Somali Parents TRICK Daughter into Marriage at 14 in Somalia

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Attention seeking somali in its purest form

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[Hodan from HR]

I've failed at parenting if my 14 yr old ends up pregnant and divorced in Somalia, نعوذ بالله


Just saying..

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

Erm, she never claimed to have been forced as far as I can see. It seems to me the OP decided to use that title to add a sprinkle of more drama. Definitely took a leaf out of @Grigori Rasputin's book.

Anyways, sending your child back at 14 and leaving them there is bad parenting and them trying to get married isn't even surprising. They're teens with no mum and dad, in a society where getting married at 14 is the norm and I wouldn't be suprised if her fobby relatives encouraged it, so yes they are partially at fault.

why get me involved in this debacle.

This @Qeelbax female tried to humiliate upright men of the Somali stock and she failed miserably.

 

[Qeelbax]

Tbh I remember that video but I tend to stay away from commenting on someone else’s trauma because you never know. Maybe her family mentally abused her and she fell for the first guy that gave her attention? Soo much nuances sooo idk

Alhamdulilah for my Hoyo for always screaming school first! I understand now….. niggas ain’t loyal.

She said she didn’t want to live there and her family wouldn’t bring her back to America, was it her aunt she was staying with or something, so she got married to get out.

 

[Qeelbax]

Erm, she never claimed to have been forced as far as I can see. It seems to me the OP decided to use that title to add a sprinkle of more drama. Definitely took a leaf out of @Grigori Rasputin's book.

Anyways, sending your child back at 14 and leaving them there is bad parenting and them trying to get married isn't even surprising. They're teens with no mum and dad, in a society where getting married at 14 is the norm and I wouldn't be suprised if her fobby relatives encouraged it, so yes they are partially at fault.

@Bundasliga Like I said I’m just a disciple of @Grigori Rasputin

 

[Qeelbax]

Erm, who mentioned she was forced?!

Do you even know the backstory or you talk just to argue again?
Her parents were against the marriage her father even said he she's too young & he wants nothing to do of she proceeds to marry him.

If he was so against it, he should’ve brought her back to America like she wanted to. She also said she never used the internet for 4 years outside the TV. Clearly her parents aren’t okay either. You don’t just drop a qurbajoog middle schooler in baadiyo with absolutely no internet and connection to the real world. It was her way of getting out of her parents hand. She said she doesn’t recommend dhaqan celis to anyone nonetheless such a strict one as hers

 

[Qeelbax]

why get me involved in this debacle.

This @Qeelbax female tried to humiliate upright men of the Somali stock and she failed miserably.

Upright men???? Lmaoooo, nothing upright about her parents. They did her dirty.

 

[Bundasliga]

@Bundasliga Like I said I’m just a disciple of @Grigori Rasputin

People are dumb they read the title & think it's true . I just set the record straight, nothing more ,nothing less.

 

[Bundasliga]

If he was so against it, he should’ve brought her back to America like she wanted to. She also said she never used the internet for 4 years outside the TV. Clearly her parents aren’t okay either. You don’t just drop a qurbajoog middle schooler in baadiyo with absolutely no internet and connection to the real world. It was her way of getting out of her parents hand. She said she doesn’t recommend dhaqan celis to anyone nonetheless such a strict one as hers

To be honest I don't care, I just repeat what she said .

 

[Aboow]

She said she didn’t want to live there and her family wouldn’t bring her back to America, was it her aunt she was staying with or something, so she got married to get out.

I knew something had to happen to her in order to consider marriage at that age. Wallahi some parents don’t deserve children. The only dhaqaan celis that works is when a parent ( preferably your mother) goes to Somalia/ Djibouti and stays with their children. Like I don’t understand they ran away from there and they want to drop a hoyo matalo there and hope for the best? My younger brothers are lucky to have my mother with them. My mother used to visit every year for 4 months at a time but she stopped because one of my cousin broke my brothers tooth when she was gone! Imagine if she never went and just dropped them there! Wallahi to me that’s insanity.

Anyways, I hope she heals because I see a lot of anger in her and she kinda reminds me of me LOL

 

[Deekhow]

I've failed at parenting if my 14 yr old ends up pregnant and divorced in Somalia, نعوذ بالله


Just saying..

Subxanallah.
Don't say that. Even if you put the best parenting efforts you cannot guarantee the outcome. Pray that they turnout to be obedient and upright.

 

[Mr.Humphrey]

I knew something had to happen to her in order to consider marriage at that age. Wallahi some parents don’t deserve children. The only dhaqaan celis that works is when a parent ( preferably your mother) goes to Somalia/ Djibouti and stays with their children. Like I don’t understand they ran away from there and they want to drop a hoyo matalo there and hope for the best?

The people attacking this girl are ignorant and lack empathy.

I can relate to this girl as I spent 5 years locked up in dhaqan celis. I had no internet, no family, no access to books or anything to stimulate my mind. It was hell on Earth.

You have no idea how hard it is to be locked up with people treating you terribly and nobody to protect you as an impressionable teenager.

