Marriage question

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Amal O

I’m currently 24 and not yet married (female). Should I get myself a man now or go after my dreams (see life a bit more, live abroad in a foreign country for a year) or get married?

I would ideally like to get married at 27, but is this too old? Anyone have any advice for another Somali girl?

I am also finding it hard to even see Somali guys in my community. They exist but I barely see any about so it’s hard. I have instagram but barely have any Somali guys on it. I am not going to follow anybody first sorry.

Any words of wisdom?
 
mohammdov

mohammdov

Nabadshe
It is better to get married now, because society is like this, and most men don't want to marry a woman in her thirties or close to it
 
Yaraye

Yaraye

VIP
However, put your dreams first. Marriage is all about calaf. Even it you take it seriously now, you still may not be able to get married even after 27 years old. At least don’t have regrets of your dreams
 
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Bari🐍

If your dreams are to travel and live in a foreign country for a bit why do they contradict with getting married? You can do the exact same things you listed with a husband and in fact it is better for you to travel with a mahram.
 
Nin123

Nin123

Hunted
VIP
Amal O said:
I’m currently 24 and not yet married (female). Should I get myself a man now or go after my dreams (see life a bit more, live abroad in a foreign country for a year) or get married?

I would ideally like to get married at 27, but is this too old? Anyone have any advice for another Somali girl?

I am also finding it hard to even see Somali guys in my community. They exist but I barely see any about so it’s hard. I have instagram but barely have any Somali guys on it. I am not going to follow anybody first sorry.

Any words of wisdom?
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Get it asap don’t listen to the xalimos here.
Marry before becoming 25 years old.
 
Sophisticate

Sophisticate

~Gallantly Gadabuursi~
Staff Member
Make sure he's financially and emotionally stable if you get a man. Sadly, most men that age largely are not. They become better off with time. Contrary to what these guys say ad nauseum men tend to link up with women similar in education, appearance and closer in age. Age disparities are becoming less common in the west.

I have more access to guys of commensurate education and income now than I did when I was under 25. They can speak at length about walls or shrinking pools to their hearts content. You don't need too many options anyway (as that can lead to a paradox of choice). Just good enough ones that seem equivalent, sane, righteous, faithful, industrious and collaborative.
 
Yaraye

Yaraye

VIP
Amal O said:
I’m currently 24 and not yet married (female). Should I get myself a man now or go after my dreams (see life a bit more, live abroad in a foreign country for a year) or get married?

I would ideally like to get married at 27, but is this too old? Anyone have any advice for another Somali girl?

I am also finding it hard to even see Somali guys in my community. They exist but I barely see any about so it’s hard. I have instagram but barely have any Somali guys on it. I am not going to follow anybody first sorry.

Any words of wisdom?
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Abaayo, most men will obviously say "get married first" but watch out. They'll will get you pregnant so quick. Once you got a kid in your stomach, you can kiss traveling and having fun bye bye. :fantasia2: a kid is a life prison sentence. Everything in your life will revolve around them. Do what you want first, then settle down. :sass2:
 
A Mean Guy

A Mean Guy

Minister of Ajanabi Affairs
Marriage is not a 1 day or month process and you also don't need to drop everything to pursue it. You can still chase your dreams while also talking to guys with the intention of marriage. That is what most people are doing.

Furthermore, 24 is still young, don't stress yourself with your age.
To get married (I'm just relaying 2nd hand info, i'm unmarried myself):
- Try using the matrimonial services of your local mosques.
- Attending professional networking events such as Somali Lawyers Association and Somalis In Tech.
- Apps like Muzz. However I heard it is absolutely abysmal tho

Do your due diligence and vet guys throughly to make sure they are the right one for you. Don't listen to people who tell you you're too old, they lack basic understanding of human anatomy. Women don't magically shrivel up past 25.
May Allah make it easy for you 🙏 📿
 
Unbothered

Unbothered

You are not too old to get married . My cousin got married at 34 and she is happy she waited . She is married to a doctor and has 3 beautiful children.
 
H

Hargeysa

You're young! I would say go for it, travel and live in a different country. Do it now, rather than in a few years time, when you might have more responsibilities.

Also, you can do more than one thing at a time. Nothing to stop you from getting to know guys via messaging as you travel/work abroad.
 
Halimo-2018

Halimo-2018

VIP
If you want to get married now go for it. Is all about what you want for your life. However if you wait make sure you have enough self confidence because everyone and their moma will have an opinion about how you’re old etc due to societal pressure. Good luck
 
onthecloud

onthecloud

Super weird and sad to see so many people lie to her about the feminist drivel wallahi. You would think the countless anecdotes in the community would serve as a warning. Xasiidnimo
 
Yaraye

Yaraye

VIP
onthecloud said:
Super weird and sad to see so many people lie to her about the feminist drivel wallahi. You would think the countless anecdotes in the community would serve as a warning. Xasiidnimo
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onthecloud
redpiller :mugshotman::gaasdrink:
 
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