Signs of an Abusive Partner

[Ubax45_]

"Anyone can be an abuser. They come from all groups, all cultures, all religions, all economic levels, and all backgrounds. They can be your neighbor, your pastor, your friend, your child's teacher, a relative, a coworker -- anyone. It is important to note that the majority of abusers are only violent with their current or past intimate partners. One study found 90% of abusers do not have criminal records and abusers are generally law-abiding outside the home.

There is no one typical, detectable personality of an abuser. However, they do often display common characteristics.

• An abuser often denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect on the victim and other family members.
• An abuser objectifies the victim and often sees them as their property or sexual objects.
• An abuser has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world. He or she may appear successful, but internally, they feel inadequate.
• An abuser externalizes the causes of their behavior. They blame their violence on circumstances such as stress, their partner's behavior, a "bad day," on alcohol, drugs, or other factors.
• An abuser may be pleasant and charming between periods of violence and is often seen as a "nice person" to others outside the relationship.

Red flags and warning signs of an abuser include but are not limited to:

• Extreme jealousy
• Possessiveness
• Unpredictability
• A bad temper
• Cruelty to animals
• Verbal abuse
• Extremely controlling behavior
• Antiquated beliefs about roles of women and men in relationships
• Forced sex or disregard of their partner's unwillingness to have sex
• Sabotage of birth control methods or refusal to honor agreed upon methods
• Blaming the victim for anything bad that happens
• Sabotage or obstruction of the victim's ability to work or attend school
• Controls all the finances
• Abuse of other family members, children or pets
• Accusations of the victim flirting with others or having an affair
• Control of what the victim wears and how they act
• Demeaning the victim either privately or publicly
• Embarrassment or humiliation of the victim in front of others
• Harassment of the victim at work"

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

 

[iui]

Applies to females as well

 

[Ubax45_]

Applies to females as well

Yup, hence he/she

 

[Hemaal]

Have you experienced abusive relationship or something?

 

[Inquisitive_]

These quickademic listing are as useless as those telling you to drink 8 glasses a day or have 5 portions of fruit, those writing such bull crap have usually no experience in this field or street smarts, quasi beta cucks or clueless feminists desk jockeys.

There is two ways to look at this problem, there is a cultural/physiological predisposition angle to some man from certain cultures/backgrounds whom are easy to spot, but a far bigger number are those males that have been mercilessly provoked into this by the female.

I have 8 sisters, despite decades of provocations never got close to even threatening them never mind beating them, the idea never even came to my head but I have met some women in my jahiiliya days particularly quasi gangster/ghetto types that out of curiosity I briefly flirted with (big mistake) and equally quickly walked away from.

But if you forced me in a house with most of them + I wasn't afraid of Allah neither the Law, I would have choked these es to death never mind beating them up which is a mercy, they are filthy vile human beings that need cleansing from this planet, it was my first awakening to the other side of the problem which you never hear about, because the narrative is always a innocent lovely women being abused mercilessly which is mostly a minority issue.

These women have the nerve to step up to a man physically, I am just very fortunate none of them tried this with me due to my size otherwise I would have spent some time behind bars, but they frequently got away with beating up and slapping around a lot of beta cucks and verbally abusing them in the most vicious ways.

This important distinction needs to be made, if you step up to a man physically or in a vicious verbal way, you lost your womenhood and deserve nothing but a good vicious beating to bring you down to earth and crush that entitlement, this malarky never touch a lady is why this has become a pandemic in the first place.

 

[Ubax45_]

Would it add or take away from my post if I didn't? don't see a

These quickademic listing are as useless as those telling you to drink 8 glasses a day or have 5 portions of fruit, those writing such bull crap have usually no experience in this field or street smarts, quasi beta cucks or clueless feminists desk jockeys.

There is two ways to look at this problem, there is a cultural/physiological predisposition angle to some man from certain cultures/backgrounds whom are easy to spot, but a far bigger number are those males that have been mercilessly provoked into this by the female.

I have 8 sisters, despite decades of provocations never got close to even threatening them never mind beating them, the idea never even came to my head but I have met some women in my jahiiliya days particularly quasi gangster/ghetto types that out of curiosity I briefly flirted with (big mistake) and equally quickly walked away from.

But if you forced me in a house with most of them + I wasn't afraid of Allah neither the Law, I would have choked these es to death never mind beating them up which is a mercy, they are filthy vile human beings that need cleansing from this planet, it was my first awakening to the other side of the problem which you never hear about, because the narrative is always a innocent lovely women being abused mercilessly which is mostly a minority issue.

