Long distance parenting

[citrus_samurai]

You’re a despicable man

 

[Hybrid()]

He is delusional.

I highly doubt he's married. From everything he is saying, any woman that is with him is practically a single mother, he provides any women with his with 0 incentives to be with him. No full provision, no help, and with the one backhome, no husband for 11 months of the yr.

Also, if this man had an extra $300 he would be putting it into his current household which his wife pays. This is what I mean when I say some Somali men have messed up priorities and why divorce is high.

If he's married while saying he wants to spend some extra money on a second wife, its cause he knows his western wife will divorce him. Unfortunately many Somali guys don't like to seek advice when they have marriage problem and after his divorce, he won't financially support his ex-wife and kids.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

@En_Sabah Nur why don't you just tell the truth and say you're not happy with your current marriage. you're just looking for an excuse to divorce her which will happen obviously since no women who's contributing half of household bills will put up with such nonsense. If you decide to, just don't be another deadbeat geeljirre and keep in touch with your blood.
As for marrying from back home, you'll need at least $300 a month to secure a pretty xalimo with Deen iyo akhlaaq. marrying from a less crowded city like boorama will be better for you

I have no interest in divorcing my current wife. I don’t believe in divorce, it’s not good for families. After a few kids, you get tired of being with the same woman. It’s not her fault, its natural. The problem is, it’s hard to marry another woman in the west unless you are imam. So the next best option is Somalia. I can afford $300 a month because I work Uber on weekends to make extra money. I can go to Somalia for a month or two depending on how much I’ve saved up over the year. I don’t see the downside to be honest. It’s a win win for everyone

 

[Kool-Aid]

After a few kids, you get tired of being with the same woman. It’s not her fault, its natural.

The Coolidge effect.

 

[Hybrid()]

I have no interest in divorcing my current wife. I don’t believe in divorce, it’s not good for families. After a few kids, you get tired of being with the same woman. It’s not her fault, its natural. The problem is, it’s hard to marry another woman in the west unless you are imam. So the next best option is Somalia. I can afford $300 a month because I work Uber on weekends to make extra money. I can go to Somalia for a month or two depending on how much I’ve saved up over the year. I don’t see the downside to be honest. It’s a win win for everyone

There are tons of Somali guys like you who pull this trick to ditch their western wife for an obedient one from back home. I don't know where you live but single mothers (usually FOB) in the US often get remarried to lazy Farahs who like to stay in the comfort of single hooyos home. I wish your soon to be ex-wife all the best.

 

[Lostbox]

Your a Leech that only knows how to take and not provided for others

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

She's already near enough a single mother.

You don't help around the house. (Your words)

She pays the bills (your words)

So what do you provide? Well apart from sperm?

I work and pay for half the bills. She’s not materialistic like most Somali women of today who want everything provided for them. A woman needs a man whether she’s in the west or back in Somalia. Women like you give other women bad advice, encouraging them to leave their men even when things work for them.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

I think there are a lot of men who feel like I do, but are scared to share their opinion because they will be attacked, insulted and called despicable.

 

[anonimo]

Suckers keep on getting reeled. Shit's like Ground Hog Day.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

@anonimo

what are your thoughts brother? I’m actually serious. You seem to know a lot about the diin. So your advice would be appreciated

 

[anonimo]

@anonimo

what are your thoughts brother? I’m actually serious. You seem to know a lot about the diin. So your advice would be appreciated

Allow it man, you have triggered your target audience enough.

Masakinta iska daa!

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

@anonimo

This is not a troll topic. Is there anything wrong with what I said from diin perspective? If it’s halal and it works for every one involved, what is the issue?

 

[anonimo]

@anonimo

This is not a troll topic. Is there anything wrong with what I said from diin perspective? If it’s halal and it works for every one involved, what is the issue?

 

[Unbothered]

Children need a present father . What is the point of having kids if you don’t want be there to raise them
No wonder why there are too many Somali kids with daddy issues.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

Children need a present father . What is the point of having kids if you don’t want be there to raise them
No wonder why there are too many Somali kids with daddy issues.

I hear you and I agree with that. But back home in Somalia, they have a lot of relatives that can help raise them. It takes a village as they say. I will also be there for two months and spend 24/7 with them when I’m there. It’s not as bad as some of you make it to be.

