(not all) Women are evil
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Barni
⚠️ EPILEPTIC WARNING ⚠️
You haven’t changed a single bit.
Honestly marriage ain't for everyone. It's a relationship that's built based on stability. A stable relationship requires a mentality geared towards favoring stability.
Some people prefer freedom over stability. I don't think, either as a man or a woman, you should marry these types of people. Because they'll get bored and they'll be uncommitted to the marriage.
I kind of blame both of them. I blame her for choosing a relationship not geared towards her mentality for 10 years. She needs to take accountability for her choices. I also blame him for not seeing the obvious red flag and avoiding the marriage.
Marriage ain't dead, it's just not for everyone. Know yourself and others before getting involved. That's my point of view.
Some people prefer freedom over stability. I don't think, either as a man or a woman, you should marry these types of people. Because they'll get bored and they'll be uncommitted to the marriage.
I kind of blame both of them. I blame her for choosing a relationship not geared towards her mentality for 10 years. She needs to take accountability for her choices. I also blame him for not seeing the obvious red flag and avoiding the marriage.
Marriage ain't dead, it's just not for everyone. Know yourself and others before getting involved. That's my point of view.
So your saying I’m consistent, thank you Barni my old friend.
Love the sympathy you men here have for other men. Really goes to show male bias on display here.
If a Somali woman married a mixed Caribbean man and I am talking a reverted one and he decided to exit the marriage, the amount of vile insults coming towards the Somali woman would be epic.
Men are never judged for supposedly picking ‘wrong’ not that I even believe in that nonsense point often bought up since people do change, mask and the list continues. There is a reason why you see many cases of people being married 10+ years sometimes even 30+ going their separate ways. Why? Humans evolve or sometimes devolve. No one is stagnant. This is something funnily enough many men can’t fathom unless it’s a man leaving a woman and all of a sudden it’s because she was bad! And never why did he choose her.
As for the couple and my real views on the matter:
Single people have a habit of not understanding that marriages aren’t what they seem. You don’t know how things are behind closed doors. You don’t know what relationship dilemmas they had to deal with and tbh you can’t expect her to air him out and vice versa since he is the father of her children and she’s the mother of his children so expect surface level hints.
Seriously unfortunately some people simply outgrow each other and end up arguing and causing more issues with each other married. I simply find it sad and hope both parties find happiness.
As for the whole women are evil? Pack it up, many on here have no issues with divorce provided it’s men leaving women for no reason. I remember you lot celebrating a man being married 20+ times knowing he had to have divorced 16 women and and a surplus of children in single mother homes. Men are ok with other men breaking families, it’s nothing but performative BS.
If a Somali woman married a mixed Caribbean man and I am talking a reverted one and he decided to exit the marriage, the amount of vile insults coming towards the Somali woman would be epic.
Men are never judged for supposedly picking ‘wrong’ not that I even believe in that nonsense point often bought up since people do change, mask and the list continues. There is a reason why you see many cases of people being married 10+ years sometimes even 30+ going their separate ways. Why? Humans evolve or sometimes devolve. No one is stagnant. This is something funnily enough many men can’t fathom unless it’s a man leaving a woman and all of a sudden it’s because she was bad! And never why did he choose her.
As for the couple and my real views on the matter:
Single people have a habit of not understanding that marriages aren’t what they seem. You don’t know how things are behind closed doors. You don’t know what relationship dilemmas they had to deal with and tbh you can’t expect her to air him out and vice versa since he is the father of her children and she’s the mother of his children so expect surface level hints.
Seriously unfortunately some people simply outgrow each other and end up arguing and causing more issues with each other married. I simply find it sad and hope both parties find happiness.
As for the whole women are evil? Pack it up, many on here have no issues with divorce provided it’s men leaving women for no reason. I remember you lot celebrating a man being married 20+ times knowing he had to have divorced 16 women and and a surplus of children in single mother homes. Men are ok with other men breaking families, it’s nothing but performative BS.
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Why would you marry that ? It’s his fault
Let’s strip away the poetic smokescreens for a second. This isn’t some profound story of spiritual growth, it’s a textbook example of what happens when a man trades conviction for comfort and calls it love.
This isn’t “male bias,” it’s male consequence. A brother tossed aside his deen, his culture, and his role as a leader to marry a woman who neither shared his faith nor respected the responsibilities that come with being in a Muslim household. And the reward? A public platform where modesty is mocked and marriage is background noise for content.
Men, take notes, not pity. The woman you choose is either an asset to your akhirah or a liability to your dignity. You don’t just vet her beauty, her manners, or whether she laughs at your jokes. You vet her submission to Allah, her willingness to follow your lead, and whether she respects your word without negotiation, within the limits of Islam.
Desire matters. Submission matters. Values matter. If she doesn’t genuinely want to follow you from the beginning, no amount of “emotional growth” will fix that. She’ll either quietly resent your authority or eventually label it “controlling” right before she walks away claiming she’s “evolved.”
