Somali husband stole money from his wife to finance his side chick in somalia

[Yaraye]

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[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

wallahi besides money and needing an itch scratched, There is nothing else that's good for having a man around. These days, they don't even pay for everything or satisfy you.

Only a real man is worth having around, someone who makes your life easier. Not a man-child, who wants 50/50 finances and steals from your purse like a teenage delinquent.

May Allah bless all women with good men and let the losers be cursed with sugar babies, who rob them blind. Aameen.

 

[TekNiKo]

Its cause men are biologically programmed to spread their seed. Most hooyos when they reach non child bearing age actually encourage their husband to find new younger wife. Only few resist and those are the ones that bemoan betrayal.

I remember reading a hadith about a sahabi who came to Omar bin Khattab and said that he wanted a new wife for more children but his current wife allowed to give up some of her rights to intimacy so he can spend time with new wife more. Omar RA said if she agrees in order to stay it is permissible

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I have heard this story many times, my uncle also did this to his wife who is the mother of his 5 kids, they were married for 18 years.

The older generation of Somali men are very selfish, and to treat the mother of your children like that shows that they have no mercy or any shame.

You know what's very disturbing? These are the Hooyos who escaped the civil war as young women, they were literally ride or die, for a man who may not have had a degree, his degree was deemed useless etc. etc. These hooyos would pay bills, and do everything for these men and this is how they were repaid.

The newer generations need to pay close attention to this, keep their bank accounts secured like fort knox and keep their appearance as good as humanely possible. This way, if he acts up, you can marry his higher paid friend, cousin or better yet, nemesis, if it pleases you.

 

[Unbothered]

Pickmeshes still giving money to dusty Faraxis . Stop the joined accounts

 

[cooli3o]

Yep, it is hard to detect which is why I hate the immature responses on this forum and online in general in which men accuse women in those types of situations of not ‘picking’ better or not noticing the red flags. In many of these sordid cases, issues only arise after 20-30yrs into the marriage. How are women meant to predict how they’ll be treated after being married for what feels like a lifetime and many kids?

the thing is, especially the older generation, there is no way of avoiding it, so you should just expect it.
nowadays men are much different, u can easily find a man who won't cheat on you, so if you chose a bum, then you have to question why you married him, maybe its easy for me to say as a man, because usually I can detect that stuff from a mile away or be sus of someone, but seriously if you don't know if your husband is going to betray you or not, I would never get married.

 

[Angelina]

Its cause men are biologically programmed to spread their seed. Most hooyos when they reach non child bearing age actually encourage their husband to find new younger wife. Only few resist and those are the ones that bemoan betrayal.

I remember reading a hadith about a sahabi who came to Omar bin Khattab and said that he wanted a new wife for more children but his current wife allowed to give up some of her rights to intimacy so he can spend time with new wife more. Omar RA said if she agrees in order to stay it is permissible

You’re disgusting and you’re taking the trolling to far. You’re using the deen in a case in which a man steals money from his wife to marry again and thus being a thief and abandoning his children.

You’re 30, you’re too old to be doing this. Grow up.

 

[cooli3o]

You know what's very disturbing? These are the Hooyos who escaped the civil war as young women, they were literally ride or die, for a man who may not have had a degree, his degree was deemed useless etc. etc. They would work 50/50 and do everything for these men and this is how they were repaid.

The newer generations need to pay close attention to this, keep their bank accounts secured like fort knox and keep their appearance as good as humanely possible, so if he acts up, you can marry his higher paid friend, cousin or better yet, nemesis, if it pleases you.

the thing is I don't think most men care if you marry someone close to him, unless you married a psycopath who is extremely jealous and will murder you(literally) if you do this.
but for most men, if they leave u that easily, its safe to say they never cared about u in the first place, they could care less who you marry, also never marry out of spite, its not good.

 

[cooli3o]

I would pay poor hungry thugs over there to beat him and the h0e to death with bats

yeah, I’m crazy like that

you don't know any

 

[cooli3o]

Its cause men are biologically programmed to spread their seed. Most hooyos when they reach non child bearing age actually encourage their husband to find new younger wife. Only few resist and those are the ones that bemoan betrayal.

I remember reading a hadith about a sahabi who came to Omar bin Khattab and said that he wanted a new wife for more children but his current wife allowed to give up some of her rights to intimacy so he can spend time with new wife more. Omar RA said if she agrees in order to stay it is permissible

the thing is he stole in this scenario so he is backstabbing his wife

 

[Angelina]

the thing is, especially the older generation, there is no way of avoiding it, so you should just expect it.
nowadays men are much different, u can easily find a man who won't cheat on you, so if you chose a bum, then you have to question why you married him, maybe its easy for me to say as a man, because usually I can detect that stuff from a mile away or be sus of someone, but seriously if you don't know if your husband is going to betray you or not, I would never get married.

You’re being stupid. In many of the cases I’ve seen the man wasn’t a bum, the wife wasn’t providing for him. You can’t predict peoples actions and sociopathy is common amongst men coupled with how selfish some of the men in our community are due to how they’ve been raised. It comes out after decades when the wife isn’t of benefit to him due to being less attractive and past child bearing age. Ultimately you really get to know people when you’re not use to them and by the time their true face as been revealed it can’t be too late.

 

[TekNiKo]

I'm starting to suspect that there are Somali mothers, whose 2nd marriage is the 'revenge' marriage. As in, their first husband spited them, so they got a 2nd husband, who has deep pockets, even if he's a polygamist. These hooyo's don't want a husband in the house all the time, but they do like their bills paid and their physical needs met. So for them, it's like having a halal long-distance boyfriend with all the benefits and none of the annoying, needy, behaviours.

