I put this in the personal development as I want some honest advice about how you select or selected a partner, lessons learned and the successes, challenges, regrets, and has it led to a happy marriage, home, and successful children or what you imagined when choosing a partner.
Please note this is really important to me and why I haven't married till today as I don't want regrets nor do I want children effected due to my poor decision making. The things I look for in a partner is due to some wisdom collected thru my own personal life and observation of marriages from Australia, different cultures, and my own family values from both father and mother side. Some pitfalls I avoid are;
1. Extreme focus on one area like looks as looks fade as U age
2. Extreme focus on finances because that fluctuates up and down over a life time and after a while becomes an addiction as U seek the latest consumption item
3. Extreme focus on personality but I do like some balance here not be yes robot but not a complete fight fest either but compliment each other strength and cover each other weaknesses.
4. Extreme reliance on one partner whether male or female as one may get sick or die or some unfortunate thing may happen. My awoowe on maternal side warned that on his daughters to be independent and I've also accepted that value not just for women but men also. Yes I do cook and clean, laundry, and I want to be involved as an active father for my child in their formative years to give them the best chance and foundation not turn into single parent kid nightmares.
6. I do like some have some spirituality as humans need faith in something to preservere but it's not necessarily a god for all, as we all persevere or fall to some idol whether other humans, nature, animals.
7 . Not interested in anyone if I see their unstable at a nafisiyan or self, family, community, work, religion, etc. If their always constantly seeking validation or approval or condemning others choices whether life or religious is also off putting to me especially the religious and secular as that's a marker of slave of a slave genetic marker. Adigo taada uu yaaban U have no right to tell ppl about their life choices or soul or religion ha is soo gaaban shaydhan yahow no matter if U wearing sheeps clothing like religious garment cause I know waxad tahay qof fashilantay and your trying to pass it on so others join you using secular or religious title.
Please note this is really important to me and why I haven't married till today as I don't want regrets nor do I want children effected due to my poor decision making. The things I look for in a partner is due to some wisdom collected thru my own personal life and observation of marriages from Australia, different cultures, and my own family values from both father and mother side. Some pitfalls I avoid are;
1. Extreme focus on one area like looks as looks fade as U age
2. Extreme focus on finances because that fluctuates up and down over a life time and after a while becomes an addiction as U seek the latest consumption item
3. Extreme focus on personality but I do like some balance here not be yes robot but not a complete fight fest either but compliment each other strength and cover each other weaknesses.
4. Extreme reliance on one partner whether male or female as one may get sick or die or some unfortunate thing may happen. My awoowe on maternal side warned that on his daughters to be independent and I've also accepted that value not just for women but men also. Yes I do cook and clean, laundry, and I want to be involved as an active father for my child in their formative years to give them the best chance and foundation not turn into single parent kid nightmares.
6. I do like some have some spirituality as humans need faith in something to preservere but it's not necessarily a god for all, as we all persevere or fall to some idol whether other humans, nature, animals.
7 . Not interested in anyone if I see their unstable at a nafisiyan or self, family, community, work, religion, etc. If their always constantly seeking validation or approval or condemning others choices whether life or religious is also off putting to me especially the religious and secular as that's a marker of slave of a slave genetic marker. Adigo taada uu yaaban U have no right to tell ppl about their life choices or soul or religion ha is soo gaaban shaydhan yahow no matter if U wearing sheeps clothing like religious garment cause I know waxad tahay qof fashilantay and your trying to pass it on so others join you using secular or religious title.
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