You are seen as a maskiin doqan in Somalia if you come back and try to give back to the community. Don't believe me? Just look back at AUN Hodan Nalyeh's videos in Somalia. People in Somalia generally believe the younger diaspora are "sambac" idiots who are "bacbaac" spoiled and fooled in the west. The reason being is that the society back home, has evolved to care only about ourselves for survival. Those kids grow up to become currupt politicans working only for their interest and soldiers who ask for peoples phones and money at checkpoints because, "dantaada taqaanaa", you know your interest.
In the west, we were taught the golden rule every year since elementary and other morals that emphasized treating others the way you want to be treated. In Somalia, it's treat others the way it best benefits you as long as it isn't ceeb. Ceeb is the religion of Somalis back home. Shopping with your wife or even holding her hand is seen as weird especially in most Somali cities but stealing and killing someone from another clan is seen as normal. Immorality for men is justified in Somalia for survival but for the family to function, we must have women under our control. That is why even post war Somali Sheekhs only focus on calling out women in their haram.
In the west, we were taught the golden rule every year since elementary and other morals that emphasized treating others the way you want to be treated. In Somalia, it's treat others the way it best benefits you as long as it isn't ceeb. Ceeb is the religion of Somalis back home. Shopping with your wife or even holding her hand is seen as weird especially in most Somali cities but stealing and killing someone from another clan is seen as normal. Immorality for men is justified in Somalia for survival but for the family to function, we must have women under our control. That is why even post war Somali Sheekhs only focus on calling out women in their haram.