Is wrong to tell your wife to delete Instagram or put it in private

Royalflush

novacane
Bro I’m seeing major 🚩
Why wouldn’t she tell you about it
Also tell her to remove her male followers and following
ThT is so suss wallahi
 
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: He who deceives is not of me (is not my follower)

Sahih Muslim 102

I'd seek the advice of a scholar, you might be able to divorce such an individual because this could render the marriage contract null and void.

But to answer your question - no it's not wrong to ask her this simple request.
How can that break the marriage contract?
 

QueenofKings

Kick in the door wavin the .44
There’s no net benefit and it’s a fitnah why does she need to post out of herself as a Muslim woman for the world to see

A respectable Muslim wife and mother of your kids does need that attention

Depends how she’s using it, if it’s private for family and close friends I don’t see the big deal, but public profile/trying to be an influencer can be a lot.

But the real Q is ... why would you marry a girl who is about that ig life in the first place, if you know you don’t like that sort of thing? A lot of people make the mistake of thinking they can change a person, but it doesn’t work like that. I think it’s better if people marry someone they’re happy with - in their present form, not some future version of them you hope they’ll morph into.
 
Depends how she’s using it, if it’s private for family and close friends I don’t see the big deal, but public profile/trying to be an influencer can be a lot.

But the real Q is ... why would you marry a girl who is about that ig life in the first place, if you know you don’t like that sort of thing? A lot of people make the mistake of thinking they can change a person, but it doesn’t work like that. I think it’s better if people marry someone they’re happy with - in their present form, not some future version of them you hope they’ll morph into.
She’s not a influencer she has only 200 followers, she’s not giving up alot
 

inflorescence

The Horn ~~~
Would rather post pics of myself rather than having my kids on insta. Thats obviously worse, adults have a choice to expose themselves to the public while kids do not.

family insta / family YouTube/vlog is cringe.
 
How can that break the marriage contract?

The husband signed the contract unknowingly based on false information he believed to be true at the time.

She’s not a influencer she has only 200 followers, she’s not giving up alot

Obedience to the husband is obligatory in Islam.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands.” This indicates the high importance of the husband's rights(mainly obedience).

Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi (1159); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

It was narrated that Abu Umaamah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are three whose prayer goes no further than their ears: the runaway slave until he returns, a wife whose husband remains angry with her overnight, and a imam who leads the people in prayer when they object to him doing so.”

Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi (360).

It was narrated from Mu’aadh ibn Jabal that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No woman offends her husband in this world but his wife among the hoor al-iyn says, ‘Do not offend him, may Allaah kill you, for he is only with you for a short time and soon he will leave you and come to us.’”

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1174) and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

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The evidences are many. So do the following:

step 1 - communicate your concerns to her in the best of manners
step 2 - forsake her in bed
step 3 - hit her in a way that is not severe and that does not cause injury

If your efforts do not succeed and she does not respond to good advice from you or from someone else, then you may divorce her once (one talaaq).

This may serve as a reminder and “wake up call”. But if she persists in her defiance and disobedience, then there is nothing good in her and Allaah may give you someone better than her.
 
If yuor wife has social media where she posts her pictures and is freinds with some random dudes then divorce her

if its private and no so called guy friends -sorry but men and women can never ever be friends, then its ok if its private and only for her female friends and family

if she has random guys on social media, get rid of her, the less kids you have the better, leave early,

for God's sake, check out these kind of red flags before you marry her

i once rejected a girl who had 6000 pictures on Facebook and tons of guys oogling at her her pictures an commenting,

it will bring you problems later on, you might as well get rid of as much red flags as yuo can

marriage is not easy in this century, its very very hard, do not make it harder, i am the jealous type, i will never marry a halimo with so called male friends and public pictures if someone paid me to do it, no thanks,
 

QueenofKings

Kick in the door wavin the .44
The husband signed the contract unknowingly based on false information he believed to be true at the time.



Obedience to the husband is obligatory in Islam.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands.” This indicates the high importance of the husband's rights(mainly obedience).

Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi (1159); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

It was narrated that Abu Umaamah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are three whose prayer goes no further than their ears: the runaway slave until he returns, a wife whose husband remains angry with her overnight, and a imam who leads the people in prayer when they object to him doing so.”

Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi (360).

It was narrated from Mu’aadh ibn Jabal that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No woman offends her husband in this world but his wife among the hoor al-iyn says, ‘Do not offend him, may Allaah kill you, for he is only with you for a short time and soon he will leave you and come to us.’”

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1174) and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

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The evidences are many. So do the following:

step 1 - communicate your concerns to her in the best of manners
step 2 - forsake her in bed
step 3 - hit her in a way that is not severe and that does not cause injury

If your efforts do not succeed and she does not respond to good advice from you or from someone else, then you may divorce her once (one talaaq).

