Spend his money and save yours

[Ferrari]

So @TheShinning is only there for the gus?



he pays all bills and helps with the dishes and cooking. what does she bring to the table?

if I was her nigga, I'd say no gus until she started to behave and I'd get me a second wife immediately.


women like her learn the hard way.

 

[Abdalla]

@Abdalla trashed my post, I’m sure his views align with the others here lol don’t know about the other two, I was hoping to hear more from the married men here instead I got the opinions of 35 year olds who are still living at hooyo’s.

I'm conflicted on this one TBH. My mum always advised me to never allow my wife to pay the bills. This is because the female mind is fickle and and she'd treat the house differently if it was co-owned. Whenever there's an argument she'd point out that she pays the bills too. I will pay the bills just to have the control. Whenever I'm about to arrive home from work her friends should flee 'run run Abdalla is coming'.

But I also know that if you treat a an too good, if you spoil her, she'll step on you. Finding the right balance is a life long journey.

Edit:
I see that the topic has been shifted to whether or not should work. I'm pro housewives. Xalimos are not like cadaan women who can work and still maintain a household. They're not build like that.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Helping is ok. Going over board though can be problematic.

 

[East side]

Helping is ok. Going over board though can be problematic.

Thats my view as well. Help but dont go overboard

 

[NotMyL]

I'm conflicted on this one TBH. My mum always advised me to never allow my wife to pay the bills. This is because the female mind is fickle and and she'd treat the house differently if it was co-owned. Whenever there's an argument she'd point out that she pays the bills too. I will pay the bills just to have the control. Whenever I'm about to arrive home from work her friends should flee 'run run Abdalla is coming'.

But I also know that if you treat a an too good, if you spoil her, she'll step on you. Finding the right balance is a life long journey.

Edit:
I see that the topic has been shifted to whether or not should work. I'm pro housewives. Xalimos are not like cadaan women who can work and still maintain a household. They're not build like that.

At least you are honest about your controlling ways. The unnecessary fear that you can’t be too good to your wife, is pathetic and is stemming from a sad place.

 

[Abdalla]

At least you are honest about your controlling ways. The unnecessary fear that you can’t be too good to your wife, is pathetic and is stemming from a sad place.

I don't need a psychoanalysis from the likes of you. You take but hardly give. Aside from not contributing financially, you want your poor Farah to do the dishes. So yes, thanks for proving that spoiling a woman would lead you to a place any man would despise: broke and doing the dishes in an apron.

 

[halwa]

Edit:
I see that the topic has been shifted to whether or not should work. I'm pro housewives. Xalimos are not like cadaan women who can work and still maintain a household. They're not build like that.

I actually gave you a compliment and this is what we get in return.....

I take it back.

 

[Abdalla]

I actually gave you a compliment and this is what we get in return.....

I take it back.

Every man wants to come home to a warm meal and clean house.

 

[halwa]

Every man wants to come home to a warm meal and clean house.

Of course. That is how we were all raised. Man works and wifey ensures that her husband is taken care of and looked after. If she wants to work, then can she can and if they want to help each other out and split everything 50/50, then that is also their choice.


But yes, after a day of work the man needs to come home to a warm meal, clean house and uunsi. That’s her priority as a wife.

 

[NotMyL]

I don't need a psychoanalysis from the likes of you. You take but hardly give. Aside from not contributing financially, you want your poor Farah to do the dishes. So yes, thanks for proving that spoiling a woman would lead you to a place any man would despise: broke and doing the dishes in an apron.

Don’t be sensitive now, no one is “psychoanalyzing” you, I appreciate the fact that you are not hiding behind I know what’s best for my woman so I need to be in control instead you are out there with it. You, like many other men fear if you give too much, she will take it all and leave you with nothing. If you are confident in your relationship and what you bring into it, you should never worry about that imo

 

[Abdalla]

Of course. That is how we were all raised. Man works and wifey ensures that her husband is taken care of and looked after. If she wants to work, then can she can and if they want to help each other out and split everything 50/50, then that is also their choice.


But yes, after a day of work the man needs to come home to a warm meal, clean house and uunsi. That’s her priority as a wife.

You're reasonable.

Don’t be sensitive now, no one is “psychoanalyzing” you, I appreciate the fact that you are not hiding behind I know what’s best for my woman so I need to be in control instead you are out there with it. You, like many other men fear if you give too much, she will take it all and leave you with nothing. If you are confident in your relationship and what you bring into it, you should never worry about that imo

It has nothing to do with insecurities and confidence. It's common sense. You're the living proof of having your cake and eating it. You don't contribute financially, despite making good money, and on top of that you want him to cook for you.

Setting limits in how you treat people is healthy.

 

[Inquisitive_]

Don’t be sensitive now, no one is “psychoanalyzing” you, I appreciate the fact that you are not hiding behind I know what’s best for my woman so I need to be in control instead you are out there with it. You, like many other men fear if you give too much, she will take it all and leave you with nothing. If you are confident in your relationship and what you bring into it, you should never worry about that imo

How much did you demand your husband to splash out on your wedding?

The average her in the UK is anywhere between 15-30K (full cumulative cost) this is 20-40K when converted to dollars that goes straight to Asian/White/Arab businesses.

