] of Allah,3 if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a group of the believers witness their punishment." Surah an-Nur 24:2

 

[Basra]

how can you marry someone you didn't even dated? seriously, i will have to to be in a gf and boyfriend relationship for about 4 years before thinking about marriage. rushing into marriage is one of the reasons the somali divorce rate is high.

finally, how can you marry someone without sleeping with them first?

Shuquul gaalo. How many of your ex girl friends have u married? Exactly


If u get the cow's free milk, whats the point of buying the cow?