MEN STATISTICALLY ARE MORE LIKELY TO LEAVE THEIR DYING WIVES?

[Dibleyy]

The men who leave their spouses when they have a life-threatening illness

When relationships are hit by serious illness, it can bring existing gender inequalities shockingly to the surface

amp.theguardian.com

For two years Sanchez’s mom, Sandra, battled stage four breast cancer. It was advanced enough that within days of her diagnosis she was having her breasts, lymph nodes and both ovaries removed.
Sanchez’s stepdad, Tom, was upbeat at first. He attended appointments with his wife, cooked meals and looked after the children. But within a week Sandra – the breadwinner in the family – was back at work, and within two, she was already cooking and cleaning again.

By the six-month mark, her stepdad’s attitude had completely changed. “It’s like, once the chemotherapy started and he saw the decline in her health he was kind of like, ‘Oh shit,’ and tapped out.”
Christie shared her experience of the ordeal on a thread that went viral on Twitter in February. The tweet that sparked it all off read: “My sister had stage four cancer and her ex husband complained about her not doing her part to clean up. I will never forget that for as long as I live.”

Wow this was a eye opening article, a lot of men in this day and age are so obsessed with the concept of a woman’s looks and health, that when she doesn’t have those things you really get to understand their loyalty smh

 

[Abu Hesi]

Here we go

 

[Al-Ma'mun]

She's dying tho

 

[Awad]

another day another thread

 

[Angelina]

Men are raised with the expectation that a woman has to look after them. They've seen their mothers look after everyone, even whilst ill, so the idea of a wife not being able to cook and clean due to illness and therefore have to raise to the occasion is too much for the selfish ones. They've been raised with the idea that their needs comes first.

This is why I believe the Somali dhaqan of not allowing your sons to do anything is incredibly harmful. You essentially teach them to be selfish with their time and energy and you end up teaching them that women should always do everything for them and never the other way around, even in times of need. We further enforce these rules when wives are ill and usually, it is her sisters and mother that care for her, even though her husband is at home. What message does that send your boys? They'll never have enough empathy to help their wives and would resent her for not looking after them. They'll simply dump her back to her family and they'll either leave or take on a 2nd wife.

 

[Dontcomefome]

Yes I work at a hospital, and see this all the time.

 

[Magan95]

The men who leave their spouses when they have a life-threatening illness

When relationships are hit by serious illness, it can bring existing gender inequalities shockingly to the surface

amp.theguardian.com

For two years Sanchez’s mom, Sandra, battled stage four breast cancer. It was advanced enough that within days of her diagnosis she was having her breasts, lymph nodes and both ovaries removed.
Sanchez’s stepdad, Tom, was upbeat at first. He attended appointments with his wife, cooked meals and looked after the children. But within a week Sandra – the breadwinner in the family – was back at work, and within two, she was already cooking and cleaning again.

By the six-month mark, her stepdad’s attitude had completely changed. “It’s like, once the chemotherapy started and he saw the decline in her health he was kind of like, ‘Oh shit,’ and tapped out.”
Christie shared her experience of the ordeal on a thread that went viral on Twitter in February. The tweet that sparked it all off read: “My sister had stage four cancer and her ex husband complained about her not doing her part to clean up. I will never forget that for as long as I live.”

Wow this was a eye opening article, a lot of men in this day and age are so obsessed with the concept of a woman’s looks and health, that when she doesn’t have those things you really get to understand their loyalty smh

Men cheat on women the most when they either have cancer or are pregnant.

Sad shit.

 

[alexander]

That is evil as f*ck. If I were ever to marry, it will be once and once alone. She will be the first and the last. I never understood people who remarry.

 

[Unbothered]

Men are trash

 

[xLibaxsenderx]

Hopefully your significant other doesn't add to that statistic

 

[Juliet]

Men are raised with the expectation that a woman has to look after them. They've seen their mothers look after everyone, even whilst ill, so the idea of a wife not being able to cook and clean due to illness and therefore have to raise to the occasion is too much for the selfish ones. They've been raised with the idea that their needs comes first.

This is why I believe the Somali dhaqan of not allowing your sons to do anything is incredibly harmful. You essentially teach them to be selfish with their time and energy and you end up teaching them that women should always do everything for them and never the other way around, even in times of need. We further enforce these rules when wives are ill and usually, it is her sisters and mother that care for her, even though her husband is at home. What message does that send your boys? They'll never have enough empathy to help their wives and would resent her for not looking after them. They'll simply dump her back to her family and they'll either leave or take on a 2nd wife.

Somali culture is absolutely trash. There are so many things promoted that are detrimental to a functioning society in the long run, it really makes sense why our people degenerated so quickly once firm law and order started to crumble.

We need a complete revolution

 

[Peache]

Yes I work at a hospital, and see this all the time.

I worked at a nursing home, two different ones actually and saw this all the time.

One is you’ll see the dying husband with the wife who’ll give up her house and career and life to stand by him and take care of him. Come in every morning to feed him, clothe him, hold his hands during the doctor visits and help with his medication.

