Somali men have been babied by their mothers

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Gacmeey

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How do you know without asking them and who knows if they're being honest. A guy can be taking care of his whole immediate family and not want to take on another responsibility of marriage.
Im assuming that man wants to get married some day but just can’t afford it or it’s to much of a burden rn. There are some men who just don’t want to get married at all. These men usually have low T or are engaging in some type of haram to fulfil their urges
 
Im assuming that man wants to get married some day but just can’t afford it or it’s to much of a burden rn. There are some men who just don’t want to get married at all. These men usually have low T or are engaging in some type of haram to fulfil their urges
Not necessarily that's generalising
 

Gacmeey

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Not necessarily that's generalising
Well I just can’t see another reason to not wanting to get married ever in your life. How can you endure the struggle of controlling yourself for 30+ years whilst marriage is an option?
 
Well I just can’t see another reason to not wanting to get married ever in your life. How can you endure the struggle of controlling yourself for 30+ years whilst marriage is an option?
I know guys in their 30s never married never dated, never held a girls hand but they never miss salaad at the masjid. Its rude to assume bad of them. Same applies to women.
 
Well I just can’t see another reason to not wanting to get married ever in your life. How can you endure the struggle of controlling yourself for 30+ years whilst marriage is an option?
We have scholars who have dedicated there lives to knowledge and went without marriage so its possible. Some people can be dedicated to a craft and wouldn't like there lifestyle being compromised because they wouldn't be able to accommodate and fulfil there duties.
 
I'm legitimately career oriented and going towards a 6 figure income (so far I'm at around $80k as a manager). I'm not interested in settling down because I wanna get my money up first. I'm 30. So some of us guys are trying to hustle ATM to be set and comfy when we get married.
this is my dilemma too. as much as i want to get married and settle down, i still have a ton of goals i need to accomplish and i’m aiming to make well over 6 figures
 

Gacmeey

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I know guys in their 30s never married never dated, never held a girls hand but they never miss salaad at the masjid. Its rude to assume bad of them. Same applies to women.
That’s understandable though life gets in the way, but I assume they intend to get married sometime. Otherwise, it’s not unreasonable to think there is something else going on whether it be medical related or they are relieving themselves in another way.
 

Gacmeey

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We have scholars who have dedicated there lives to knowledge and went without marriage so its possible. Some people can be dedicated to a craft and wouldn't like there lifestyle being compromised because they wouldn't be able to accommodate and fulfil there duties.
Well it is possible and those are understandable reasons to not get married but for your average guy who’s time isn’t consumed by other responsibilities, it certainly isn’t normal. It might be because of low t or they might be engaging in haram. Maybe there are other reasons I’m not aware of but it is abnormal to say the least.
 
Well it is possible and those are understandable reasons to not get married but for your average guy who’s time isn’t consumed by other responsibilities, it certainly isn’t normal. It might be because of low t or they might be engaging in haram. Maybe there are other reasons I’m not aware of but it is abnormal to say the least.
It's definitely abnormal but something a normal guy is capable of and some say this but what the really mean is that they want to have it totally there way and that is rather difficult to come by so they just focus on there grind until they end up coming across a girl that will be ok with them having things entirely there way. I have an asian mate who is like that so is not interested in marriage and thinks he will never be able to get married because of what he wants.
 
In general I think men overall are less sex inclined but over all I don't understand a man not wanting to ever marry myself but recent stats based on the west shows men especially younger men are more celibate then ever so I'm asumming some western dynamic is at play here and men and women are becoming more closer in this individualism take more then ever.
It’s because of corn. Simple as. Male nature doesn’t change. Not to say all men are the same, but a healthy man that isn’t watching corn or has low T levels isn’t going to be celibate for the rest of his life. Also those Western stats are based on young men who will eventually settle down or have the intentions to be with women in the future.
 
It’s because of corn. Simple as. Male nature doesn’t change. Not to say all men are the same, but a healthy man that isn’t watching corn or has low T levels isn’t going to be celibate for the rest of his life. Also those Western stats are based on young men who will eventually settle down or have the intentions to be with women in the future.
That's a one dimensional view tho. Male nature when given a goal can be driven to try and achieve it at the cost of everything else around him. It's only when men are idle and goalless do they fall into that stuff much more easily.

