Marriage

[Kalsoon]

Thank you macaanto

Perhaps, God wants me to reflect and learn from these experiences so I can be my best version, marriage come.

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That’s a positive way of seeing it. Keeps you from feeling regretful or hurt over the past.

Was it major differences that you guys couldn’t compromise or come to an agreement about?

 

[hinters]

Somali girls are always either the most shy innocent girl you've ever seen or they're for the streets, no inbetween. Fascinating phenomenon.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Somali girls are always either the most shy innocent girl you've ever seen or they're for the streets, no inbetween. Fascinating phenomenon.

no it’s definitely a spectrum imo

 

[Hodan from HR]

That’s a positive way of seeing it. Keeps you from feeling regretful or hurt over the past.

Was it major differences that you guys couldn’t compromise or come to an agreement about?

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[Dashiki Bucaale]

Focus on school abaayo.

Dont listen to this "you have to be proactive" bs. Take it from me, I've had guys pursuing me since grade 12 and somehow it never comes to fruition and my friend was like you. She never dated or talked to men. Yet, she got married after we graduated to the first ever guy she talked to. They met on facebook. Everything went smooth for them mashallah. No broken promises, no lies, no heartache..

You can't rush calaf.

I don't understand this logic. Everything in life is qadr not just marriage, yet despite this there are still many things we have to be proactive about in order to secure a better future

 

[Kalsoon]

I don't understand this logic. Everything in life is qadr not just marriage, yet despite this there are still many things we have to be proactive about in order to secure a better future

It’s easier for a man to be more proactive in seeking marriage than it is for women.

 

[Dashiki Bucaale]

It’s easier for a man to be more proactive in seeking marriage than it is for women.

Of course but she was implying the absence of proactiveness is somehow ideal. There are still some things a woman can do to be more approachable to guys

 

[Hodan from HR]

Of course but she was implying the absence of proactiveness is somehow ideal. There are still some things a woman can do to be more approachable to guys

I wanted to emphasize the negative aspects of putting yourself out there at a young age, specifically in late teens and early twenties, which is something not often discussed. If I had known that the guys I talked to back then wouldn't work out, I wouldn't have bothered with dating. Similar to the OP, I thought I had to find someone while in school, which is not ideal and can be destructive when it comes to focusing on your studies. My friend on the other hand, you could say was proactive after uni since it worked out for her.

This was based on my own experience.
Am I not entitled to have an opinion as someone who has gone down this road before?


Anyways, read my replies in this thread before drawing conclusions about what I'm trying to imply..

 

[Macawisley]

https://www.somalispot.com/threads/habaryar-saw-me-with-my-boyfriend.117638/

Wasn’t this you?

Makes sense why they don’t approach you. Kudos to them!