Doesn’t work in Somali context. The vast majority of Faraxs still expect to be the head of the household (nothing wrong with that) and even if he does help, the wife would be doing the bulk of the cooking and cleaning. Also, men and women simply aren’t equal. We go through more physical toil such as pregnancy and all the things that go with it. As a woman you need insurance that this man will step up during the times in which you’re vulnerable.
Anyways, to the ladies. Don’t expect a great man if he is out there making you pay. If we’re going to keep it real, you shouldn’t be dating dating, but even in a halal context the man is meant to pay when he sees you and your family. Believe me, if he makes you and your fam go halves ect your parents will be disgusted. Those types of men are simply stingy. A stingy man isn’t just stingy with his money, but also with this time, compliments and love. Avoid them.
Masculine men tend to like providing for women they’re serious about. The same men who advocate for 50/50 will also admit that if their dream woman was to walk through the door they’d 100% pay. That is why you can’t take them serious. Obviously, every relationship is different. We’re not talking about a man that can’t afford to give you certain things, but even those men will try and spoil you but within their means and range.
