Shout out all my single mothers

[Jungle]

Theres genuinely single mothers taking several children to school, dugsi and tuition by them damn selves. I see it myself and my utmost respect goes out to those women
I was raised by a single mother with several siblings and we're all above 22 adults now but a huge amount of odayaasha are bums. My youngest half sibling is 5 .

 

[Juke]

I'm not talking about anyone personally but this is a big problem for Somalis in the west. Single motherhood isn't a good thing. It shouldn't be glamorized. Reality is, not only will the mother live a harder life, but the children are more likely to be: less successful in school, make less money, and get involved in crime...as compared to a healthy two parent home.

 

[Macalin M]

I'm not talking about anyone personally but this is a big problem for Somalis in the west. Single motherhood isn't a good thing. It shouldn't be glamorized. Reality is, not only will the mother live a harder life, but the children are more likely to be: less successful in school, make less money, and get involved in more crime...as compared to a healthy two parent home.

It’s not only the west. Back home too

 

[Jungle]

I'm not talking about anyone personally but this is a big problem for Somalis in the west. Single motherhood isn't a good thing. It shouldn't be glamorized. Reality is, not only will the mother live a harder life, but the children are more likely to be: less successful in school, make less money, and get involved in more crime...as compared to a healthy two parent home.

I dont think somalis glamourize it all and I also think somalis that have experienced or seen their hooyo go through really doing it on her own will put their kids through that. All you always say we're not like the Madows i agree and we wont repeat the cycle like they do when it comes to child. Like i said the gen before trash.

 

[Juke]

I dont think somalis glamourize it all and I also think somalis that have experienced or seen their hooyo go through really doing it on her own will put their kids through that. All you always say we're not like the Madows i agree and we wont repeat the cycle like they do when it comes to child. Like i said the gen before trash.

Hopefully this generation of Somalis doesn't repeat the cycle, but I think it will get worse and worse. It's a cycle of poverty. The dysfunctional children will get into relationships with other dysfunctional people, have children and eventually leave each other.

 

[Jungle]

Hopefully this generation of Somalis doesn't repeat the cycle, but I think it will get worse and worse. It's a cycle of poverty. The dysfunctional children will get into relationships with other dysfunctional people, have children and eventually leave each other.

I reckon it will get worse overall but its not just the children raised by single mothers. Ive seen people ive grown up with 2 parent households and theyre just as bad or worse than then 1 parent household theres something with somalis way of raising children in the west. Idk mayne

 

[Gambar]

Wallahi waa ruunta. I don’t know how my parents did it. My parents were 19/20 and they had 7 of us little rascals. I complain but I have to put myself in check because our parents dealt with a lot more than us.

 

[TekNiKo]

Alx I had a father, without him surely I would have went astray. He taught me who I am and gave me an identity, something alot of single mothers fail to instill in their children. Infact its the opposite, "Aabaha loser waaye", "Nin Soomali ha isku guursan" etc etc. Imagine a son hearing this message over and over in his childhood. Of course they will seek fatherhood in the gangs and the female with ajnabi.

Its why we have a massive rise in s and gangbangers it all comes down to lost identity.

 

[Gambar]

Alx I had a father, without him surely I would have went astray. He taught me who I am and gave me an identity, something alot of single mothers fail to instill in their children. Infact its the opposite, "Aabaha loser waaye", "Nin Soomali ha isku guursan" etc etc. Imagine a son hearing this message over and over in his childhood. Of course they will seek fatherhood in the gangs and the female with ajnabi.

Its why we have a massive rise in ****s and gangbangers it all comes down to lost identity.

If the fathers were around then they’d have a better impact on their children. They must step up.

 

[TekNiKo]

If the fathers were around then they’d have a better impact on their children. They must step up.

Fathers are miskiin and rarely intiate divorce aabayaasha waa dulmanyihin bac madowna loo dhigay

 

[Mad-MullaH]

[ there are alot of wild single moms

 

[Gambar]

Fathers are miskiin and rarely intiate divorce aabayaasha waa dulmanyihin bac madowna loo dhigay

What does that have to do with being in your child’s life?

 

[Yukon_Niner]

I actually had no idea single mothers existed in the Somali community till I came to this forum. I'm still amazed some Somali kids into grew up with a mother and no dad.

 

[Mad-MullaH]

What does that have to do with being in your child’s life?

Some hoees file restrainting order...they set up the husband...911 he beat me up he abused me..bit ch be lying.

 

[Juke]

Some ***es file restrainting order...they set up the husband...911 he beat me up he abused me..bit ch be lying.

True, I know multiple instances of that

 

[Cyrus]

What does that have to do with being in your child’s life?

Somali fathers tend to avoid any conflict and give women too much lee ways. You will see fathers sleep in their friends house just to ensure the children dont see the tha their is dyfunction/conflict in the household.

Also, women tend to badmouth the father so that the children grow up hating him and when they meet him- its hard to clear up all those misconeptions you heard about him. Its indoctrination ad nauseum on the part of the mother who is usually scorned and has some irrational hatred for the father. It may seem like fathers dont want to be involved in their childrens lives but thats not the case, even those who try cant do much when the kids have heard 'aabaha loser waaye' 'Abaaha oo kala ha noqon' all their lives. Its hard to turn their feelings around so many just dont bother.

 

[Jungle]

Somali fathers tend to avoid any conflict and give women too much lee ways. You will see fathers sleep in their friends house just to ensure the children dont see the tha their is dyfunction/conflict in the household.

Also, women tend to badmouth the father so that the children grow up hating him and when they meet him- its hard to clear up all those misconeptions you heard about him. Its indoctrination ad nauseum on the part of the mother who is usually scorned and has some irrational hatred for the father. It may seem like fathers dont want to be involved in their childrens lives but thats not the case, even those who try cant do much when the kids have heard 'aabaha loser waaye' 'Abaaha oo kala ha noqon' all their lives. Its hard to turn their feelings around so many just dont bother.

all this weren't needed. Put in that work to see your kids, it dont matter whether a legal ting or just work around the womans petty ways if you have to either way the thread werent about all that. Show love or kick rocks.

 

[Cyrus]

all this weren't needed. Put in that work to see your kids, it dont matter whether a legal ting or just work around the womans petty ways if you have to either the thread werent about all that. Show love or kick rocks.

If you want us to normalise and glamorise single motherhood then you are in the wrong space sxb.

 

[Mozart]

Tbh a lot of the fathers fail to keep in contact with their kids. Very rarely do you see Somali single mothers discourage the kids from seeing their father.

 

[Addislad]

@Basra has been so busy during Ramadan