Its a good tradittion. Positive. People sharing food together in sadness. It helps with the sadness. Don't focus on negativity, especially when u r grieving. Instead be unselfish- and stand up- feed them while u r grieving
In other words, @Basra goes to every tacsi in her neighborhood, and expects them to give her her usual big meal. What a confession! It was 1 thing for you to eat a big meal - we're talking about at least 3 big bariis iyo hilib dishes, but it is another level when you demand it from mourners.