The old women ? Almost each one had their husbands leave them once they fell ill whether it was cancer or Alzheimer’s, or dementia, and the husbands remarry someone younger than them. And move on with th lives.

I got really emotional seeing that, as I got close with some of these female residents.

I dare anyone to say I’m lying and making this up, it really opened my eyes as how women stay with a sick husband through it all.
@Dibleyy is right, and studies back this up and everything.
@Ladylike, research this. It’s very interesting. But men will think we hating on them lol.

 

[Magan95]

I worked at a nursing home, two different ones actually and saw this all the time.

One is you’ll see the dying husband with the wife who’ll give up her house and career and life to stand by him and take care of him. Come in every morning to feed him, clothe him, hold his hands during the doctor visits and help with his medication.

The old women ? Almost each one had their husbands leave them once they fell ill whether it was cancer or Alzheimer’s, or dementia, and the husbands remarry someone younger than them. And move on with th lives.

I got really emotional seeing that, as I got close with some of these female residents.

I dare anyone to say I’m lying and making this up, it really opened my eyes as how women stay with a sick husband through it all.
@Dibleyy is right, abs studies back this up and everything.
@Ladylike, research this. It’s very interesting. But men will think we hating on them lol.

Seen similar things.

Saw a lady take care of her 6'+ husband even though she was 5'1". She would change his positions every two hours by herself. He was in a coma for years and had a feeding tube.

The level of love and dedication she had for him was insane. I've never personally seen a man do the same.

 

[Peache]

That is evil as f*ck. If I were ever to marry, it will be once and once alone. She will be the first and the last. I never understood people who remarry.

Idk why my comment and yours is mixed but,
I agree. I got cousins who re married almost every year and have children by a different abo. Older uncles who did this as well, and the children all got different mothers.
Some people can’t be alone Miskeen.

But what about people who got married super young and divorced but stayed single for many years and happen to meet an amazing wonderful man or woman when they got older ? You don’t understand from that point of view?

 

[Peache]

Seen similar things.

Saw a lady take care of her 6'+ husband even though she was 5'1". She would change his positions every two hours by herself. He was in a coma for years and had a feeding tube.

The level of love and dedication she had for him was insane. I've never personally seen a man do the same.

I have some uncles or my parents know of men who left their wives once they got super sick or had sick children. That was very eye opening seeing that for me.

But once we women mention that and simply say how we should be careful who we marry, the men will think we evil and bitter.

 

[alexander]

That is evil as f*ck. If I were ever to marry, it will be once and once alone. She will be the first and the last. I never understood people who remarry.

Idk why my comment and yours is mixed but,
I agree. I got cousins who re married almost every year and have children by a different abo. Older uncles who did this as well, and the children all got different mothers.
Some people can’t be alone Miskeen.

But what about people who got married super young and divorced but stayed single for many years and happen to meet an amazing wonderful man or woman when they got older ? You don’t understand from that point of view?

I understand it. What I meant is that for me, I will only truly love a woman once and if she is gone, it is over.

 

[__08]

The men who leave their spouses when they have a life-threatening illness

When relationships are hit by serious illness, it can bring existing gender inequalities shockingly to the surface

amp.theguardian.com

For two years Sanchez’s mom, Sandra, battled stage four breast cancer. It was advanced enough that within days of her diagnosis she was having her breasts, lymph nodes and both ovaries removed.
Sanchez’s stepdad, Tom, was upbeat at first. He attended appointments with his wife, cooked meals and looked after the children. But within a week Sandra – the breadwinner in the family – was back at work, and within two, she was already cooking and cleaning again.

By the six-month mark, her stepdad’s attitude had completely changed. “It’s like, once the chemotherapy started and he saw the decline in her health he was kind of like, ‘Oh shit,’ and tapped out.”
Christie shared her experience of the ordeal on a thread that went viral on Twitter in February. The tweet that sparked it all off read: “My sister had stage four cancer and her ex husband complained about her not doing her part to clean up. I will never forget that for as long as I live.”

Wow this was a eye opening article, a lot of men in this day and age are so obsessed with the concept of a woman’s looks and health, that when she doesn’t have those things you really get to understand their loyalty smh

100% facts. That’s why I think women shouldn’t marry for love. These niggas don’t love you like that. Atleast get something substantial if things go wrong.

 

[__08]

Men are trash

They are trash. If we didn’t fear their violence and they were 4ft tall. We wouldn’t care.
Why don’t we do reverse eugenics overtime they become goblin with low body fat. And their too weak.

 

[Arma]

Male slander once again. Not every man is a demon, that'll do a runner, when his missus is stricken with a disease or disability. There are plenty of men, that stick by and care for their wives.

Shit like this pisses me the fuckoff.

 

[Juliet]

Male slander once again. Not every man is a demon, that'll do a runner, when his missus is stricken with a disease or disability. There are plenty of men, that stick by and care for their wives.

Shit like this pisses me the fuckoff.

https://www.somalispot.com/threads/never-be-unfaithful-and-lie-fellas.96452/