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Young marriages are indeed Sunnah. Only issue is how is a 16 yr old boy in the West living in a rubbish economy married to a childish 16 yr old going to navigate their marriage?
At one point, a lot of teens were being Salafis in London and at the time, there were a rise in young marriages. Now the majority of them are divorced. To top if off it's young women who suffer the consequences as they're labelled divorcees and are single mothers before their life has proper started.
We have the same issues back home btw, especially in major cities. I was shocked to see so many 18 yr old with 2 kids are already with some trying find husband no2. But at least back home, the cost of living is cheaper.
But you're correct if worse comes to worst I'd much rather they actually got married instead of falling into Zina, but generally speaking that isn't an issue for the majority. I'd like to think my kids would not behave like animals and have self control.
Yeah finances are probably the biggest hurdle stopping people from getting married young. I dislike the idea of getting a nikah done but then both still living in their family homes. There is zero responsibility to provide on the male’s part while he has access to intimacy. I think middle eastern’s cracked the code because so many of them where I live got married during uni and lived in a small one bedroom apartment together. Which Mashallah is very smart because you get support from bursaries/scholarships/loans, your part time job and maybe even your parents.
Agreed young women get the end of the stick but at least in the Somali community there is less stigma on being a divorcée.
Also, the sad reality is that this push for really young marriages in the West can cause issues like men treating the marriage as some sort of halal girlfriend situation rather than a fully fledged marriage that comes with responsibilities.
The amount of stories i've come across in which the wife is practically in a marriage where the husband provides nothing whilst he gets access to her and she's still stuck at home under her father's roof is staggering. That is practically misyr marriage.
Men and women can still get married young. 22 is young. At that point you've finished uni and you can secure a graduate job. If your other half is willing to live with your parents for a while as well, you can both work, save up and maybe put a deposit using a halal mortgage. I just find the concept of a jobless teenager with no income whatsoever, getting married rather insane. The man should at least have a job, be at least financially literate and on his way to going up the professional ladder. I think anything else results in exploitation 9/10 times and its the women and children that get the brunt of it.
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Sad but true
