Ladies: Ever dated a charismatic man?

[Juke]

She was blond blue eyed
Back then I never looked at anything but blond girls...but now I completely lost interest in white women.

What happened akhi...you went bald didn't you?

 

[Abdisamad]

What happened akhi...you went bald didn't you?

Lool.. Nope it's not easy to explain.. Maybe it's because deep down I never had the intention of settling down with a white woman and now I'm more mature I don't want to live a fake life and form relationships that will not last very long.. Also I'm trying to become a better man.

 

[Jacki]

Nah it’s just you and your insecurities if I’m being honest. He wouldn’t be dating you if you were that unimportant and easily replaceable. If he had the same relationship he had with you with almost every other girl then why’s he dating you in the first place? You’re just overthinking it, calm down.

True, probably insecurity. But also maybe personality differences. It’s obviously bothering me and I just plain out don’t like a huge part of his personality. If I don’t like it, I don’t like it. And what does it matter if it’s insecurity or whatever? Fact still remains it makes me uncomfortable. But also not fair to someone to change a large part of their personality so you can be more comfortable. Tbh I’ve already mentally checked out, better to cut ties before feelings get deeper. Our personalities are jus not suited for a relationship with each other, it’s not anything wrong either one of us is doing but rather a serious difference in personality.

 

[BobSmoke]

Have any of you ever dated a charismatic person that seems to be liked by everyone- including people from the opposite gender? Constantly the center of attention? They’re funny, charming, caring, and just great. But..here’s the issue: they’re this way with everyone. It’s like they’re an emotional sl*t. The chemistry that you two have that first initiated your relationship that you thought was so special- whoops turns out he has chemistry with everyone. You’d eventually start resenting the same traits that you found endearing at the start of your relationship. He’s funny turns to why’s he constantly making girls laugh. He’s sweet turns to whys he so nice to her. He’s charming turns to whys he treating everyone the way he treats me. He has chemistry with all his female acquaintances, so he could replace you easily with the next girl. You’d eventually just checkout of the realtionship and start sabotaging it. You ever dealt with someone like this? Where’s the line? Isn’t it a tad inappropriate?

loool what you described is a charming playa. That's their nature. The male equivalence of a t-hot.
No point in asking why a th-ot is a th-ot. It's just simply their nature.

 

[Caaro]

True, probably insecurity. But also maybe personality differences. It’s obviously bothering me and I just plain out don’t like a huge part of his personality. If I don’t like it, I don’t like it. And what does it matter if it’s insecurity or whatever? Fact still remains it makes me uncomfortable. But also not fair to someone to change a large part of their personality so you can be more comfortable. Tbh I’ve already mentally checked out, better to cut ties before feelings get deeper. Our personalities are jus not suited for a relationship with each other, it’s not anything wrong either one of us is doing but rather a serious difference in personality.

Yeah if it REALLY bothers that you that much then you can should probably end it. I just don’t think it’s that serious, unless he’s make an active effort to talk to all these girls and hang out with them.