is your social life over when u finish college/uni

[eccentric]

I get this strong feeling that its not going to look good after i finish inshallah and the main reason is that my friends are finishing with me so with jobs, life and family we wont interact as much. I see my boys everyday and its not like when we were younger and we can just hop on the game and socialize there. Its looking like 1 day every 1-2 months ngl

 

[Shimbiris]

Just maintain hobbies that you regularly go to and that bring you around other people, push through your comfort zone and maintain your health so that your brain is functioning optimally and you have a positive outlook and want to socialize. That means avoiding drug abuse of any kind, p0rn/masturbation and eating a nutrient dense and non-inflammatory diet most of the time (low-carb/carnivore leaning).

As for the hobbies, volunteer at animal shelters where loads of other people go, join sporting clubs, maybe a crossfit gym, a weekly basketball game, a book club where people meet often to discuss the books being read, a writing club, regularly volunteering at your local masjid or generally anything you like and think you'd benefit from where you'd be around other people for at least a few hours on a weekly or more than once a week basis if you can crack it with your work schedule. If you're feeling good and push through that initial awkwardness, you'll make as many friends as when you were in college if not more.

Finally, most cities have online groups on Facebook, Discord and Meetup where they regularly arrange meetup events like boardgame nights, clubbing nights, dinners, tours of certain museums or whatever else. Go. You'd be surprised how quickly you can make friends via these sorts of events and most of these groups are meant for people who are college grads or new to a city with names like "Friends after college" or what have you.

Best of luck, cuz.

 

[eccentric]

As for the hobbies, volunteer at animal shelters where loads of other people go, join sporting clubs, maybe a crossfit gym, a weekly basketball game, a book club where people meet often to discuss the books being read, a writing club or generally anything you like and think you'd benefit from where you'd be around other people for at least a few hours on a weekly or more than once a week basis if you can crack it with your work schedule. If you're feeling good and push through that initial awkwardness, you'll make as many friends as when you were college if not more.

I stopped playing basketball entirely after my first year and started lifting weights last year started being consistent start of fall. I was thinking of getting a personal trainer so I can train and do basketball drills to increase my skill level that way I can join one of those Somali basketball leagues.

I guess why I think its over is cause no matter who I interact with it wont be the same with my current sxb's but at the end im just going to have to outgrow who I am rn, or our sense of humor. tbh most ppl are the same. I just realized theres no reason to doom over stepping outside of comfort zone. Thank you for your insight

 

[Kisame]

Ive mainly been hanging out with co workers, college friends and my cousins.

 

[gasara]

I get this strong feeling that its not going to look good after i finish inshallah and the main reason is that my friends are finishing with me so with jobs, life and family we wont interact as much. I see my boys everyday and its not like when we were younger and we can just hop on the game and socialize there. Its looking like 1 day every 1-2 months ngl

People who care for you will always make time for you and be there for you. Marriage might change it but even then from the people I've been around they were able to balance married life, obligations, and friendships. Like my Aabo has 50 year long friendships who he sees every week or twice a week. Otherwise they call eachother regularly. But these type of relationships have to be cultivated and lowkey you can't be the one always calling ur friends they have to do it too. Make lots of hobbies, go to those local city events, make a discord (join random ass servers), and just branch out.

 

[The truth seeker]

It’s over when you decide it’s over go outside and hang out it’s not that hard to make friends when your doing things

 

[eccentric]

It’s over when you decide it’s over go outside and hang out it’s not that hard to make friends when your doing things

Making friends isn’t the same as your homies. look at older people who have families they’re buddies are neighbors and shit they barely have a social life cause everyone they grew up with is busy/moved away or something.