Generally when these guys say never it's more of within the moment and not actually for life and they are probably more picky/selfish in the same way as those women that stay single and "give up" on marriage. They are so focused on there way or no way
 
That's a one dimensional view tho. Male nature when given a goal can be driven to try and achieve it at the cost of everything else around him. It's only when men are idle and goalless do they fall into that stuff much more easily.
That’s a very small % of men. High T levels gives men very strong urges and more so than women. Let’s be real, in this day and age a man can fulfil those urges without having to marry or even interact with women which is why you’re getting more and more men saying they don’t want to marry or need women. Studies have also illustrated this phenomenon and how corn use can do this to men. I highly doubt we’d gets a lot of men who are able to be with a woman thinking they’d rather go without like the other poster if you get my drift.
Generally when these guys say never it's more of within the moment and not actually for life and they are probably more picky/selfish in the same way as those women that stay single and "give up" on marriage. They are so focused on there way or no way
True, but a woman not being able to get her way is more common than a man, especially a Somali man. He could easily go back home and get his pick due to his passport which puts him in a position of bigger a higher status. Women do find it harder to get what they want or even deserve these days as more women are getting higher education with many reaching certain income levels whilst men’s traditional views haven’t changed much, hence it does create a bit of an issue.
 

Lostbox

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Relationship are great except the part your have to be intimate in the bedroom.

I don't know if women are drinking testosterone these days but now they expect their man to put out.
 
Society in general has short attention spans leading to lack of patience and commitment to a loving marriage. Lets stop the gender wars for a second and lets face it. Both genders are becoming more and more selfish and narcissistic.
A lot of people are insufferable these days wa runta, people just want to enjoy themselves, who can blame them
 
I love how the narrative shifts from "Who needs men? Somali guys are bums!" to "sOmAli meN wOulDn'T acCept rEspoNsIbliTy" soon as they start hitting their mid/late 20s and guys start earning some real lacag :mjlol:

Late 20s/early 30s is when men, who aren't out of shape ugly slobs, are spoilt for choice. Consequence free sex is a couple Hinge taps away. Zina aside, why would any man with an above room temp IQ shackle himself and thanklessly shoulder the financial burden when he could enjoy the fruits of his labour instead? Genuinely.

It's not like we're faced with the risk of not being able to carry a pregnancy to term, we can afford wait till our mid to late 30s if we just lift, have a decent skin-care routine and avoid the bidaar scrouge.

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Man I've got to say, there is a lot of miscommunication in courting/ marriage in the west. A lot of muslim women are very pro womens rights, and find it offensive when it's suggested that they should cook or clean for their man, but they also want to be provided for in the traditional sense. It seems unbalanced in the eyes of a man, as if he's being taken advantaged of in a way. But they don't see it that way, reciprocity is what I'm referring to. I'm a very Liberal guy by many standards, I'm not controlling in the ganacsi sense, or in the modesty sense for the woman, i am gaal after all, but I can see why a lot of men just say f*ck it, and stay single.
It's a weird "having your cake and eating it too" mindset that I've noticed on and offline, I just find it comical at this point wallahi. I love it when girls are forthcoming about it, let's me know to gtfo ASAP. I personally couldn't give less of a shit about being cooked and cleaned for, I'm not some in competent retard who can't take care of himself. I'm more concerned about the fact that the avg salary (sub 50k annual) wouldn't get you on the housing market, much less be enough to raise a family. Not to mention the mortgage interest rates in the UK increasing in July:tacky:

Chill with the gaal shit though, atheism is gay asf lol
 

TekNiKo

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A lot of people are insufferable these days wa runta, people just want to enjoy themselves, who can blame them
Life isnt about enjoyment the Western false sense of “happiness” is faux. There is no true happiness in this world, everything is a struggle and life is cruel. It is a test after all
 
Life isnt about enjoyment the Western false sense of “happiness” is faux. There is no true happiness in this world, everything is a struggle and life is cruel. It is a test after all
That sounds pessimistic, there is true happiness and comfort in life too. Just think about your childhood and the people who loved and supported you unconditionally, those memories and people are proof that life isn't constant suffering. It's a balance, life has both great suffering and happiness.
 
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