A lack of good father/mother figures and misdirected/neutered shame culture is what results in this.
If young man do not view his father as a good role model, he will emulate rappers, criminals, and thugs. The procedure is the same whether the child is nerdy or introverted; they may extol historical luminaries or extremist leaders.
Since our parents escaped a conflict zone and lacked the educational resources, many of the younger generation were products of "going with the flow"; nearly none of us were raised by educated parents who planned the number of children and how they will raise them.
They are not to be held accountable because it is by will of Allah.
I like shame culture, but most people have an issue with it when it's misdirected and goes in the wrong direction. When it ought to be directed at:
- Rappers
- Dhil0s
- Criminals
- Shaqo la’n
- Murtads
- Cringy people