Talking on the phone in front of family

[Sumaaya]

Can you answer the phone/have a brief conversation with the opposite gender in front of your family members?

I've always struggled with this, I honestly can't do it, I know obviously you're not talking about anything bad but I get overwhelmed with this awkward shyness and I feel like whatever family member is next to me can sense I'm talking to the opposite gender by the tone of my voice

Naturally I think your voice changes when you're talking to the opposite gender or someone you like, right?

How can this Faarax say to me "Ma shan jir ba tahay marka telefonka qaban kari waydid marka lagu ag joogo"

 

[Sumaaya]

No, I'm not 5 years old, I'm just shy!

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

Never answered a Phone call from the opposite Sex in presents of parents
My mum Always used to Peek on my Phone when I was on my Phone in the living room and saw once that I was chatting with a Girl she nearly fainted and Said she was very dissapointed

 

[Hali]

He’s brave

 

[Sumaaya]

He’s brave

Somaha, af Somali ba laygu barbaranaya

 

[Sumaaya]

Never answered a Phone call from the opposite Sex in presents of parents
My mum Always used to Peek on my Phone when I was on my Phone in the living room and saw once that I was chatting with a Girl she nearly fainted and Said she was very dissapointed

There was one time my dad caught on the phone, I don't know if he was listening in but he went in on me, I was like aabo cidna laman hadlayn

 

[Sumaaya]

My sister can talk to her Male friends in front of us, no problem. She even has this one khaniis friend she has been friends with for yrs, he's a really nice guy tho (may Allah guide Him to the haq) one day when my sister was sick, he came to the house with some flowers, my niece opened the door and she was like "Samira, nin cad ba ku doonaya oo flowers wada" with this expression on her face

 

[Nåture]

Can you answer the phone/have a brief conversation with the opposite gender in front of your family members?

I've always struggled with this, I honestly can't do it, I know obviously you're not talking about anything bad but I get overwhelmed with this awkward shyness and I feel like whatever family member is next to me can sense I'm talking to the opposite gender by the tone of my voice

Naturally I think your voice changes when you're talking to the opposite gender or someone you like, right?

How can this Faarax say to me "Ma shan jir ba tahay marka telefonka qaban kari waydid marka lagu ag joogo"

Yeah
Whenever a girl phones me infront of family especially whilst I’m on a car, I would always steer the convo to an appropriate topic or just tell them to cal me back
I also make it look like I’m talking to a guy and call her Jaamac or abdi or something

Me - “My long lost brother Jaamac, where have you been hiding bro”

Her - “ who the hell is Jaamac”

 

[Sumaaya]

Yeah
Whenever a girl phones me infront of family especially whilst I’m on a car, I would always steer the convo to an appropriate topic or just tell them to cal me back
I also make it look like I’m talking to a guy and call her Jaamac or abdi or something

Me - “My long lost brother Jaamac, where have you been hiding bro”

Her - “ who the hell is Jaamac”

You is smart!

 

[QueenofKings]

Can you answer the phone/have a brief conversation with the opposite gender in front of your family members?

I've always struggled with this, I honestly can't do it, I know obviously you're not talking about anything bad but I get overwhelmed with this awkward shyness and I feel like whatever family member is next to me can sense I'm talking to the opposite gender by the tone of my voice

Naturally I think your voice changes when you're talking to the opposite gender or someone you like, right?

How can this Faarax say to me "Ma shan jir ba tahay marka telefonka qaban kari waydid marka lagu ag joogo"

If you’re like 16-18 I get it. But if you’re older I think it’s calm.

Before I got married, I spoke to my husband all the time, both of our families knew we were dating.

I understand the shyness though I felt like that at the start, but if you’re not doing anything wrong there’s nothing to feel ashamed of. And it’s actually a relief/helpful if everyone knows what’s up, example my sister/Hooyo could give me sensible relationship advice and how to handle my ( then future) in laws, and set healthy expectations.

 

[Sumaaya]

If you’re like 16-18 I get it. But if you’re older I think it’s calm.

Before I got married, I spoke to my husband all the time, both of our families knew we were dating.

I understand the shyness though I felt like that at the start, but if you’re not doing anything wrong there’s nothing to feel ashamed of. And it’s actually a relief/helpful if everyone knows what’s up, example my sister/Hooyo could give me sensible relationship advice and how to handle my ( then future) in laws, and set healthy expectations.

You are married? Allahumbarik sis! Judging from your posts you seem like a sweet, level headed person, MashAllah your husband is lucky to have you huuno❤

 

[Sloane Ranger]

Its so weird. I dont known anyone that would want to have their parents witness them doing shuukansi. I wouldn't even answer if I am in the same room as them. I will leave first then talk lol.

But people back home are different. Faraxs will go to a chicks house and chat her up in front of the whole family.

 

[Sumaaya]

Its so weird. I dont known anyone that would want to have their parents witness them doing shuukansi. I wouldn't even answer if I am in the same room as them. I will leave first then talk lol.

But people back home are different. Faraxs will go to a chicks house and chat her up in front of the whole family.

Okay can you answer the phone even if it's just a Male FRIEND?

 

[Sloane Ranger]

Okay can you answer the phone even if it's just a Male FRIEND?

No I'd feel too shy talking to guys in front of the family. I do in front of my my sisters and will talk about it later with hooyo. She's very chilled and always advises me on how to navigate this. But no way in hell would I do that around my dad or brothers.

 

[QueenofKings]

You are married? Allahumbarik sis! Judging from your posts you seem like a sweet, level headed person, MashAllah your husband is lucky to have you huuno❤

Thanks sis, that’s very kind

 

[Sumaaya]

No I'd feel too shy talking to guys in front of the family. I do in front of my my sisters and will talk about it later with hooyo. She's very chilled and always advises me on how to navigate this. But no way in hell would I do that around my dad or brothers.

We have the same issue, I guess labadeenu ba shan jir ban nahay

 

[Mercury]

I don't like talking on the phone but when I was dating and I get a call while with family id talk to them like they're family "haa walalo" "may walalo" "5 min yara sug walal"

I just avoid sweet talking on the phone when family present "huuno macaane" "qaali"

 

[Nåture]

Its so weird. I dont known anyone that would want to have their parents witness them doing shuukansi. I wouldn't even answer if I am in the same room as them. I will leave first then talk lol.

But people back home are different. Faraxs will go to a chicks house and chat her up in front of the whole family.

Farax - Ha eedo macaan, gabadhada waa qof fiican weena qurux badantahy mashallah

You -

 

[Mercury]

this one time when I was eating dinner with my family this girl I was talking on the phone with out of nowhere says hey my hooyo is here next to me talk to her I was thinking what am I gonna say to her mom? I didnt wanna look like a fulay So I talked with her mom

I changed the topic from her daughter to politics cause I know every somali parent love talking about that than she said

"eedo malaha hadalka waan kugu dherayay"?

finally

I told her maya waa caadi
than she gave the phone back to her daughter and I could hear the mom in the background saying shes suprised I could speak somali so well

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

Idk what

this one time when I was eating dinner with my family this girl I was talking on the phone with out of nowhere says hey my hooyo is here next to me talk to her I was thinking what am I gonna say to her mom? I didnt wanna look like a fulay So I talked with her mom

I changed the topic from her daughter to politics cause I know every somali parent love talking about that than she said

"eedo malaha hadalka waan kugu dherayay"?

finally

I told her maya waa caadi
than she gave the phone back to her daughter and I could hear the mom in the background saying shes suprised I could speak somali so well

Bro only my parents understand my broke ass somali