Men would you be ok to marry a woman who was intimate with anther man for your first marriage?

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

It's only fair to have that expectation if you weren't doing a madness yourself. You forfeit your right to demand a chaste woman the moment you commit zina

Most of the men on this forum who are respectful and confident around women are those who are educated and successful, it's not a coincidence at all. Good for your parents and good for you, Masha'Allah.

 

[Angelina]

Double standards. These men should be avoided.

@solo_man have some shame. Before thinking about mehr focus on akhlaaq. Also Allah swt makes no distinctions. Zina is haram for both. You should care about what Allah says more than the community. Man expects fresh product kulaha. Iska amuus

Sis, you can't reason with men that degrade and dehumanise women and reduce them to 'products' bought by mehr. I don't think he understands that women are willing participants within marriages as marriages are essentially a contract between that of a Muslim man and woman.

He can't grasp those simple concepts and needs to lessen women in order to feel comfortable in his masculinity. I know the formula. He's probably an uneducated ciyal suuq and soon he'll brag about smashing 'Western girls'.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I think his use of the words 'product' 'fresh' and 'quality' should tell you everything.

Also, clearly he thinks a £1-5k mehr means he is buying goods. Its akin to him buying new trainers or laptops. So of course, the past of the owner means nothing compared to that of the past of the actual 'product' that is being bought.

With that sort of mentality, there is no reasoning with him.

Have you also noticed what kind of men who talk like this about women? It's never the eloquent, well-educated types who have a good track record on this forum.

Thank god that misogynists come with big, flashing warning signs. It's like those animals in the wild who are colourful because their stings are poisonous. Allah is merciful indeed.

 

[Angelina]

Have you also noticed what kind of men who talk like this about women? It's never the eloquent, well-educated types who have a good track record on this forum.

Thank god that misogynists come with big, flashing warning signs. It's like those animals in the wild who are colourful because their stings are poisonous. Allah is merciful indeed.

Sis, they're so predictable now and its boring.

Usually they're the daqan celis types who've failed they're GCSE's/A-levels, don't understand the importance of education and hard-work, have a past with crime, brag about 'smashing' girls, think that GOV assistance is providing, usually work in low skilled jobs, talk like they're an extra from Topboy and the list goes on.

Usually, sexists are found in every walk of life, but these one's are definitely the most vulgar and loud. That is because they hardly have any redeeming or masculine qualities to be admired. It's a never-ending joke.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Sis, they're so predictable now and its boring.

Usually they're the daqan celis types who've failed they're GCSE's/A-levels, have never been to Uni, have a past with crime, brag about 'smashing' girls, think that GOV assistance is providing, usually work in low skilled jobs, talk like they're an extra from Topboy and the list goes on.

Usually, sexists are found in every walk of life, but those one's are definitely the most vulgar and loud. That is because they hardly have any redeeming or masculine qualities to be admired. It's a never-ending joke.

Absolutely,

When men fail at being men, they focus on degrading women. Like those men who get bullied at work by other men or are seen as inferior by other men and then go they home to punch their wives.

 

[Angelina]

Absolutely,

When men fail at being men, they focus on degrading women. Like those men who get bullied at work by other men or are seen as inferior by other men and then go they home to punch their wives.

Lol, an 'Alpha' wannabe starter pack it seems is to bully and obsess over women. They can't flex their muscles on other men as that would be too dangerous.

I don't think there is anything worse than an overly insecure and self-conscious man. Instead of working on themselves, they inflict pain and misery on people, yet those they choose to project on are never other men as they know their heads would be smashed in. Like I said, it's too dangerous.

 

[Periplus]

well in the community if a man does zina and a girl does zina its worse for the girl thats a fact we can try and pretend its not but a girl will have a bad rep!

You can not tell if a man has been with other women but you can tell if a woman has been with a man

the man is paying the meher so he expects a top notch quality and new

Yeah, I forgot the latest amendment to Quran in which zina was only haram for women.

 

[citrus_samurai]

It’s disgusting that you’re referring to real human beings as fresh/used Zina is zina, doesn’t matter the sex

 

[Abba Sadacha]

This would be most likely for the somali girls in the west so guys would you be ok with paying the meher for a woman like this?

As in, she committed zina? Or was it intimacy with her previous husband?

 

[Abdisamad]

I think his use of the words 'product' 'fresh' and 'quality' should tell you everything.

Also, clearly he thinks a £1-5k mehr means he is buying goods. Its akin to him buying new trainers or laptops. So of course, the past of the owner means nothing compared to that of the past of the actual 'product' that is being bought.

With that sort of mentality, there is no reasoning with him.

He must be trolling this guy can't ve serious.. He argues zina committed by a guy is less shameful than a girl/woman.

 

[citrus_samurai]

Some users on here seem to be working overtime trying to depict Somali women in a certain way :/

 

[World]

Of course I would be very lucky if she had, it means I’m gonna enjoy myself when we’re married as she had a lot of practice

 

[xoxoboredgirl]

Some users on here seem to be working overtime trying to depict Somali women in a certain way :/

Yes, one person saying a lot of hijabis give head…like wtf?

 

[Boujie]

well in the community if a man does zina and a girl does zina its worse for the girl thats a fact we can try and pretend its not but a girl will have a bad rep!

You can not tell if a man has been with other women but you can tell if a woman has been with a man

the man is paying the meher so he expects a top notch quality and new

The zani is matched with the zania, you can't have premarital relations as a man and expect to get a chaste girl. For you to somehow suggest this indicates that you are mentally regressed or a troll

 

[citrus_samurai]

Yes, one person saying a lot of hijabis give head…like wtf?

I think he’s just trying to make a controversial trending thread even if he has to shit on the other sex. No xishood or akhlaaq

 

[empressjamila]

This nigga acts like he’s purchasing a woman with mehr like she’s a plot of land or a product at the store read up on the purpose of mehr doqon

Also good men for good women and likewise for bad so if you’re ran through you deserve a woman who is equally ran through. Leave virgins alone

 

[Jungle]

thats my point alot of halimos are virgins but suck of many men!

They're a minority sxb but if you suspect her of that then move on.

I'd take a non virgin who ive done a bg check on or a single mother of 1 any day before someone like that. I mean a xalimos virginity isnt important but thats just me.

 

[Peace&Love]

Shorty gotta know what to do with the . Seriously not an issue as long she doesn’t have a only fans account. I think it has more to do with ego than her being a virgin.

 

[solo_man]

The zani is matched with the zania, you can't have premarital relations as a man and expect to get a chaste girl. For you to somehow suggest this indicates that you are mentally regressed or a troll

im just saying what majority of men expect and how societal norms is in the somali community if a girl has a reputation that would effect her marriage prospects but if it was the other way round its that of a big deal

 

[solo_man]

He must be trolling this guy can't ve serious.. He argues zina committed by a guy is less shameful than a girl/woman.

allah adressed the women first about zina and told them to cover up and he never told men to cover up meaning women hold more power in seducing