Basra why should women help or nurse men who wouldn't do the same for them?
IS THIS ETHICAL? HUSBAND DIED ONLY TO BE REPLACED BY HER "FRIEND" IN A COUPLE OF WEEKS!
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Prophet pbuh loved his wife no doubt. The year of the sorrow, was a bad one, Khadija pbuh died, his uncle died, and it was a tuff year of daw'aah
Contrary to popular belief my favourite part about his marriages is that it had nothing to really do with his desires or physical intimacy, if you look at the sahaba most of them(the men) had little desire for the physical aspect of women and didn't really care, their marriages were not based on desires but respect kindness compassion and gratitude,
even when a man came up to Umar ibnulkkhattab RA and asked for divorce because he didn't love his wife anymore Umar RA replied are houses just built on love, meaning love is temporary and there are deeper things in life then a fleeting emotion.
The Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wasalam didn't marry for lust or desires, because if he did he would have married multiple women in his youth and married young virgins when he was a prophet, instead he married widows and other women, and his purpose for marrying was for religious purposes, nowadays people get married for reasons like wealth and beauty and lineage and tribe but these are all wrong, it should be for religious reasons.
Men who quickly cheat or remarry because they cant go without intimacy( I think this is a lie because if you can't control yourself when your wife is ill you must have been somewhat unchaste before marriage and during if its that bad) are impatient and show there core reason for marriage is very fickle, marriage should be built on more than just sex. If men followed the sunnah they wouldn't even care that much about physical intimacy.
And polgyny doesn't solve your desires as a man, the more women you marry the more you will want, if you can't control yourself with no woman or one woman, you won't control yourself with more than one.
Marriages should have much more compassion and kindness instead of being selfish. Woman shouldn't be married for just sex aswell as thats such a little part of someones life
Arrogance will lead any man to a dark path.
Tell these cuckoo crazy women in here, who are trying to put dresses on their men.
I do understand that SOME men are too busy to nurse their wives but lets say a women has noone to nurse her who then will she get help from.
its not about arrogance, its respect huuno. Its cruel to ask a husband to nurse his wife. What if she defecates on herself? or vomits? U think he can handle that?
The bit in bold, that is why men are 6x times more likely to leave their wives if they are chronically ill such as cancer ect. This is why having strong close relationships with female family members are important. Even if he does stay, usually it will be your sister, hooyo or even mother in-law that will nurse you as culturally, it is seen as not something the husband does as @Basra mentioned.
What happens if I am broke and can't afford a nurse or maid,like 90% of us here in the west
What if the a husband vomits on himself, even worse defecates? All in all, I thought men were stronger than women, so how could they not handle it?
Woman have or should have a certain shyness around their husbands, I don't think most woman would want their husband to see them in that state.
No man can ever be too busy. Whilst the husband is ill the wife is also usually the breadwinner as well. So why is that women work and they're also expected to look after family members, but men are treated as incapable yet we are taught to see them as stronger and be more capable?
this varies from situation to situation.
What man would want his wife to see him in such a vulnerable and weak state? Men want their women to see them as strong. But when illness strikes, all of that is meaningless and the only thing is needed is help and compassion.
Give me an example?
Man is already looking after other women in his family and/or his children.
Man is out working all day to provide and has no time to look after his wife except maybe a few hours
Man is out travelling for work to provide for family
Man has other responsibilities he has that he had before wife was ill and now he cannot change those responsibilities
no way woman move on way quicker & faster.
man will never end 10-20 year marriage but a woman will.
woman is fickle in her emotions.
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