This may serve as a reminder and “wake up call”. But if she persists in her defiance and disobedience, then there is nothing good in her and Allaah may give you someone better than her.

I think some men will read this and take it as license to have an opinion on everything and anything, ie be pointlessly controlling.
 
I think some men will read this and take it as license to have an opinion on everything and anything, ie be pointlessly controlling.

Islam is a religion of justice and Allah sees everything. Men who use their privileges to oppress will be questioned. I wish Muslim men understood, that with power comes extra responsibilities and accountability.
 

QueenofKings

Kick in the door wavin the .44
She’s not a influencer she has only 200 followers, she’s not giving up alot

What’s the big deal? It’s private? It’s 200 ppl and if she’s Somali most of them are likely to be family. Do you believe she is a liar? An adulterer? What’s making you scared? If she is a liar or a cheater - dump her. If she’s not and it’s your insecurity, maybe look within yourself where this is stemming from. Relationships are built on trust. You won’t always be hovering over her shoulder to check what she’s doing. At some point you’re gonna have to let go and trust.
 

Mercury

Ha igu daalinee dantaada raac
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Firstly , in that sitution you only have yourself to blame. You knew before marrying her, that her instagram account is public. Social media and how one feels about it, is a question people talk about in the talking stage, let alone the stage in which you decide to marry the person.


I have no sympathy for such a man. The only excuse is if the wife decided to randomly be more public with her social media after marriage.

But my overall point is that this isn't a conversation someone has after marriage, its a conversation you have well before putting a ring on her.
Its like a guy who marries a girl who wears jeans and hijab from time to time than once married he wants her to wear abaya and not dress like she used to cause know they are married
 

IstarZ

A mere finger can’t obscure the sun.
I don’t think social media is the problem here. Often people project their insecurities onto others instead of addressing the real issue.
 
I think some men will read this and take it as license to have an opinion on everything and anything, ie be pointlessly controlling.

Absolutely. I free myself from people of ignorance and those bad towards their women.

What’s the big deal? It’s private? It’s 200 ppl and if she’s Somali most of them are likely to be family. Do you believe she is a liar? An adulterer? What’s making you scared? If she is a liar or a cheater - dump her. If she’s not and it’s your insecurity, maybe look within yourself where this is stemming from. Relationships are built on trust. You won’t always be hovering over her shoulder to check what she’s doing. At some point you’re gonna have to let go and trust.

My sister I advice you to put your own opinions (Whether heavily influenced by The West or not) to the side and take what was authentically transmitted from the Prophet (CS) and from the Quran based on the understanding of the As-Salaf.
 

Mercury

Ha igu daalinee dantaada raac
VIP
I don’t think social media is the problem here. Often people project their insecurities onto others instead of addressing the real issue.
also not everybody use Instagram to talk with others alot people also use it to share their hobby with others
 
Islam is a religion of justice and Allah sees everything. Men who use their privileges to oppress will be questioned. I wish Muslim men understood, that with power comes extra responsibilities and accountability.

Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

The best among you is the best towards his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.

(Ibn Majah and authenticated by Al-Albani)

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: " The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Be kind to women.’"

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3153; Muslim, 1468)

It was narrated from Zaynab bint Abi Salamah that Umm Salamah said: “I got my menses when I was lying with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) under a single woollen sheet. I slipped away and put on the clothes I usually wore for menstruation. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me, ‘Have you got your menses?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ Then he called me and made me lie with him under the same sheet.

"And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and I used to do ghusl to cleanse ourselves from janaabah from one vessel."

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 316; Muslim, 296)

It was narrated that ‘Urwah ibn al-Zubayr said: " ‘Aa’ishah said: ‘By Allaah, I saw the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) standing at the door of my apartment when the Abyssinians were playing with their spears in the Mosque of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He covered me with his cloak so that I could watch their games, then he stood there for my sake until I was the one who had had enough. So you should appreciate the fact that young girls like to have fun "

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 443; Muslim, 892)

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The evidence of being good husband to your wife is alot. But only those who truly fear Allah and want His Paradise will listen and follow Muhammed (CS). No sane wife will disobey a husband like this. I ask Allah to give all believing women a husband like this 🙏
 
Guys, there's this girl I know has 5k+ followers on tiktok, her AF SOOMALI is really good.
She has a ton of simps in her messages though is she a lost cause?
 
Not sure if you married a slay queen but lemme assume she isn’t. your wife has an obligation to respect you it is non negotiable. I would only accept my wife to be on Instagram, only if that page is about business and if she makes it clear on her Instagram account that she is married. Also you must have access to her dm.

if she is a slay queen , well then I have no mercy on you. You reaped what you sow.
 
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