No gender mix weddings

[esmailxxx]

I really hate them

my mother went to a wedding yesterday,a bunch of women sitting around no one dancing,just showing off their new dress,the younger girls looking bored,

The men just go for free meals

I remember the old weddings,there was dancing dhanto,iyaar somali,the boys and girls showing off,everyone laughing and moving,it was good

This is where young somalis get to see their culture,their music,they find their future wives and husbands,mingle with each other see people they never meet before,relatives etc

Why are we forced to adopt other peoples culture!!!
Do you guys support the no gender mix wedding?and if not what can we do to end it?

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Who chooses for weddings to not be mixed?

Is it the parents that are deciding or is it the bride and groom.

I want my homeboys turning up with me at my wedding.

I was the best man for my friends wedding awhile ago and it was non gender mixed wedding. Literally all I did was walk in with one of the bridesmaids. Dance for a few minutes and me and the others groomsman and the groom just dipped and came back towards the end. The ladies had fun. We just ended up going to sonic, and chilled for a couple of hours

 

[esmailxxx]

Who chooses for weddings to not be mixed?

Is it the parents that are deciding or is it the bride and groom.

Dont know for sure who choose it,it was more like something we tried and it stuck,never use to be like this in the 90s,maybe it was the parents,maybe the groom and bride,maybe some sheikh adviced it in some mosque,but most somalis around the world adapted it

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Dont know for sure who choose it,it was more like something we tried and it stuck,never use to be like this in the 90s,maybe it was the parents,maybe the groom and bride,maybe some sheikh adviced it in some mosque,but most somalis around the world adapted it

I have always planned a mixed wedding in my head. Shit it’s my wedding wtf I’m tying to have fun.

 

[esmailxxx]

I have always planned a mixed wedding in my head. Shit it’s my wedding wtf I’m tying to have fun.

Me too but some somalis will probably refuse to come “its haraaaam” as if somali weddings werent mixed before,i am planning to invite them all who comes comes but my target will be the younger generation and the fun older generation,my mother was looking forward to dhanto yesterday,she was really dissapointed

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Me too but some somalis will probably refuse to come “its haraaaam” as if somali weddings werent mixed before,i am planning to invite them all who comes comes but my target will be the younger generation and the fun older generation,my mother was looking forward to dhanto yesterday,she was really dissapointed

f*ck them. lol

The only people I care about coming to my weddings are my close friends, my mom and dad and my siblings.

All of these people I listed have gone and turned up at a mixed weddings. At that point it just depends on brides family.

I ain’t paying for no wedding that won’t give me the opportunity to turn up with my friends

@AliUK are you gonna do a mixed wedding?

 

[RICH]

It’s best to not have a mixed wedding. I dont see why that would be boring? I’ve been to lots of non mixed weddings and they were great. Why would I want a mixed wedding where guys and girls are going to check each other out + music... that’s just asking for trouble.

 

[esmailxxx]

. that’s just asking for trouble.

Good point,but abayo young boys and girls meeting in wedding can lead to a new wedding,
and its more exciting to see boys and girls showing of to one another,the dancing will be more lit,when boys see the girls they show their best
The enviroment is safer too since the elders are there to keep watch
Also it was like this in the past i remember children adults male female we all had fun,for some people who dont go clubs and such weddings are the only place they can have fun,show off and let go

 

[Jake from State Farm]

It’s best to not have a mixed wedding. I dont see why that would be boring? I’ve been to lots of non mixed weddings and they were great. Why would I want a mixed wedding where guys and girls are going to check each other out + music... that’s just asking for trouble.

Non mixed is just boring. Fun for the women. Pretty boring for the guys.

The past two weddings I went to the nikah part was where a majority of the males showed up. afterwards everything was just limited to women only.

I really didn't expect myself to be chilling with the groom at a fast food restaurant while All the ladies were just turning up.

