No gender mix weddings

[Inquisitive_]

I really hate them

my mother went to a wedding yesterday,a bunch of women sitting around no one dancing,just showing off their new dress,the younger girls looking bored,

The men just go for free meals

I remember the old weddings,there was dancing dhanto,iyaar somali,the boys and girls showing off,everyone laughing and moving,it was good

This is where young somalis get to see their culture,their music,they find their future wives and husbands,mingle with each other see people they never meet before,relatives etc

Why are we forced to adopt other peoples culture!!!
Do you guys support the no gender mix wedding?and if not what can we do to end it?

You are a class A Dayuus, the most shameless and pathetic of all the Dayuuth's that I have come across because of your gutless public preference and desire for your own mother to be in a mixed wedding.

I have never come across this level of shamelessness, it's one thing turning a blind eye to your own daughters/wife's/sisters attending mixed weddings, but this stuff is a type of pure maleficence and repugnant evil that I didn't think any Somali could embody.

 

[0117]

Someone get the dictionary

 

[Fang4]

Mix weddings has no barakah, why start your marriage with that kind of atmosphere

 

[esmailxxx]

I have never come across this level of shamelessness, it's one thing turning a blind eye to your own daughters/wife's/sisters attending mixed weddings, but this stuff is a type of pure maleficence and repugnant evil that I didn't think any Somali could embody.

What do you think people do in mixed weddings orgies????

 

[xalimathe6]

I don't like going to Somali weddings tbh. Habaryars are always gossiping/staring at you and other younger girls.

 

[esmailxxx]

Mix weddings has no barakah, why start your marriage with that kind of atmosphere

Sxb older generation use to have mixed wedding iyaar somali it was good,their marriages last till today,in the 90s i use to go to them,somali weddings is culture we play our music we have our dances

People are complaining we are marrying out,most of the somalis marrying out dnt even see other somalis maybe in a mixed wedding two couples can meet when their parents are there

 

[hindhisle]

It’s best to not have a mixed wedding. I dont see why that would be boring? I’ve been to lots of non mixed weddings and they were great. Why would I want a mixed wedding where guys and girls are going to check each other out + music... that’s just asking for trouble.

What exactly is the trouble? Boys and girls checking out each other? What harm does that do?

Did the girls complain about some sort of sexual harrasment becouse i could understand that but even then it would be still extreme.

 

[hindhisle]

Imagine all the cost of the wedding or at least half of it and you aren't even invited and if you are uts just for photo ups and you can't invite your friends.

Saladi weddings are elite

 

[Qarboosh]

in the 90s i use to go to them

How old are you?

 

[esmailxxx]

Let point out what i am trying to say for those people having a hard time understanding
1.) Most of us younger somalis have problems finding a somali boy/girl to marry because we rarely see each other,in mixed weddings we get to see each other looking our best and we find our future mate,there is nothing wrong with checking out girls/boys
2.)you get to see alot of option if you are interested in girls/boys,arranged marriages you just see the few
3.) non mixed weddings is new to us somalis,its a foreign influence,we were muslims for around 1000 years,we had scholars and walis of islam before,islam is not new to us why change our culture now
4.) somali wedding are a place of culture we keep listening to foreign songs,they are every where,its the only place we get to dance to our own songs,remainds us of our culture
5.)mixed wedding are more fun

 

[esmailxxx]

How old are you?

Not telling saxib but old enough to know how the 90s were
I was a kid

 

[Qarboosh]

Not telling saxib but old enough to know how the 90s were
I was a kid

Haye awoowe

 

[Hybrid]

I've never seen a single-sex wedding before. Do you guys live in Saudi Arabia ?

 

[esmailxxx]

I've never seen a single-sex wedding before. Do you guys live in Saudi Arabia ?

Its happening everywhere now with somalis,you are in djibouti,right?they have mixed weddings

 

[Hybrid]

Its happening everywhere now with somalis,you are in djibouti,right?they have mixed weddings

Yeah they have mixed weddings in djibouti and Somaliland. I live in the US currently and haven't heard of weddings segregated by gender.

 

[Molotoff]

It is a wedding, for God's sake. What can happen? There are adults there. Do you really think someone would be up to no good, risking their reputation? C'mon. I have been to mixed gender weddings with many different nationalities and there has never been any problems whatsoever, without the slightest of sexual tensions.

I want to believe that people are civilized and able to control their urges.

 

[Sophisticate]

Going back to Somalis historically, segrated ceremonies were not what we did it was adopted in the post-War period. From the stories I've heard Somalis knew of each other, attended various mixed events - featuring cultural dances and what not. And I'm merely referring to those in the countryside not the larger cities.
And I'd wager they were more conservative than people are today 'less outwardly' but more in terms of deed.

Mixed weddings are ok but they have some drawbacks - a lot of people are in attendance, some people eye you like a hawk. I barely attend weddings period but I've met some dudes that want to cuff you at first sight on these occassions. The music is also nothing spectacular- when everyone has the same playlist. The decor and food are also formulaic. However, the environment is more lively.

Non-mixed weddings, give you an atmosphere to socialize with people you haven't seen for a long time. You're ears don't bleed from the speakers. And the environment is more relaxed. Downside, the tempo can be slower meaning you can get bored. And people watching just isn't as fun.

 

[Mixile]

You are a class A Dayuus, the most shameless and pathetic of all the Dayuuth's that I have come across because of your gutless public preference and desire for your own mother to be in a mixed wedding.

I have never come across this level of shamelessness, it's one thing turning a blind eye to your own daughters/wife's/sisters attending mixed weddings, but this stuff is a type of pure maleficence and repugnant evil that I didn't think any Somali could embody.

Save your energy for the salafi cult fetichizing after our women. Mixed somali weddings results in more somali marriages and are good opportunity for bachelors to meet with elder supervision

 

[Zainab_7]

Your not hijab wearing self will still be found on snapchat.

Nope no phones will be allowed once I enter the hall. I've seen girls use this tatic and be succesful so i'll be using this too

All you have to do is make repeated annoucements and have people watching for you as @RICH said

 

[Jake from State Farm]

If I can't turn up with my niggas than what's the point of me paying for a dance hall to host the wedding.

I ain't gonna be paying shit if she tells me that it's going to be ladies only.