Should it be considered child abuse if your hooyo yells at you?

[DangerBadan]

I feel like it should be child abuse.

 

[Sheikh Kulkuli]

How but you accept when tyrone does the same?

 

[Khaem]

 

[Fobnimo Till I Dhimo]

Ciyaal boolis speed dial crew waa so bateen gahhhhdamn

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

I feel like it should be child abuse.

No, think of it as 'hub wa hannaan - love and care'. In general terms, here are two scenario to consider:

a) Child X: Mother has a laissez-faire approach to child rearing, let him do as he pleases, and child has a monopoly over his domain: does, comes and goes as he pleases. Here, mother has her own life, mind hers, and lets the child manage his, to a degree.
b) Child Y: Mother is fully engaged in child's life to the point of interfering in her daily goings from homework and school work to social activities, to a degree. Here, mother's life evolves round that of the child, and manages child's life to fruition, to a degree.

With exceptions of course, in their old age, X is likely to grow up as an aloof, less affectionate, possibly anti-social being with less regard for his mother, or intimate relationships, with there being a discernible distance, in emotion or otherwise, whereas Y grows up to appreciate her mother, in her old age, even more, acknowledges the sacrifices being made on her behalf, and what was once deemed 'interference' is now regarded as as a form of 'care', and therein between them, blossoms a much closer relationship. Unlike X, Y is more likely to engage in affectionate, long-term relationships, romantic or otherwise.

In the case of X, mother ends up in a hospice, with possible annual visitation, as frequently happens, whereas with Y, mother passes her twilight years either in the family home, with her daughter of course, or with her daughter and her family.

Of the two, which would you choose?

 

[Zo206]

Thats discipline it aint no child abuse

 

[Dango]

it depends. did the child miss behave? then no but is the child innocent? Yes