These women have the nerve to step up to a man physically, I am just very fortunate none of them tried this with me due to my size otherwise I would have spent some time behind bars, but they frequently got away with beating up and slapping around a lot of beta cucks and verbally abusing them in the most vicious ways.

This important distinction needs to be made, if you step up to a man physically or in a vicious verbal way, you lost your womenhood and deserve nothing but a good vicious beating to bring you down to earth and crush that entitlement, this malarky never touch a lady is why this has become a pandemic in the first place.

So your saying that in a majority of cases, men are provoked? What happened to taking responsibility for one's actions?
The situation your describing is one in which both parties are abusive which is not what I'm talking about.

 

[Burhan]

Most of the suggestions and signs don't apply to communities from a different background like Somalis.

- A Somali would have no Dog to abuse for example. They run from the animal at first sight much less raise and keep one

And few other purported signs of an abusive person that can actually be someone's personality who is not abusive.



May be this is useful to someone with no attachment to their own culture and require new set of guidelines to be a descent human.


Somalis have their own set of conflict resolutions that work. A woman should not stay in an abusive relationship and put herself at risk. Don't change a broken man, leave him and find someone better.

 

[Burhan]

Have you experienced abusive relationship or something?

From her Zeal to want to confront the abuse, seems that way. Or she believes this is common among Somalis and she wants to raise an awareness even though that would not be an accurate claim.

May be this is common among the youth who drink and do drugs. The young Somalis who lack solid foundation in their own culture. The kind you confuse with others except for their looks.

Whatever floats her boat.

 

[XamarCade]

Sign of a abusive woman:

She says more than 25 words a day.

 

[Ubax45_]

Most of the suggestions and signs don't apply to communities from a different background like Somalis.

- A Somali would have no Dog to abuse for example. They run from the animal at first sight much less raise and keep one

And few other purported signs of an abusive person that can actually be someone's personality who is not abusive.



May be this is useful to someone with no attachment to their own culture and require new set of guidelines to be a descent human.


Somalis have their own set of conflict resolutions that work. A woman should not stay in an abusive relationship and put herself at risk. Don't change a broken man, leave him and find someone better.

A person doesn't need to have a dog as a pet in order to torture or mistreat animals.

 

[Ubax45_]

From her Zeal to want to confront the abuse, seems that way. Or she believes this is common among Somalis and she wants to raise an awareness even though that would not be an accurate claim.

May be this is common among the youth who drink and do drugs. The young Somalis who lack solid foundation in their own culture. The kind you confuse with others except for their looks.

Whatever floats her boat.

Thanks for speaking on my behalf.

I don't think it's common but I do think it exists. There's people, including those on this forum, who deny it exists at all. It's also not limited to people that are unattached to their culture, otherwise you wouldn't see it amongst older folks.

I'm not here to talk about my personal life nor is it relevant to the discussion.

 

[star]

This is one of my biggest fears

 

[Burhan]

Thanks for speaking on my behalf.

I don't think it's common but I do think it exists. There's people, including those on this forum, who deny it exists at all. It's also not limited to people that are unattached to their culture, otherwise you wouldn't see it amongst older folks.

I'm not here to talk about my personal life nor is it relevant to the discussion.

Best ways to bring about change is to take your program directly to where it is needed the most. Where you saw the abuse happen. The older folks as a start assuming your claim is based on you witnessing the abuse happen.

You seem to have some personal experience with the abuse. So far, three threads and you don't seem to accept this is not common among our community. Take your program directly to where the abuse happens that you know if you are serious about it.

 

[Burhan]

A person doesn't need to have a dog as a pet in order to torture or mistreat animals.

If you have something tailored to Somalis, post it.

 

[Ubax45_]

Best ways to bring about change is to take your program directly to where it is needed the most. Where you saw the abuse happen. The older folks as a start assuming your claim is based on you witnessing the abuse happen.

You seem to have some personal experience with the abuse. So far, three threads and you don't seem to accept this is not common among our community. Take your program directly to where the abuse happens that you know if you are serious about it.

I didn't say it was common, I said it exists, please work on your reading comprehension.

"Your program"- This is an online discussion forum where people discuss topics, each topic does not lead to some sort of program being piloted.

This is my second thread on this topic, but whose counting? If there are regulations as to how many threads can be made on topic direct me towards it.