Increasingly I’m seeing young Somali women with kids, and they are divorced from their husband, and raising the kids by themselves, and the husband has remarried and completely forgotten his previous kids wallahi that is the most horrible thing to do to a child so what happens you have Somalis now in Minnesota running wild doing drugs, joining gangs, and even prostitution
Somali men, and creating broken homes
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The men that came to America after their twenties didn't give f*ck about co-parenting after they got divorced.
Co-parenting is sort of like unknown outside of Western cultures.
The older guys basically gave up and started another family as soon as they got divorced and lost custody. Even though divorces are a pain in the ass it's stupid as hell to just give up and abandon the kids.
I'm expecting gen z and millennial somali men born in the west to establish co parenting dynamics just in case a divorce happens.
OP said young Somali women so now I'm starting to doubt her tbh. Westernized young Somali men should know about how important parenting is.
" young Somali women"
Are these women millennials??
I doubt we have a bunch of westernized Somali millennial men just abandoning their somali kids here in the west?
Yes I am talking about men in their 30s, and 40s abandoning their kids the ones older usually end up having a whole family back home themselves
This is the demographics your by. You can improve your life a ton sister. Just do don't go to a third-rate institution to receive your education
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I’ve seen far too many cases amongst the 35+ demographic of men doing this. As for the young Western generation, I doubt this is the case….well I hope not.
I would be cautious in exclaiming this phenomenon is widespread.
You need a sample, and we don't have access to this type of data. Millennials are 27-42. The oldest ones have barely reached middle age, so the idea of them going back home for a new wife is premature. I haven't seen that many young Abdis jumping from family to family. I would also say the older generation is not uniform.
Plural marriage isn't universal among all Somalis and neither is serial divorce. From what I've noticed the more educated the less likely he is to consider a second wife.
Whether someone stays married or gets divorced is up to IIahi. There is no magic bullet. There is only faith. You cannot predict with absolute certainty that someone will divorce or that a spouse will stay the same in (a year, five, ten, twenty, thirty or even fifty years).
You need a sample, and we don't have access to this type of data. Millennials are 27-42. The oldest ones have barely reached middle age, so the idea of them going back home for a new wife is premature. I haven't seen that many young Abdis jumping from family to family. I would also say the older generation is not uniform.
Plural marriage isn't universal among all Somalis and neither is serial divorce. From what I've noticed the more educated the less likely he is to consider a second wife.
Whether someone stays married or gets divorced is up to IIahi. There is no magic bullet. There is only faith. You cannot predict with absolute certainty that someone will divorce or that a spouse will stay the same in (a year, five, ten, twenty, thirty or even fifty years).
I’m talking about the younger crowd(under 30) since she said young women. Ever since I got here I actively hunt for young single mothers. American raised and fobs alike. I don’t ask but they volunteer information.
Have no idea what she’s talking about.
NVM just saw her reply. She’s taking about 30-40 years old. I have no idea
Nigga why you hunting for single moms your 25
I'm a year older than you. Niggas like me and you got no business dating single moms
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Riftvalley
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Out of 5 of those cases, 3 are the fault of spineless men who abandon children and spouses. 2/5 cases are because the woman is too toxic and it is normal for Somali ladies to turn their children against the father, block his phone etc, deny him the right to see kids for prolonged periods for no apparent reason during marital problems.
If you observe the mothers of young men who join gangs there are some commonalities and faults those females they all share. Many Somali single mothers could have prevented their sons joining gangs were it not for them ignoring the early warning signs. Their sons are almost like friends who can do wrong or a psychological defensive barrier against the world (a replacement of the husband in some senses).
People are sensitive to these discussions because are hooyos are considered perfect in our culture.
It was everywhere in Canada too and its the same here in Africa. I see young Somali girls with one or two children and no husband.
That's for the old heads, nothing to do with us, half the niggas on here are virgins
Personally I'm not as worried about gen Z and young millennial parents here in the west. I feel like most westernized somalis know how important parenting is.
The niggas I'm worried about the most are the ones back home. We got a huge population of young somalis. I dont think niggas back home were properly taught how important it is to be an active father.
If we want Somali nuclear families to thrive back home we need Somali men raising kids properly.
Those young men in the West grew up in a fatherless household too hence, why they marry and divorce at a young age and never raise their children just like their fathers. Its a never ending cycle unfortunately.
The young westernized men aren't getting divorced that often
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True, most of the time, after a guy divorces he won’t see his kids much again.
To me Muslims in general having a high divorce rate wouldn't be too surprising. Marrying a person(lifelong commitment) you've known for a few months is kinda wild let alone never really seeing the real them until they get married. Both genders are goody two shoes when the talks for marriage occur. This is all without mentioning the arranged marriages too. Putting that together Somalis having a high divorce rate isn't too surprising.
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