You’re using the wrong war for your examples.
1. The Tigray war is being lowballed by you.
Conflict came to an end after two years of fighting and was marked by waves of violence against civilians
www.ft.com
2. SSC civilian deaths decreased considerably once they began their offensive. Tigray war makes it look like nothing, Ethiopia is hell on earth. 6 months of fighting led to the deaths of 15-20’000 SNM. The bulk of those passed away in droves, the only thing I may be doing wrong is not including POW’s, but those that fell in battle are not up for debate. I’m sorry if your reer abti lied to make you feel better, pray at the graves of those that died for your cause to make yourself feel better.