 

[Basra]

 

[Halimo-2018]

I really hate them

my mother went to a wedding yesterday,a bunch of women sitting around no one dancing,just showing off their new dress,the younger girls looking bored,

The men just go for free meals

I remember the old weddings,there was dancing dhanto,iyaar somali,the boys and girls showing off,everyone laughing and moving,it was good

This is where young somalis get to see their culture,their music,they find their future wives and husbands,mingle with each other see people they never meet before,relatives etc

Why are we forced to adopt other peoples culture!!!
Do you guys support the no gender mix wedding?and if not what can we do to end it?

I am sorry that it bothers you so muc.this is religion not "other people's culture". this is exactly when religion overrides culture. if its part of aomali culture to have ajnabi men and women dancing together then you should know if the couple practices their deen or are partly practicing its upto them to choose what they deam as "halal".its their wedding at the end of the day. peace.

 

[Zainab_7]

I personally wouldnt want a mixed wedding because I dont want to wear hijab. An all female wedding would let me wear whatever I want. But if he really wants to come and do something with his friends then it will be at the end of the wedding were I dont mind covering up.

Weddings should be about the bride and groom not a shuukansi session I could never do that with 100s of habos looking at you

 

[esmailxxx]

.this is religion not "other people's culture". t

It is new to us influenced by wahhabism,it is arab culture not ours,all the weddings we went to when i was younger they were mixed,its also a good way for young people to meet each other to have future weddings

.its their wedding at the end of the day. peace.

Its their wedding but maybe they didnt want it that way,maybe its a trend now with somalis,i know a couple that wanted a mixed wedding but people were against it

Your wedding inshallah will be the way you both want it,

 

[esmailxxx]

I personally wouldnt want a mixed wedding because I dont want to wear hijab. An all female wedding would let me wear whatever I want. But if he really wants to come and do something with his friends then it will be at the end of the wedding were I dont mind covering up.

Weddings should be about the bride and groom not a shuukansi session I could never do that with 100s of habos looking at you

Hijabis wear their hijabs most of the time manshallah,but if its your wedding wouldnt you like to let your hair out,show off your beauty i would love my future wife to go to the salon make her hair and not cover it if only in our wedding,there are hijabs that look really good like the silk ones the guest can wear them or not,let the other girls show off their beauty to their possible future husbands if only in weddings

 

[AliUK]

f*ck them. lol

The only people I care about coming to my weddings are my close friends, my mom and dad and my siblings.

All of these people I listed have gone and turned up at a mixed weddings. At that point it just depends on brides family.

I ain’t paying for no wedding that won’t give me the opportunity to turn up with my friends

@AliUK are you gonna do a mixed wedding?

No, I don't need the sins. Marriage is hard enough without starting it with the sins of people dancing to music etc.

 

[AliUK]

I personally wouldnt want a mixed wedding because I dont want to wear hijab. An all female wedding would let me wear whatever I want. But if he really wants to come and do something with his friends then it will be at the end of the wedding were I dont mind covering up.

Weddings should be about the bride and groom not a shuukansi session I could never do that with 100s of habos looking at you

Your not hijab wearing self will still be found on snapchat.

 

[AussieHustler]

Whether it’s a mixed or gender specific party, the video of the wedding will leak and you can watch the girls without hijab dancing and shaking their asses online.

 

[RICH]

Whether it’s a mixed or gender specific party, the video of the wedding will leak and you can watch the girls without hijab dancing and shaking their asses online.

That’s why you should have a very strict no filming policy and only invite people you or your parents know/trust. You guys may think that won’t help, but trust me it does! One of my friends had that policy and even the woman who did buraanbur/sang was very strict about it. She saw this girl film or take a pic and she stopped singing immediately to call this girl out I need me someone like her cause she loyal

 

[RichEnoughForGucci]

Mixed weddings are more lit sorry but segregated weddings are boring. I want my man to turn up with his niggas

 

[CangeeroBear]

We need a mosh pit from now on!