 

[Jungle]

Op got people hot. What hes saying is reality tbh. Most older faraxs with second wives in africa dont put in much work or take care of their first wife and kids like they should. Some due to financial reasons possibly and others dont care lol. These faraaxs only go back during the winter when it suits them to see the other wife and kids. i have relatives who do this and its common really.

It doesnt cost much so its not a suprise the younger generation might want to do the same but 2 wives is asking for problems if you're under 35 or even 40 imo.

I myself will most likely marry from back home next time but not from baadiiyo tho lol

 

[KobeBryant]

I'm a girl and tbh there's a lot you need to learn about us and our mindset/psychology.

Unlike men, women are more drawn to security and emotional connection. Whilst you're away, just remember she is in a town/city full of other men, some very intelligent, some very handsome, some she grew up with, had her eyes on before you or in extreme cases, some who she may have had a lowkey relationship with when she was younger. Women are human after all.

A kind, good-looking man who respects you and protects you with a similar upbringing to you (ie. in her case a somali guy raised in somalia and understands the trauma of civil war and alshab**) will be 10 X more valued to her than a diaspora with some Western privileges who barely sees you.

Think about what you will offer her instead of what Allah blessed you with that you didn't work for (ie. born in the West). What is so special about you that she will not replace you? What is special about you compared to say,, another somali guy in the diaspora to add to that? After all you plan to barely see her and all you offer is a passport (from what you have mentioned in the post).

Also, I think I saw you reply that women in somalia are "religious" and happy to raise kids back home. Yes sure that may be true in a few cases, but you can't generalise millions of women. If you want a good idea of the personalities of somali women back home, maybe go visit Somalia for a while and don't generalise.

It seems you generalise muslim girls the same way some Westerners talk about muslim girls who grew up in the west - "religious", "takes care of kids", "less maintainance", "doesn't talk back" etc.

My advice would be try making friendships with women back home or live there for a bit so you can get to know them a bit better.

Good luck!

Your pretty much saying she will eventually cheat while he’s away . Lol, Keep it a bean with him and tell him how it is without the rambling.

If he doesn’t pipe his wife somebody else will.

 

[Bundasliga]

This guy is a troll.

He knows this thread will trigger people.

He said in an post that he doesn't have a higher paying job. Has a 1st wife who he makes pays the bills.

Wants a 2nd wife, even though he fully doesn't provide for the 1st.

Doesn't want to spend enough time with the 2nd. He wants to take away her rights by exploiting her poverty. He even said a woman in Somalia won't refuse to have a husband only one month of the year 'because they need money'.

And he to make this worse, he wants his kids to grow up without an abo, he only sees one month.

Basically, this man wants to abuse polygamy, make a mockery of marriage, wants to take women's Islamic rights all for his libido and 'muh sons' he isn't going to raise.

This is going to be my last post, but you're a nacaas and an attention seeking troll.

I believe he isn't a troll .
I think he is a salafi wahabi from the way he talks about the deen .

What's worse he don't fully provide for his first wife & wants a second with a monthly budget of 300$

He doesn't even saves up for his kids college tuition

 

[Bundasliga]

Op got people hot. What hes saying is reality tbh. Most older faraxs with second wives in africa dont put in much work or take care of their first wife and kids like they should. Some due to financial reasons possibly and others dont care lol. These faraaxs only go back during the winter when it suits them to see the other wife and kids. i have relatives who do this and its common really.

It doesnt cost much so its not a suprise the younger generation might want to do the same but 2 wives is asking for problems if you're under 35 or even 40 imo.

I myself will most likely marry from back home next time but not from baadiiyo tho lol

If you ain't rich second marriage isn't for you .period.

Get a house , get a car , pay all the Bill's ,save up for your kids future college ,car etc.

Then talk about 2nd marriage, we already have too many fatherless children from broke & broken homes .

 

[Jungle]

If you ain't rich second marriage isn't for you .period.

Get a house , get a car , pay all the Bill's ,save up for your kids future college ,car etc.

Then talk about 2nd marriage, we already have too many fatherless children from broke & broken homes .

i dont have 1 rn sxb but imma get me a well paid xalane xalimo as the next insha allah ive seen enough in london