Marriage for Somali women to Somali men seems like you get the short end of the stick. You'll be working just like him but are still expected to do the majority (if not all) of the housework. Doing things 50/50 will end up with older Somali women gossiping about you and your man being made fun of by the Somali community. In other words, if your man is the type to be influenced by what others think/say about him it's gonna go bad
Ladies what do you bring to the table ?
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Odious Delirium
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I did not direct you towards this thread
Maybe on a visit they'll see the man cooking and cleaning lol. Habaryars and eedos share that kind of stuff like no one's business
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Do you not already do all that for your parents? Doesn't your father also help your mother and why does what they say matter in the slightest
It's true that it doesn't matter but let's be honest: most men (or people) are conscious of what others think of them. Helping your parents is seen as normal but doing housework 50/50 will raise eyebrows among Somalis
My parents divorced when I was a kid. I have no idea how much he did at home. He has a new wife. They both worked. From what I see, they aren't 50/50 when it comes to the house
Odious Delirium
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It's a matter of agreement. If they don't make an agreement or demand then that means there ok with the arrangements. I doubt the new gen women if they plan to work as much as there partner won't be making demands to split the house work from the get go. Plus housework isn't that hard aslong as you clean up after yourself and don't intentionally leave a mess. Even if it's not split 50/50 it won't be the end of the world for who ever picks up the slack from the two of them
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yes you didI did not direct you towards this thread
Odious Delirium
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Click the link I sent you it's about hair products
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That question is a billa akhlaaq question redpill men ask women who don’t even want them. That’s the funny thing.
It’s always been negative and only a subsection of men ask that who already have an inherent bias and toxic attitudes to relationships and women. As a man, If YOU think a girl brings nothing, from your perspective, you simply avoid her, why waste your time? Go where you believe there is value, instead asking dumb questions to be people you don’t think are worth it. It’s incredibly feminine as well. As a man you pursue women, you knock on women’s doors or that of their fathers? Why bother women if you don’t think they contribute anything? Ah let me guess, you want women to market themselves to you, ask for your hand in marriage, give you a dowry and the list goes on.
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In traditional Somali culture the woman was judged a suitable match for a number of reasons pertaining to her:
Simply existing and being a woman was not enough.
- Useful tribal ties. Many a time has a man benefited from being married to a woman from a strong and reliable neighboring tribe. Simply look at the Sayyid and how much the Dhulbahante of his mother's side proved of great service to him.
- Good looks and good health. Our ancestors clearly favored ideally beautiful women who had all the hallmarks of being able to bear strong and healthy children.
- Skills required for the husband's subsistence style. If he was a nomad then she better be a raised nomadess versed in how to weave baskets, construct and erect tents, cook things like Muqmad/Oodkac for him and the children, versed in tribal histories and traditions to impart to her children, prepare dairy products such ghee & yogurt milks and so on. Even in the magaalad or tuulo she'd have to be a skilled cook, versed in her dhaqan so she can teach the children, and perhaps even able to aid her husband in his business endeavors in some way if it was required.
Simply existing and being a woman was not enough.
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Abdisamad
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there is no denying that in order for a man to want a woman, the woman needs to bring something he believes is of value. But a man that wants a woman already knows what that woman brings, if not he wouldn’t be pursuing her, hence it’s a dumb question. Simply leave women whom you don’t rate alone. It’s not women that chase you lot or even bother you lot, it’s the other way around. That’s the funny thing.Don't do my dear beloved cousin like that
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Abdisamad
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Lool.. You taking things a bit too far, I have seen ladies chasing after guys.. But most guys when engaging with women don't focus on what the women bring to their life, they're mostly focused on her beauty and other qualities. Most important for me is a woman who loves and respects me and who is there for me in good and bad times, this is truly wife material.. But most women nowadays are very selfish and have a pseudo feminist mindset where you share everything 50/50 but your money and support is shared 100% with her.. That's like driving on a one sided road.
Odious Delirium
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War dibjir yahow I have always been consistent you are just consistently retarded.
You better watch yourself I'm coming to America soon so don't make me have to dox you on here and swing by to your mom's basement with an AR
Bundasliga
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How is that bila akhlaaq all of a sudden ?!?
If your Male relatives/sons would consult you for advice on how to choose a spouse ,would you give them this terrible advice?
Abdisamad
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These Xalimos might think you are easy to handle sxb.. Watch out you don't end up as plan B cardWar dibjir yahow I have always been consistent you are just consistently retarded.
You better watch yourself I'm coming to America soon so don't make me have to dox you on here and swing by to your mom's basement with an AR
