Somali couples move on

[Villainess]

Why does she keep marrying trashy men every single time

you tell me

 

[Caaro]

It’s better this way. Divorce isn’t that deep in Islam afaik, if the marriage isn’t working then you can bail out if you want.

Not true. Divorce is very serious, if things aren’t working out then you have to do everything you can to make them work. Only after you’ve exhausted all means can you divorce.

That’s jaahiliya behaviour to just divorce because there’s a problem that can be overcome.

 

[Basra]

I have seen this happen quite often, two couples divorce and within months or less than a year they both have remarried.

Somalis don't care if they been divorced 10x they will move on to the next husband/wife.

In other cultures like Indians and arabs this is looked down at.

The trick for couples to be together for a long, long, long time, u have to do a math.


Find someone vastly better than you, or someone vastly worst than you.


The power dynamic has to be stark.


One spouse has to be desperate.


For example : if you are good looking find a spouse who is ugly


If you are rich, find a poor spouse and make sure they depend on you. (farah from the west marry a fob wifey and leave her in somalia. and Xalima in the west the same)



Or make things less complicated



Be Pious & someone of high Diin and marry a spouse who is higher in diin or same. With diin, the balance will be naturally balance as both of you will fear Allaah swt

 

[so_wavey]

I don't think so my cousin married a guy with good quality And a high status in the community.

some guy also went to the moon ofcourse it can happen but im talking about the majority of times

 

[Singularity]

I mean, it's a good thing that we don't look down upon divorcees the same way other cultures do, right?

 

[Singularity]

I'm not mad at how we do it (or at least used to do it). Our approach to divorce is why I have so many uncles, aunts and cousins who I love today. All 4 of my grandparents got divorced and remarried.

 

[Emily]

Apparently they don’t respect marriage