People who force friendship with their family in-laws

[Aegon]

I never get that

I'm talking about those men who want to be friends with their brother-in-law, or those women who want to be friends with their sisters-in-law or their mother-in-law, where does that come from? me in my time, in my parents' time, there wasn't that, there was mutual respect between the two families but we didn't see each other mixing together every day.

 

[hamar_oo_iidil]

If you love your wife, you love her family too. It's just an extension of your love for your spouse as oppose to anything else bro.

I know a cousin, her husband and elder brother are around the same age and they are very close friends to such an extent that when he isn't with his wife he's probably with her brother. I think that's beautiful. Nothing worse than making your wife feel isolated from her own family because of her marriage to you.

 

[Falaar]

Sxb somali sayings are most of the time on point

Xidid isla degay waa xaar isla degay.

Of course this talks about living together, but in a wider sense it makes sense when it comes with your in-laws. Its honestly wise to keep some distance and keep some barriers because if you're too friendly then the in-laws will let their guard down and push your limits knowingly or unknowingly...which will lead to you having issues with them and then eventually you will burst and well there is no coming back from that.

Saying all that lool I haven't really followed that saying...I'm cool and friendly with my in-laws but at the same time I don't get too inner.

Btw in the west people are too busy and kinda miskiin for there to be big problems but back home in somalia no lie...you best be keeping a big distance from your in-laws.

 

[jemappelle]

If you love your wife, you love her family too. It's just an extension of your love for your spouse as oppose to anything else bro.

shush u dont need to love ur wifes family

 

[jemappelle]

@Qeelbax WHy are u qaashining me for saying tht, ur a clear hater, ur telling me if ur husbands family is qaashin themselves ur going to love them?

 

[Qeelbax]

I will put in effort to know and befriend my future husbands family. I don't understand why someone wouldn't want to get along with their spouses family. Nobody is saying you have to be besties and treat them like your family but you should at minimum have an acquaintance to friends type of relationship.

Irl I have never had a problem with someone and I'm quite easy going, so if the family isn't evil to me, it should be pretty easy.

 

[Qeelbax]

@Qeelbax WHy are u qaashining me for saying tht, ur a clear hater, ur telling me if ur husbands family is qaashin themselves ur going to love them?

No but if you have a very negative outlook in life. Somali in-laws are not like Desis and are usually nice and leave you alone, yet you're jumping to the negative. Caadi iska dhig niiyahow.

 

[jemappelle]

No but if you have a very negative outlook in life. Somali in-laws are not like Desis and are usually nice and leave you alone, yet you're jumping to the negative. Caadi iska dhig niiyahow.

I said you DON'T need to love your wifes family not you SHOULDN'T.

 

[jemappelle]

No but if you have a very negative outlook in life. Somali in-laws are not like Desis and are usually nice and leave you alone, yet you're jumping to the negative. Caadi iska dhig niiyahow.

also whos to say your going to like them as people, you cant force someone to love someones family.

 

[Qeelbax]

I said you DON'T need to love your wifes family not you SHOULDN'T.

like I said there was need to give a negative response to a positive post. You're negative, just accept it.

also whos to say your going to like them as people, you cant force someone to love someones family.

Nobody said you have to, but you should try. Bye now.

 

[jemappelle]

. You're negative, just accept it.

Realistic not negative.
unrealistic expectations set you up for failure

 

[hinters]

Another painful read keep up the good work Aegon

 

[Yaraye]

I never get that

I'm talking about those men who want to be friends with their brother-in-law, or those women who want to be friends with their sisters-in-law or their mother-in-law, where does that come from? me in my time, in my parents' time, there wasn't that, there was mutual respect between the two families but we didn't see each other mixing together every day.

I can become friends with his side of the family but he cannot become friends with my side. If I ever divorce, I don't want my side of the family to go back to this bastard I also want his side of the family to be on my side

 

[Ragaasi]

I'd say it's recommended, not mandatory.

 

[Yaraye]

I never get that

I'm talking about those men who want to be friends with their brother-in-law, or those women who want to be friends with their sisters-in-law or their mother-in-law, where does that come from? me in my time, in my parents' time, there wasn't that, there was mutual respect between the two families but we didn't see each other mixing together every day.

it is best to keep them at arm's length especially MIL. a lot of MIL are the cause of divorce