This is 95% of the weddings that happen in the diaspora involving couples <30 and it's the female's that demand all of this.

Now answering this question for me will give us a good clue about your overall level of intelligence, I dare you to answer it honestly and I shall respond to your cheap indirect jibes.

Of course. That is how we were all raised. Man works and wifey ensures that her husband is taken care of and looked after. If she wants to work, then can she can and if they want to help each other out and split everything 50/50, then that is also their choice.
But yes, after a day of work the man needs to come home to a warm meal, clean house and uunsi. That’s her priority as a wife.

So what's your take on a husband that works a ridiculous 60 hours a week, which is 12 hours a day, and if you include commute and 8 hour sleep 24 hour day cycle is complete.

The dude pays every single bill in the house without asking for any contribution even-tough the wife works just 40 hours, yet still expects him to cook, clean and wash dishes? isn't this insanity to you?

The poor dude needs a whole weekend just to recover from all that toil, labour and sleep deprivation, yet she expects him to enter the kitchen.

 

[East side]

You're reasonable.



It has nothing to do with insecurities and confidence. It's common sense. You're the living proof of having your cake and eating it. You don't contribute financially, despite making good money, and on top of that you want him to cook for you.

Setting limits in how you treat people is healthy.

Miskiinka is working his a s s off, comes homes gives his money to her and then cooks for her. My mum would disown him for being so weak

 

[Abdalla]

Miskiinka is working his a s s off, comes homes gives his money to her and then cooks for her. My mum would disown him for being so weak

People in general, and women specifically, are very ungrateful and do not appreciate too much kindness. It has nothing to do with mysogyne. It will lead to unhealthy relationship. @TheShinning has a nice dp of her traveling to Dubai in front of the famous mosque, I bet she left her poor man behind for a holiday with her girls.

 

[NotMyL]

It has nothing to do with insecurities and confidence. It's common sense. You're the living proof of having your cake and eating it. You don't contribute financially, despite making good money, and on top of that you want him to cook for you.

Setting limits in how you treat people is healthy.

Not disagreeing with that at all, limitations is important in every aspect of our lives. I may not pay the bills but I spoil my husband with things he will never get for himself. That watch that he’s too reasonable to buy, that lakers game he doesn’t want to pay 1200 to go see because he’s not the type to spend on himself. I made it pretty obvious that I’m not using him for his money, we have certain traditional roles in our household and we are both happy with how we manage. He helps with the chores when he can but I always end up doing the most because he’s so busy with work.

How much did you demand your husband to splash out on your wedding?

The average her in the UK is anywhere between 15-30K (full cumulative cost) this is 20-40K when converted to dollars that goes straight to Asian/White/Arab businesses.

This is 95% of the weddings that happen in the diaspora involving couples <30 and it's the female's that demand all of this.

Now answering this question for me will give us a good clue about your overall level of intelligence, I dare you to answer it honestly and I shall respond to your cheap indirect jibes.

We didn’t have a big wedding, we had mehr followed by dinner with our families and friends. We’re both big on saving so we saved that money and we splurged by going on long extended honeymoon.

 

[NotMyL]

People in general, and women specifically, are very ungrateful and do not appreciate too much kindness. It has nothing to do with mysogyne. It will lead to unhealthy relationship. @TheShinning has a nice dp of her traveling to Dubai in front of the famous mosque, I bet she left her poor man behind for a holiday with her girls.

Who do you think took the picture

 

[halwa]

Who do you think took the picture

He’s never been out of Holland. Don’t mind him, sis. Maskiinka

 

[Abdalla]

Not disagreeing with that at all, limitations is important in every aspect of our lives. I may not pay the bills but I spoil my husband with things he will never get for himself. That watch that he’s too reasonable to buy, that lakers game he doesn’t want to pay 1200 to go see because he’s not the type to spend on himself. I made it pretty obvious that I’m not using him for his money, we have certain traditional roles in our household and we are both happy with how we manage. He helps with the chores when he can but I always end up doing the most because he’s so busy with work.



We didn’t have a big wedding, we had mehr followed by dinner with our families and friends. We’re both big on saving so we saved that money and we splurged by going on long extended honeymoon.

We are keen on saving yet drops 2k for a Lakers game.

Who do you think took the picture

Your same age Habaryar Anisa.

 

[NotMyL]

He’s never been out of Holland. Don’t mind him, sis. Maskiinka

Lol didn’t even know he was reer holland yikes lol

We are keen on saving yet drops 2k for a Lakers game.



Your same age Habaryar Anisa.

You think 2k is a lot for lakers game? For one time a year we saved 25k from not having a big wedding dear, idk about your financial situation but you gotta live a little lol

When you are this close, 2k for two tickets it’s pretty cheap

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[Abdalla]

He’s never been out of Holland. Don’t mind him, sis. Maskiinka

Since we are talking about beautiful mosques

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Lol didn’t even know he was reer holland yikes lol


You think 2k is a lot for lakers game? For one time a year we saved 25k from not having a big wedding dear, idk about your financial situation but you gotta live a little lol

When you are this close, 2k for two tickets it’s pretty cheap

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Meanwhile @Knowles and @Helwa complain about 10 cent tampons. There's levels to this shit.