Question regarding polygamy in Islam

[Abdisamad]

@Abdisamad3 would you be fine with your wife speaking and flirting with other guys

I'm not white..
Only white people do the wife swapping thing.

 

[HalimaJ]

So are yall going to India and China to avoid polygamy.. Be prepared to be fed dog meat and cover yourself in cow dung:siilaanyolaugh:

My point is that at the moment there isn't more women than men.

 

[Abdisamad]

My point is that at the moment there isn't more women than men.

Yes in certain parts of the world there is.
An example could be Somalia both diaspora and backhome, Norway & Iceland. Just to name few.

 

[HalimaJ]

Yes in certain parts of the world there is.
An example could be Somalia both diaspora and backhome, Norway & Iceland. Just to name few.

Statistics?

 

[Abdisamad]

Statistics?

Just checked out the statistics..
I was wrong

 

[HalimaJ]

Just checked out the statistics..
I was wrong

Maybe in a 50 yrs or so there will be more women as there is a sahih hadith that there will be more women.

At the moment its pretty even, so you can't use that line on me.

 

[Molotoff]

If someone doesn't want to be in a polygamous marriage then they don't want it so why force it??

You want women to be depressed and hurt in their own marriages??

Islamically a woman can put a no polygamy clause in her contract, in which if you do break the contract then you have to release her.

A marriage is not a football contract where you can add clauses.

 

[HalimaJ]

War dumarkuu ma xoolo markii la sii deynaya. Release her in to the wild miyaa.

Loooool.

You know what I meant by that.

But if he marries again he has broken the marriage contract.

 

[HalimaJ]

A marriage is not a football contract where you can add clauses.

Islamically it is.

Instead of qashining my post, read up on the deen and if you have a problem quarrel with people of knowledge instead of harassing me.

 

[Abdisamad]

And you dont think its a valid reason she dont want to be a 2nd wife?

Forget what I think I wanted to know what Islam says on the issue.

 

[AIOPZ]

Guys some women are not happy with polygamy and they're saying if their husband gets a second wife they'll ask for their divorce paper from.. Islamically is this a valid reason to get divorced for the woman? What's the deens view on such woman? Can the husband tell her to bounce off and mind her house and kids instead of divorcing her?

Women are very protective of their husbands and jealousy gets to even the best of them. Even the wives of the Prophet (RA) were documented to have experienced jealousy of one another. However, if a man is both financially and physically able to provide for another spouse then Allah (subhanu wa tala) has made it permissible than he may take on another wife. If his first wife truly does not want her husband to engage in a polygamous marriage, she can divorce him and return her mehr.

“No woman asks her husband for a divorce for no reason, but the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden for her.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood and others, and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him).

 

[Degmada waaberi]

Guys some women are not happy with polygamy and they're saying if their husband gets a second wife they'll ask for their divorce paper from.. Islamically is this a valid reason to get divorced for the woman? What's the deens view on such woman? Can the husband tell her to bounce off and mind her house and kids instead of divorcing her?

Sxb you have to accept the fact that some women DO NOT want their husband to get another wife wee adag tahay inad aragtid naag raali ka ah in la la guursado.

I recall few months ago when I was speaking to 4 gabdho and I posed the question to each one (I was not speaking to all of them at the same time obviously) "maxad ka qabta hadii aan xaas kale gadaasha ka guursado?" And out of the 4 only one was OK with, I tried to persuade the other 3 laakiin I couldn't change their mind.

It's best to talk about these things before marriage otherwise problems could arise later on. If you want a 2nd wife discuss it with gabarta aad guursan rabtid and if she doesn't like the idea than move to the next, waxan la yaabe niman marka gabarta su'aasha weydiiso xaas kale ma guursane and he replies with NO and than later on his seen with another wife aisgo hiding ku jira camal, nin weyn oo been sheegayo

 

[Abdisamad]

Women are very protective of their husbands and jealousy gets to even the best of them. Even the wives of the Prophet (RA) were documented to have experienced jealousy of one another. However, if a man is both financially and physically able to provide for another spouse then Allah (subhanu wa tala) has made it permissible than he may take on another wife. If his first wife truly does not want her husband to engage in a polygamous marriage, she can divorce him and return her mehr.

“No woman asks her husband for a divorce for no reason, but the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden for her.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood and others, and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him).

Very clear answer to my question..
Thanks sxb

 

[Mercury]

Forget what I think I wanted to know what Islam says on the issue.

Islamically she can add that she doesnt want to be second wife in the marriage contract

 

[Zahra]

Guys some women are not happy with polygamy and they're saying if their husband gets a second wife they'll ask for their divorce paper from.. Islamically is this a valid reason to get divorced for the woman? What's the deens view on such woman? Can the husband tell her to bounce off and mind her house and kids instead of divorcing her?

First ask yourself if the guy is thinking/wanting a second wife for the right reasons. Is he doing it for lust, for the religion, or does he have ulterior motives. Also the woman should know from the beginning if her husband will want a second wife eventually so that it comes as no surprise to her. If she didnt agree to him eventually marrying another woman later on then there will be serious problems and she might definitely seek a divorce or give him an ultimatum.

 

[Lex Luther]

Imagine banging all 4 wives in the same night, then mentally note comparing who was the tighest and loudest of them all that night, ooooh how sweet it is, guys may Allah bless us all in attaining that goal, Ameen.

 

[jumu]

It is allowed for him Islamically to marry two, three or four women due to the saying of Allāh:

فَانكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً

“..marry other women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them, then only one..” An-Nisaa: 3

Those who speak ill of plural marriages (polygyny) are affected by the modern day Christian ideology (which itself is not the way of the Prophets). So some Muslims speak with the arguments of the Christians claiming that polygyny is oppressive towards women. This is not the case in reality at all! It is not unjust upon women. Rather there is in it justice for women and goodness. If a man transgresses against any of his wives then he is reprimanded for his transgressions. Allaah, the Majestic and Most High, has obligated justice:

“And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of other women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then marry only one..” An-Nisaa 4:3