My husband hit me many times
18-06-18, 03:09 AM
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakathu!
This is my third post here, I’ve written about my husband being violent to me before. But I honestly need help, because it hasn’t stopped. The only time I wasn’t afraid of him was the Ramadan. How sad, isn’t it?
We’ve been married for a little more than a year, and in that period he has hit me so many times that I cannot even count... And every time it’s getting worse and worse. I’m an European revert Muslim, and he is Arab. We live in one European country. I recently started working at the job, and of course, like in all my previous jobs, the boss doesn’t allow me to wear the hijab. So yesterday I was thinking a lot, and I came to the conclusion that I don’t really want to work in those conditions, and I would prefer staying at home. Note that my husband has always been telling me that he would like me to stay at home and be “the queen of the house”. Well, yesterday I told him my opinion, and I was hoping he would be happy and understanding. Instead, he visibly got annoyed, although he denied he was mad. I asked him what he recommends me to do. He told me that, at the moment, it’s a difficult decision because he is working a part-time job and we need the money. But I told him that I’m sick and tired of people (especially the bosses) commenting on my hijab, and that I’m disappointed that he prefers the money over me wanting to avoid haram. Also, a few months ago he DELIBERATELY QUIT HIS 100% HALAL JOB AT THE GROCERY STORE, just because he was working from Monday to Saturday!! And he had told me back then not to worry, Allah will provide for us in some way. So now I am wondering, why couldn’t he say the same when I want to leave my job, which is haram?! I told him that in Islam, I am not obligated to work and provide, and he started hitting me with fists on my head so hard and spitting on my face, and now I have lots of bruises and my skin is burning. I am on the verge of leaving him and going back to my country, because I cannot handle this anymore... All my patience has gone, I’m tired of my life... I don’t know how he can be so bad, and yet he prays every salat at the local mosque, reads the Qur’an and everything... I’m desperate...
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