Somalis too shy to have fantasies?

[hindhisle]

The only fantasy I had was Somalia being a first world country and controlling all five Somali regions

Me too,brother.

Great minds think alike

 

[Coulombs law]

The only thing that came close to a fantasy was this Halimo stalking/complementing me every chance she got on how good I smelled.

Asking stuff like what kind of deodorant, Catar, etc I used.. Got kinda creepy after a couple of weeks..

 

[Coulombs law]

armpit fetish is weirdest i encountered. she would compliment me on my deodorant and find weird reasons to smell it. i knew she was lying because i switched it up and she kept going with it. she would lift my arm up and rest her head on my shoulder trying to be sneaky. now i think back, she was very creepy

She actually lifted your arm up just to smell ??

 

[John Michael]

what kind of sexual talk does one need before the wedding night @VixR to be relaxed?

Sex talk beforehand as a virgin would make it even more awkward imo.

 

[Foreman]

Yes, we have sexual needs, but every man and woman are not the same. They have differing sexual needs, different views on sex and marriage, and on what they want to do and/or have done to them. It's not rocket science.

This could partly explain the prominence of quickie divorces

Divorce rate does not necessarily correlate with sexual satisfaction, rather from what I've observed both couples in Somali communities are not mature enough to marry and break up over trivial matters. You never hear about husband and wife breaking up cus they suck in bed but you often hear about couple breaking out over being y/stubborn, coming late, not hearing each other etc ... immature behavior that prevents a lasting marriage nothing have to do with sex (assuming both couple are healthy and in their prime) like you said it is not a rocket science, husband - wife can teach each other what they like, there is over 200 sex position to try and choose from. People make marriage bigger than what it is and you are further diluting the case by saying men and women are different???

Isn't obvious
That's why we are men

And you are women



It can't get more dump-down than that! Not every man and women are unique snowflakes that are highly specialized "picky" individuals . You're assuming every man and women have a special custom made soulmate with your "different feelings/needs" theory. Man has a penis, woman have vagina and both lust over each other. What other non-social/cultural difference are you looking at Explain "different views" while you are at it and link em to sex

Waar wamaxay waxany I don't know what is she arguing for at the moment


"We are different emotionally, physically, intellectually and dare I say "spiritually" from one another therefore we need costume made penis/vagina and chat about sex in romantic siting to figure if we are compatible for marriage "- VixaR

 

[agnes]

There is a famous Somali Shaykh who said most divorces occur cause of Sarirta, meaning some women don't feel satisfied.

 

[TooMacaan]

I don't think it's about being too shy to have fantasies but rather...feeling too guilty or embarrassed to admit them. Most prefer to repress than confess.

 

[VixR]

Good lord @Foreman



That's what compatibility is about. There is such a thing as sexual compatibility, you know? You're not the same as the next guy. You just aren't. Sex isn't everything, but it's very important.

what kind of sexual talk does one need before the wedding night @VixR to be relaxed?

Sex talk beforehand as a virgin would make it even more awkward imo.

Their past, their expectations, their needs, their fantasies, their desires.

I think it's stranger and more uncomfortable not to, to go in blind. To each his own

 

[Ubax45_]

Yes, we have sexual needs, but every man and woman are not the same. They have differing sexual needs, different views on sex and marriage, and on what they want to do and/or have done to them. It's not rocket science.

This could partly explain the prominence of quickie divorces

Those needs won't remain stagnant though and will naturally change over time even for those who were sexually active before marriage, that's where open communication would come into play. But I do agree if someone has some sort of fantasy that is quite off and that they believe they require in order to be happy in their marital life then I would like to know.

 

[Foreman]

Woman don't know what they want.

 

[Tramo]

man halal marriage gonna be awkward af. that first night tho

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

If a chick told me her fantasy then instantly I would picture bare mans riding her to oblivion and back, heads is as far as we well go after that I wouldn't want to see the qumayo again in my life. Fantasy kulaha acudu billahi Mina shadani rajiim

 

[Yahya Liban-Lewis]

Keep it halal and have some xishood.

 

[VixR]

If a chick told me her fantasy then instantly I would picture bare mans riding her to oblivion and back, heads is as far as we well go after that I wouldn't want to see the qumayo again in my life. Fantasy kulaha acudu billahi Mina shadani rajiim

Damnz

 

[Hemaal]

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[--Ajakis Lax Max--]

She actually lifted your arm up just to smell ??

she never did the direct sniff. she had restraint in that way

 

[Ubax45_]

I'll provide an example from a Muslim women though she wasn't Somali, in pre-marriage discussions, the guy said he wants to be urinated on, I think that's something you should know about otherwise later it will be a surprise.

 

[Coulombs law]

I'll provide an example from a Muslim women though she wasn't Somali, in pre-marriage discussions, the guy said he wants to be urinated on, I think that's something you should know about otherwise later it will be a surprise.

This is reaching new heights

 

[VixR]

I'll provide an example from a Muslim women though she wasn't Somali, in pre-marriage discussions, the guy said he wants to be urinated on, I think that's something you should know about otherwise later it will be a surprise.

That's easy. Urinate on the guy.

 

[Tramo]

That's easy. Urinate on the guy.

hayaay