Let’s be real, this isn’t about women being evil, it’s about men being careless with their standards. A wife isn’t someone you negotiate respect with, it’s someone who already sees you as a man worth following. If you have to teach her basic loyalty, you’ve already lost the frame and the future.
And no, this isn’t “toxic masculinity,” it’s leadership, responsibility, qawwamah. The structure Allah laid down. If she sees that as oppression, she’s not ready for marriage, she’s ready for Instagram.
Because at the end of the day, the same people defending her “growth” will still ask you, “Why did you choose her?” And in that moment, you won’t be able to blame anyone but the man in the mirror.
A trad religious man wouldn’t have married her. He clearly isn’t trad, hence the crux of the matter is, if you want a certain type of marriage you need to actually be following Allah’s laws in the beginning.
As for women negotiating, that’s completely normal and within the bounds of Islam. Women aren’t robots. If there were no negotiations disagreements wouldn’t occur and we know that hardly any relationships are devoid of conflict here and there.
"Love the sympathy you men here have for other men. Really goes to show male bias on display here."
Tbf there really isn't much to hate on in regards to this situation. By Somali and I guess Muslim standards it looked like he did everything right as a husband.
We also barely know much about the guys background. It's just odd to see financially stable Farahs getting divorced like this. Especially if they weren't cheating or abusive. Obviously it takes more than being faithful and not a dickhead to maintain a relationship.
We aren't the only ones shocked by this divorce either. If you look through her TikTok comments plenty of women are also shocked about her reasons for wanting a divorce.
He didn’t from a typical Somali perspective. A trad Muslim man wouldn’t be seen with a gaalo especially one that dresses liberally. I’m not coming from a place of judgement since I doubt he is conservative and it makes total sense why he’d marry her and she seemed very nice indeed. Hence, I don’t feel he deserves to be judged but I’m just stating the facts. Somalis are conservative and abhor gaal marriage.
As for her reasoning, yes from the outside looking in, it’s shocking. Stability and safety is what every woman craves. We need that for ourselves and for our kids. I can’t help but feel there is more to the story and if there isn’t, that’s just a sad way to end things which I believe she will wholly regret.
Aren't mother's usually the ones biased to their sons traditionally.
Unpack a lot of the culture. I think your bias is just support and genuine goodwill.
Yep, they are and I’ve never denied this and have spoken about this in-detail before. Society at large is more bias towards male plight and decisions. Misogyny doesn’t work in a vacuum women too have a lot of internalized misogyny, sometimes more than men.
Gee stop waffling, we not talking about religion and ethnicity of the couple just her reason for divorcing and this isn’t one case it’s a common theme.
I have a different view on the matter. I think if you're married, you are responsible for the other person, it's a bond you chose, and that will matter to your children. You might say people don't have an issue with it if a man decided to divorce his wife for the same reason, but anyone with a brain would it's just a fundamentally narcissistic way to think about life. people refusing to work on the relationships they have over the vague idea of "settling". It sounds like something a child makes up.
She said she prefers exploring the unknown then settling with familiarity, comfort and safety. I understand people staying in unhappy relationships due to routine and familiarity but her choice of words for the relationship sound healthy and reassuring.
We don’t know the real reasons behind closed doors but this gives us a clue in what she had and now wants. I agree with both of you marriage is a constant work in progress for couples and she wants to stop playing wife to “be her true self” whatever that means to her.
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You can actually see the evil in her eyes. Evil eyes are real. You can see her narcissistic smirk too. Who makes a happy video like that when the husband you admitted was great is hurting? It's such a Black woman thing to do. You can tell she planned to leave after having kids and after getting stability and savings up. Good Black men are playing Russian Roulette with Black women. 5 out of 7 are bullets. Non-traditional good Somali and other Black men need to consider Filipino women. There's a lot of them in Canada and everyone of them has been so pleasant and were angels, man and woman. I have actually seen such pairings and all successful and happy. This poor guy should have saved his good energy for a good Filipino woman who are very open to other cultures, especially the ones raised and born here. He was young and stupid. You don't marry women like her. Her red flags are all on her face and attitude.
She said she wants to explore the unknown then settle with stability safety and comfort.
She wants to throw away a stable marriage for a cheap thrill and flings. Some people don’t realize they got it good until they lost it.
Alot of Black women dont think long-term and only think of now and are incredibly selfish. She can explore with her husband and kids and her friends. West and central African and maybe 25% of post-Covid Somali women only. Fulani and Dinkas are particularly good people. You dont only have to go to Filipinos but they're the most open. You can easily separate bad Black men from good Black men. Bad Black women mix themselves in with the good Black women and are very deceptive to get what they want from good Black men.
A very insightful Washington Post article here about Black women. Look at the date. Black culture needs reform. Black women do not like Black men leading. This could also be the issue with this couple.
https://archive.ph/hJzcm
