Never chase a woman, chasing is feminine. - Da'wah man.

[Lightshow]

When you mean chase/pursue, do you simply mean instigate the initiation stage? Cause if that’s what you meant then I’d totally agree with you but chase/puruse implies a dating/courting stage where a women is constantly being reserved and a man is constantly gunning after the women. This isn’t something that really happens in the process of Muslim marriages as you’ve stated yourself before “talk to the father and offer mehr” etc.

This is a no brainer, a women/father of a women will rarely ever offer her hand, it’s mostly men who offer their hands but this is a different thing to chase/pursue. Why would anyone argue this point???

Who said anything about polygamy?

Since when did Muslim men engage in direct competition, let alone women? Why do you have such a strict standard for the word competition? Obviously I’m talking about competition in the overarching social standard whether direct or not, a good farax out of the dating market in your vicinity is one less potential Farax you could’ve had. Why does it need to be direct as if everyone has to see every interaction all the time?

I think it’s time to leave the word pursue out of this conversation period as it seems to be causing more confusing due to people having different definitions.

A women can’t be lackluster in terms of finding a partner, she has to make herself look attractive, she has to find herself in spaces where she would want a type of Farax she desires, she has to signal towards a farax that she’s interested, maybe by way of friends, or by using subtle techniques like eye contact, open body language, coming closer toward that faraxs circles etc. This isn’t the 17th century anymore where family completely take care of the situation of finding an available partner for a son/daughter or marriage through political/familial ties. Somalis at least are completely lacking in this especially in the west, which is why the social Xalimos get married early and the pious, miskeen introverts who are on the deen get left behind.

Now yes, even in this instance where a women is making moves to find a man, it’ll still ultimately be the man who makes the initiation/first move but there’s too many women who expect a man to fall into their laps while they’re invisible homebodies when this clearly isn’t reality and it shows.

Ultimately I think we agree on pretty much everything but the definitions are throwing the conversation out of whack.

Bro, never and I mean never go into full thesis with women.

 

[Angelina]

When you mean chase/pursue, do you simply mean instigate the initiation stage? Cause if that’s what you meant then I’d totally agree with you but chase/puruse implies a dating/courting stage where a women is constantly being reserved and a man is constantly gunning after the women. This isn’t something that really happens in the process of Muslim marriages as you’ve stated yourself before “talk to the father and offer mehr” etc.

This is a no brainer, a women/father of a women will rarely ever offer her hand, it’s mostly men who offer their hands but this is a different thing to chase/pursue. Why would anyone argue this point???

Who said anything about polygamy?

Since when did Muslim men engage in direct competition, let alone women? Why do you have such a strict standard for the word competition? Obviously I’m talking about competition in the overarching social standard whether direct or not, a good farax out of the dating market in your vicinity is one less potential Farax you could’ve had. Why does it need to be direct as if everyone has to see every interaction all the time?

I think it’s time to leave the word pursue out of this conversation period as it seems to be causing more confusing due to people having different definitions.

A women can’t be lackluster in terms of finding a partner, she has to make herself look attractive, she has to find herself in spaces where she would want a type of Farax she desires, she has to signal towards a farax that she’s interested, maybe by way of friends, or by using subtle techniques like eye contact, open body language, coming closer toward that faraxs circles etc. This isn’t the 17th century anymore where family completely take care of the situation of finding an available partner for a son/daughter or marriage through political/familial ties. Somalis at least are completely lacking in this especially in the west, which is why the social Xalimos get married early and the pious, miskeen introverts who are on the deen get left behind.

Now yes, even in this instance where a women is making moves to find a man, it’ll still ultimately be the man who makes the initiation/first move but there’s too many women who expect a man to fall into their laps while they’re invisible homebodies when this clearly isn’t reality and it shows.

Ultimately I think we agree on pretty much everything but the definitions are throwing the conversation out of whack.

Okay, I agree with you.