Iskaabulo (single) folks, there is hope for you!!!

[Barni]

My dad and I get into heated arguments about marriage for the past year or so. I am already out of school and am employed but I still feel like i'm not ready for marriage. I want to get married young but also want to stay single. Im too confused. I keep on moving the goal posts further and further


Wow. I am impressed that you pushed your desires away for the sake of the deen. May Allah make it easy for you.
Khaniis men are just too feminine and irreligious. Stay away from them.

Khanis men r the most xasid ppl u will ever meet. Some of these niggas get a thrill out of knowing that they’re sleeping with married men. I had to learn the hard way that they r so self-centered, much worse than straight men. Since at the end day straight men want something from women(companionship, children & s*x) gay men want none of that so they treat u like shit. Alot of them r misogynists but it never get called out.

 

[Odious Delirium]

@Waa dhamatay you will woo the ladies by being 6’2, nothing else will matter kkkk

@Lebron James needs this, streets saying you were a former edgy troll, now on a redemption arc. A fine xaliimo waits, if you mind to stop browsing through Hiiraan.com

@GaradShabeel No offense brother, you seem like a lovebird (simp) is your time to shine

After finding out @a_bilan is a self proclaimed femcel she defo needs to be added to that list

 

[A Mean Guy]

What's stopping you?

Fear. Most of the marriages around me are terrible ones that I would not want to replicate. My cousin's marriage literally lasted less than 1 year (The wife was super ungrateful, she bossed my cousin around and treated him like shit). Inversely, I have seen many women doing all the work while their husbands do drugs or are unemployed.
Honestly, the thing that makes me afraid of marriage is not marriage itself but rather the other "person" who I will be marrying.
I'm only 24 so I still have time to relax and take it easy but I will probably start to look seriously when I turn 26. I.A

 

[Odious Delirium]

Fear. Most of the marriages around me are terrible ones that I would not want to replicate. My cousin's marriage literally lasted less than 1 year (The wife was super ungrateful, she bossed my cousin around and treated him like shit). Inversely, I have seen many women doing all the work while their husbands do drugs or are unemployed.
Honestly, the thing that makes me afraid of marriage is not marriage itself but rather the other "person" who I will be marrying.
I'm only 24 so I still have time to relax and take it easy but I will probably start to look seriously when I turn 26. I.A

I guess it's all about knowing how to vet them well. You need good married mentors which a lot of people lack.

No point delaying you might aswell start now instead of being at the starting line then. Most of the time marriages end up like that because people just rushed into it not thinking with there heads and over looking the evident red flags.

The earlier you start the better because it's not like anything is going to change from now till then since your already ready. Infact you will probably rush since your a lot older then and your mindset ain't going to magically change either so get on it asap.

 

[Waa dhamatay]

Fear. Most of the marriages around me are terrible ones that I would not want to replicate. My cousin's marriage literally lasted less than 1 year (The wife was super ungrateful, she bossed my cousin around and treated him like shit). Inversely, I have seen many women doing all the work while their husbands do drugs or are unemployed.
Honestly, the thing that makes me afraid of marriage is not marriage itself but rather the other "person" who I will be marrying.
I'm only 24 so I still have time to relax and take it easy but I will probably start to look seriously when I turn 26. I.A

That’s only a couple years away. You’re banking on suddenly changing your outlook within that time period?

 

[JackieBurkhart]

This seems like a good idea!

 

[Barni]

This seems like a good idea!

U looking for a man?

 

[JackieBurkhart]

U looking for a man?

A man wouldn't add anything of value to my life, what would I need him for? I have better things to do.

 

[Internet Nomad]

A man wouldn't add anything of value to my life, what would I need him for? I have better things to do.

Wouldn't you want companionship? Masculine and Feminine energy tend to do well with eachother.

 

[A Mean Guy]

A man wouldn't add anything of value to my life, what would I need him for? I have better things to do.

Ummm actually a man can.....ummm......
when you.......umm..

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[Odious Delirium]

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Nigga you can't say anything when your in a position to get married but don't want to

 

[JackieBurkhart]

Wouldn't you want companionship?

Eh, I'm happy with friends and family. I avoid the possibility of a romantic relationship, it's too much of a hassle for me. Helping people and doing things that make me happy is what I strive for in life.

 

[astr0veiled]

i hope they vet these men thoroughly but let’s please bring back the hopeless romantic men. i can’t keep living vicariously through somali poems

 

[Odious Delirium]

i hope they get vet these men thoroughly but let’s please bring back the hopeless romantic men. i can’t keep living vicariously through somali poems

The actual vetting beyond the background check of there profession has to be done by the women themselves. Are you planning on going down there to find yourself a farax?

 

[Internet Nomad]

Eh, I'm happy with friends and family. I avoid the possibility of a romantic relationship, it's too much of a hassle for me. Helping people and doing things that make me happy is what I strive for in life.

Do you fear that you may marry a guy who turns out to be a horrible person or the whole idea of marriage/male companion is something you don't want to deal with.

 

[astr0veiled]

The actual vetting beyond the background check of there profession has to be done by the women themselves. Are you planning on going down there to find yourself a farax?

no, not at all. i just want the best for my somali sisters

 

[Internet Nomad]

The actual vetting beyond the background check of there profession has to be done by the women themselves. Are you planning on going down there to find yourself a farax?

It has to be done by men. There is reason why in Islam when a man wants to marry a woman he has to meet a male mahram. Men know the games other men play.

 

[Odious Delirium]

It has to be done by men. There is reason why in Islam when a man wants to marry a woman he has to meet a male mahram. Men know the games other men play.

Yeah I meant the individuals will have to do it from there own side not the actual organisation

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Mashallah. Is this program inclusive ?

 

[Odious Delirium]

Eh, I'm happy with friends and family. I avoid the possibility of a romantic relationship, it's too much of a hassle for me. Helping people and doing things that make me happy is what I strive for in life.

It seems that men are more into the idea of having female companionship. Women are more content being single in comparison and deriving happiness elsewhere outside of a romantic relationship.