I see, he overlooked your comment, maybe there is some truth to it afterall :siilaanyosmile:
what do you mean? the bums who live at home and don't contribute? while I've seen many somalis like that, most somali men i know (those related to me and friends) are pretty well educated or currently in school. if you look hard enough you'll find it.
"chose to spend her life with a Somali man" so there aren't any somali men in america? and what does her education have to do with her making a stupid mistake? a career is EVERYTHING if you chose to go through university and get an education. if you wanted to spend your life in the kitchen you'd save yourself the thousands you spent on a degree that wont be used. just my opinion.
Not good to generalize.
where in the west are you from? and was your mother a housewife?
I think my name is pretty self explanatory.
the reason i brought up your mother is because a lot of somali men who were raised by housewives want the same for their own children. its only natural to look for a woman like your mom who will raise your kids like you were raised. my posts were specifically for somali women because we get the short end of the stick. i know a somali fob man who married a young women form canada and had kids. at first they were both working the woman had a successful business while the guy was a taxi driver. she obviously made way more money then he did (ofcourse a business degree helped), so he decided to quit. they had a total of 5 kids. 3 of them were still very young. you would think that since he was jobless he would stay and care for the kids. but instead he went to go fadhu ku dirir (talk about qabil) with his friends. this poor girl spent all day working while her mom baby sat and then came home to cook, clean and put the kids to bed. he doesn't come home till late at night and gets angry when she doesn't make him dinner. that type of reality would not be faced by you had you married a fob from somalia since your a man. sure not everyone is the same, but the general belief that woman are the keepers of the home while only men are the bread winners is rampant.
Men back home are hard workers and the epitome of what it means to be a man. The ones here waa la kibriyay. A lot of them are bums. Drug dealers, no job, terrorists, in jail, dead. They don't even pull their weight when it comes to contributing to the household. At least a man back home will work hard and contribute, he doesn't want you to work too much because he thinks that's a mans job but will quickly realize that both must work because with the cost of living it's simply not feasible. If you raise your son to be responsible and hard working then good but the only difference between qurba joog iyo kuwi wadanka jooga is opportunity.
A guy I know spend 6 years trying to bring her to America. He used huge quantity of dollars on her over the years by supporting her while she was just having the time of her life in East Africa.
Finally they were allowed to reunite. He got her a nice furniture and an apartment.
Just after a month the news broke that she wanted out. He first called old ladies to mediate. This chick went for his jugular by announcing before the old ladies that homeboy was impotentOld ladies are known not to keep quite and so word spread like a wild fire.
Dude lost 40 pounds in just 2 months.
He argued that she wouldn't let him hit it because she was closed up but it turns out that she was using this as an excuse so that he won't attempt.
He divorced her and his family came to the rescue after seeing that their son was on the verge of madness from city gossip. His manhood was getting challenged. So the family send out a May Day to fell tribesmen to find a girl to take it for the tribe. So a girl stepped up and stated one condition. She said " if he is impotent as the other chick said then I can't be liable " and the tribe agreed. The family went out of their way to throw a massive wedding and then everyone held their breath for 2 months. Then it was announced that he got her pregnant and he was exonerated.
horta why do women attack the man's raganimo when they want out? Why do men hold on to women who ask for a divorce ?