I became someone totally different. It got to the point where I developed stockholm syndrome and didn't want to leave those who were abusing me. Only with time and patience was I able to escape but I still suffer from my experience there until today.

Most likely this girl developed stockholm syndrome and the macalin took advantage of her. Her parents are lazy and failed in protecting their child the second they dumped her in a foreign country with strangers. I hope she heals soon and gets to give her child a better upbringing.

As for the people on this site who attack Somalis trying to heal their trauma, do better and educate yourself.

 

[Gardy]

FAKE NEWS
They tricked her into dhaqan celis ,because she was rebellious.

She fall in love with her dugsi teacher and wanted to marry him ,her parents said NO as we already know xalimos have no brain cells when it comes to marriage & she married anyway.

Some years later she's a single mother & now claims she got groomed HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I've seen many similar incidents, these young halimos consider their parents care and advice as oppression and fall for the lies of a random guy just to end up in misery just few years later.

Halimos need to know that no one cares them better than their own parents.

 

[Aboow]

The people attacking this girl are ignorant and lack empathy.

I can relate to this girl as I spent 5 years locked up in dhaqan celis. I had no internet, no family, no access to books or anything to stimulate my mind. It was hell on Earth.

You have no idea how hard it is to be locked up with people treating you terribly and nobody to protect you as an impressionable teenager.

I became someone totally different. It got to the point where I developed stockholm syndrome and didn't want to leave those who were abusing me. Only with time and patience was I able to escape but I still suffer from my experience there until today.

Most likely this girl developed stockholm syndrome and the macalin took advantage of her. Her parents are lazy and failed in protecting their child the second they dumped her in a foreign country with strangers. I hope she heals soon and gets to give her child a better upbringing.

As for the people on this site who attack Somalis trying to heal their trauma, do better and educate yourself.

Am so sorry you had to go through that

My little brothers are currently in dhaqan celis right now with my mother. Fortunately, mother was with them the whole time except when she would visit me. That had to be stopped because my devilish cousin back home broke my brother’s tooth while my mother was gone. On the other hand, I was left here by myself and had my own set of problems due to not having anyone with me but Alhamdulilah for Canada because I worked and I was able to provide for myself Alhamdulilah. However, I still have anger and resentment for my parents because I still feel abandoned. So I can relate; this shit ain’t easy but we will overcome!

 

[Angelina]

Am so sorry you had to go through that

My little brothers are currently in dhaqan celis right now with my mother. Fortunately, mother was with them the whole time except when she would visit me. That had to be stopped because my devilish cousin back home broke my brother’s tooth while my mother was gone. On the other hand, I was left here by myself and had my own set of problems due to not having anyone with me but Alhamdulilah for Canada because I worked and I was able to provide for myself Alhamdulilah. However, I still have anger and resentment for my parents because I still feel abandoned. So I can relate; this shit ain’t easy but we will overcome!

Your parents just left with no one to provide for you? I'm guessing you're a student right?

 

[Aboow]

Your parents just left with no one to provide for you? I'm guessing you're a student right?

Yeep. I have trauma loool
Luckily, I have good friends but the people my mother entrusted me with weren’t the greatest so I had to move for my own mental health.

This is why I despise negligent parents.

 

[Qeelbax]

@Qeelbax you look silly now.

When did I say she was forced though?

 

[Hodan from HR]

Subxanallah.
Don't say that. Even if you put the best parenting efforts you cannot guarantee the outcome. Pray that they turnout to be obedient and upright.

Sorry I couldn't reply earlier..

I agree with your point that we can't guarantee how children turn out despite our best efforts. But this was a teenager who was still dependant on parents. They played a role by making decisions that resulted in her being taken advantage of at such a young age.

@Mr.Humphrey worded it well,

Her parents are lazy and failed in protecting their child the second they dumped her in a foreign country with strangers.

All I am saying is, this could have been avoided if her parents put in actual parenting work and did not expect random relatives in Somalia to raise their daughter.

 

[Deekhow]

Sorry I couldn't reply earlier..

I agree with your point that we can't guarantee how children turn out despite our best efforts. But this was a teenager who was still dependant on parents. They played a role by making decisions that resulted in her being taken advantage of at such a young age.

@Mr.Humphrey worded it well,


All I am saying is, this could have been avoided if her parents put in actual parenting work and did not expect random relatives in Somalia to raise their daughter.

Dhaqan Celis fails most of the time because of lazy parents dumping their troublesome kids at relatives. Have you seen Somalis? No mercy or pc. They will abuse and call you names and they always have the notion that a Dhaqan Celis guy is gang and Saqajaan, Dhaqan Celis girl is loose/Dh%£0.
How can you rehabilitate someone seen as pariah in that society? If the whole family is not relocating there's no need to send a child.
Somali proverb: Dhiibaal waa xoolo dhumis.
@Hodan from HR.
What would you do different to make sure 'your' 14 yo daughter don't end up pregnant ?

 

[Hodan from HR]

Somali proverb: Dhiibaal waa xoolo dhumis.
@Hodan from HR.
What would you do different to make sure 'your' 14 yo daughter don't end up pregnant ?

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