Second marriages

[Ferrari]

It's his hooyo I think because she said it when we were planning and he's very flashy, always has to have the latest gadgets and designer clothes. Theyre quite secular, his mum barely wears hijab.

that explains it.
well are u really uncomfortable with the idea mise u can cope with it?
if it doesn't absolutely bother u, let them blow the money. if it does, tell him.

 

[Shamis]

that explains it.
well are u really uncomfortable with the idea mise u can cope with it?
if it doesn't absolutely bother u, let them blow the money. if it does, tell him.

People will judge me, it will ruin my night knowing I'm being gossiped about. If was 25 and divorced no biggie but I'm three years away from middle age (35). I feel like I'll just do it to make them happy but he owes me.

 

[Ferrari]

People will judge me, it will ruin my night knowing I'm being gossiped about. If was 25 and divorced no biggie but I'm three years away from middle age (35). I feel like I'll just do it to make them happy but he owes me.

or u can take it more positively, how many 32 year old divorced somali women get a lavish wedding?
it shouldn't ruin ur night.

 

[Shamis]

or u can take it more positively, how many 32 year old divorced somali women get a lavish wedding?
it shouldn't ruin ur night.

Thank you. But this lavish wedding is for his ego and his mum, not for me. He's also very cadaan and has no Somali friends, I suspect he's also showing off to them.

 

[Ferrari]

Thank you. But this lavish wedding is for his ego and his mum, not for me. He's also very cadaan and has no Somali friends, I suspect he's also showing off to them.

he most likely is.
Good luck.

 

[BANTU]

Of course I'm embarrassed, I'm the one people will judge for having a big wedding the second time around.

Sure, but people will judge you for marrying period, 1st 2nd or 3rd. People will judge you a thousand times for a thousand things. The only opinion that matters is yours

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[Shamis]

Sure, but people will judge you for marrying period, 1st 2nd or 3rd. People will judge you a thousand times for a thousand things. The only opinion that matters is yours

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Thanks sweetheart.

 

[BANTU]

Thanks sweetheart.

You're welcome.

 

[embarassing]

congrats sis, may Allah swt bless it.

 

[GeelJirito]

Mabruuk @Shamis

 

[BenInHer]

all the best @Shamis

 

[DeadStar]

Am i the only one who just wants a Nikkah?

Then we can just f*ck and live happily ever after.

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

You’re manipulating him subconsciously and he doesn’t even know it. I bet your first wedding your family paid half of it now you’re manipulating him to folk out a hefty sum on a wedding for a woman that’s been already used naa illahay ka cabso and tell him you want an apple ee saan isku dhaan saan sii ma ahaan illahay raali kama ahaa waxas cunning iyo conniving ba tahay May Allah protect him from your fitna.

 

[Mercury]

I did but his mum wants a wedding worthy of a tape and I just want dinner and buraanbur, no video. When he first got married he had no money and just graduated, that's why he's acting up.

Soo the dude is on his second marriage as well?

 

[Shamis]

Soo the dude is on his second marriage as well?

Yes he is. Not many men my age who aren't to be honest.

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

Naag illahay aflagaado iyo blasphemy intas la soo iistagan ma guur gaasha weeye su’aasha hadu illahay ku roon yahay naag Christian ah miise Jewish waa guursankarta laakinse naag oo hataa illahay aaminsaneyn illahay ba kugu dharshee Hindu temple mu kugu guursan war aniga ma walaan miise caden ba lagaa heesayaa

 

[TSP]

@Shamis, what you said earlier about finding the right balance seems best. Inshallah everything goes well and I hope you enjoy your wedding night. May Allah swt bless your marriage ameen

 

[Mercury]

Btw congrats @Shamis

 

[sanger]

People will judge me, it will ruin my night knowing I'm being gossiped about. If was 25 and divorced no biggie but I'm three years away from middle age (35). I feel like I'll just do it to make them happy but he owes me.

Haters gonna hate. Don't worry about what they think.

 

[Figo]

People will judge me, it will ruin my night knowing I'm being gossiped about. If was 25 and divorced no biggie but I'm three years away from middle age (35). I feel like I'll just do it to make them happy but he owes me.

This why you don't invite strangers to your wedding. They'll gossip about you, your food, your man, the air etc Waa dad xoolo that have nothing better to do.

All the best Shamis. May Allah bless your marriage.