"Responsibilities and Priorities of Somali Fathers: A Discussion"
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Personally I’m not supporting his new kids. If you got the energy to create them you gave the energy to provide for them.
Lmfao, I'm the guy who posted that on reddit
At the end, I told him I'm not going to support his kids and if I do support him, I plan on personally auditing every dollar to make sure it only goes to him.
Xasiid? Yes but if you're going to divorce my mother, marry another, have kids, and got the guts to ask me for money, who's really being xasiid now?
At the end, I told him I'm not going to support his kids and if I do support him, I plan on personally auditing every dollar to make sure it only goes to him.
Xasiid? Yes but if you're going to divorce my mother, marry another, have kids, and got the guts to ask me for money, who's really being xasiid now?
we are a kinship based society and we have a responsibility to look after or keep tabs on all our relatives, the fella who wrote this oughta support his father and his half siblings. I do understand him feeling betrayal and being angry at his father as he was not informed, thats more than normal. But he shouldn’t ostracise and build hatred towards his fathers second wife or his half siblings.
I'm the dude who posted that story and can reply.
I've got zero issues with him marrying another wife and having kids, it's his choice. He never needed approval from me, my mother, or anyone else.
I'm pissed that he's asking me to bankroll his 4th family while I've never been married and drowning in $30k in student loans. I've got exactly zero responsibility for his actions, his wife, or his kids.
I agree that your father is wrong, and you shouldn’t be forced to help him. But your younger siblings are innocent, they didn’t ask to be born. How many kids does he have, and how old are they? At least try to be supportive of them and develop a relationship with them. Imagine being an innocent child and you find out your older siblings don’t want anything to do with you all because of something your father did
Gojo Satoru
Staff Member
Abos like this guy are the weakest link in the community
I understand and I’d encourage him to do it not for the sake of society but for the sake of his Akhira.
One of the many reasons why you find Old Somali men having children with women significantly younger despite knowing they have 0 energy to raise their kids and that their young wife will end up being a young widow raising kids alone causing many societal issues is due to the fact that they know they can easily throw their responsibilities on to their sons and daughters. I know several cases of fathers remarry despite not be able to afford it and they get their grown children to provide for the kids despite that said father actually never proper raising them and those grown kids being raised on benefits of the Western governments of the country they were raised in. Literallly remember having a conversation with a friend of mine who felt used and resentful towards her father, they always lived on benefits whilst her father did as he pleased, but Alhamdulliah we reminded her that life is short and she’ll be rewarded for her good deeds. Pleasing parents is an easy door to Jannah.
I really hope young Somali men learn from the abhorrent selfishness of the older gen of men. They’ve single-handedly contributed to the gender wars as this is the nonsense many Somali women are being raised to see.
Gojo Satoru
Staff Member
It's dumb af to create a family you can't provide for. His dad should've thought about that before getting his gus wet. He's putting that 68 iq stereotype to work
With that being said try to help out if you can
Some parents want their kids to finance their dumb decisions and will use religion as a guilt tripIt's dumb af to create a family you can't provide for. His dad should've thought about that before getting his gus wet. He's putting that 68 iq stereotype to work
With that being said try to help out if you can
His dad is grown and knew what he was doing. He destroyed his first marriage and abandoned his family just so he can start a new life. Mac sonkor
I just feel bad for the new children. Kids are innocent and it sucks when they are affected by their parents dumb decisions
Gojo Satoru
Staff Member
I agree the kids had nothing to do with their parents dumb decisions and that's why he should help them out here and there. Also it's easier when your siblings pitch in too offloading the burden all to one person will make them heavily resent you
Good point. He didn’t mention if he was the only child from his parent’s marriage. Hopefully he has siblings who can help lessen the load
I'm the 2nd son and in his 3rd set of kids, the only set he raised in the states. My set is the most educated and highest earners due to going to college, taking out loans, and being raised off our state's welfare system.
I've got my own future to build and I'm not going to let it be derailed by the selfishness of a single man