You see, there are plenty of women who are happy to be with polygamist men. Not every woman is a romantic, some women just want their itch scratched and their bills paid. But no woman, wants a liar and certainly not a tuug who is a liar. That's why they'd rather leave the nasty cheater and get with a man who is openly polygamist and has the funds to back it.

I wish this on all weak cheaters; to see their first wife leave them and be happier, with a better man. Mac Sonkor.

No man cares about his first wife after divorce.

You’re disgusting and you’re taking the trolling to far. You’re using the deen in a case in which a man steals money from his wife to marry again and thus being a thief and abandoning his children.

You’re 30, you’re too old to be doing this. Grow up.

Nope stealing money and betraying your wife financially is deplorable. I was referring to men who become wanting of more children when their first wife reaches old age. I provided an example and you accuse me of using the deen. I simply explained the logic behind it. Many of you have romantisiced Western ideals of “growing old” together and monogamy so I wouldnt expect anything less.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

the thing is I don't think most men care if you marry someone close to him, unless you married a psycopath who is extremely jealous and will murder you(literally) if you do this.
but for most men, if they leave u that easily, its safe to say they never cared about u in the first place, they could care less who you marry, also never marry out of spite, its not good.

These men don't leave their wives, that's the issue. Usually they keep the first wife around and have other wives on top of that. Also, they try to make divorce difficult and use emotional blackmail and family to pressure her to stay.

The truth is, most men do care if their first wife asks for a divorce or remarries. Especially if he is still attracted to her, as many men only love with their eyes. And when they don't 'care' about her, they 100% care about another man playing daddy to his kids.

 

[Yaraye]

Its cause men are biologically programmed to spread their seed. Most hooyos when they reach non child bearing age actually encourage their husband to find new younger wife. Only few resist and those are the ones that bemoan betrayal.

I remember reading a hadith about a sahabi who came to Omar bin Khattab and said that he wanted a new wife for more children but his current wife allowed to give up some of her rights to intimacy so he can spend time with new wife more. Omar RA said if she agrees in order to stay it is permissible

where is the agreement in this situation?

 

[TekNiKo]

where is the agreement in this situation?

If you feel so strongly find a man who will stipulate no second marriage in his nikaax therefore legally binding

 

[Yaraye]

These men don't leave their wives, that's the issue. Usually they keep the first wife around and have other wives on top of that. Also, they try to make divorce difficult and use emotional blackmail and family to pressure her to stay.

The truth is, most men do care if their first wife asks for a divorce or remarries. Especially if he is still attracted to her, as many men only love with their eyes. And when they don't 'care' about her, they 100% care about another man playing daddy to his kids.

Absolute truth. I'm speaking from seeing my mother's experience of marrying several men. my father up to this day...... loooooool!

 

[cooli3o]

You’re being stupid. In many of the cases I’ve seen the man wasn’t a bum, the wife wasn’t providing for him. You can’t predict peoples actions and sociopathy is common amongst men coupled with how selfish some of the men in our community are due to how they’ve been raised. It comes out after decades when the wife isn’t of benefit to him due to being less attractive and past child bearing age. Ultimately you really get to know people when you’re not use to them and by the time their true face as been revealed it can’t be too late.

I'm gonna be honest that is your perspective, but as a person who grew up with men its pretty obvious when a guy is a secret sociopath and just hiding it, i guess its just for me, like I know some men who are "good guys" but lowkey would do some insane stuff if the right buttons are pressed, I feel like it also depends on which culture man you marry, as different men have different cultures, at the end of the day, this stuff isn't random, And if I was a women I wouldn't even get married in the first place, but thats just me

 

[Angelina]

No man cares about his first wife after di

Nope stealing money and betraying your wife financially is deplorable. I was referring to men who become wanting of more children when their first wife reaches old age. I provided an example and you accuse me of using the deen. I simply explained the logic behind it. Many of you have romantisiced Western ideals of “growing old” together and monogamy so I wouldnt expect anything less.

The whole thread was about a man stealing money to finance his second marriage and you come up with that? Stick to the topic at hand. You’re a troll that is trying to be controversial.

As for the men wanting more children, 9/10 times they don’t raise those children since they’re too old with health problems and then they expect their first wives who’ve sacrificed a lot for them throughout the years to help them when they’re sick instead of expecting that from their new young wife who isn’t going to waste her youth on an old Ill man. Also, I know several cases of the first set of kids having to finance the children of this odey who wanted to play house when he can’t even do it because of age and lack of money.

Your type want to use women’s youth, beauty and fertility and once they’re no longer of use you want to abandon them and leave them lonely.

 

[Leila]

No man cares about his first wife after divorce. He was the first to taste her so why would he care who gets his leftovers?

Nope stealing money and betraying your wife financially is deplorable. I was referring to men who become wanting of more children when their first wife reaches old age. I provided an example and you accuse me of using the deen. I simply explained the logic behind it. Many of you have romantisiced Western ideals of “growing old” together and monogamy so I wouldnt expect anything less.

The problem is that most of the older men who do this are not providing for their first wife and children. The ones in Africa actually provide for their families but the men that come from western countries leave their family to fend for themselves and the first wife has to struggle in taking care of the family. If your wife or child has to work low paid jobs or depend on ceyr polygamy is not for you. Polygamy is only for the men that can actually provide for their families.

 

[Yaraye]

If you feel so strongly find a man who will stipulate no second marriage in his nikaax therefore legally binding

We are talking about a man stealing from his wife, marrying a 2nd wife and giving the money to her. What's the point of this hadith? It makes no sense to use it here.