Is my standards for a Halimo wife too high and unreasonable?

Manafesto

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Sorry about this long post but I was bored and had to vent and needed your input on this.

A good friend of mine and I just finished a conversation about how my standards in regards to women are "ridiculously high", how ever I don't think they're unreasonable,difficult and rare to find? yes, unreasonable? I don't see why they should be, I failed in my first wedding(my fault) and ended up as a single father hence why I don't repeat the same mistake again.

1. She has to be virgin who understands the importance of pureness and willing to answer the big question within the first week of our date,this is the most important aspect and it is a automatic deal breaker, there is nothing wrong with this and wanting a virgin and pious girl as my wife.

2. My future Halimo companion must be religious and has above average knowledge of the relgion and practice what it preaches,she also has to know to be fluent in Somali and loves our culture and country.

3. She also has to have to pass reputation background check in within the Somali community along with her siblings and relatives, good household most likely produces a great wife.

4. I will not even look at a woman that is obese, a few extra pounds is fine, you don't have to be an anorexic skinny but if I have to load you up on a crane to take you on a date and rent an African safari map guide to find your private parts then I'm not interested, I've met some large women that were sweet and had wonderful personalities, but they all remind me too much of my 250 lb aunties, anyone seeking a longterm relationship with me reminding me of my aunties=fail.

Also, letting yourself get that bad, at least in my book, shows that you don't care enough about yourself to take care of your body,no self-respect means no love for yourself. I don't hate fat people and don't have a problem with them, however as far as dating them goes...sorry, but no.

5.Must be able to carry on an intelligent conversation,I can't stand talking to someone that's so mentally dull that it's obvious within thirty seconds of talking to them that I'm talking way over their head. I like talking with people that are intellectually engaging, someone I can talk to about politics and current events with without having to explain everything I'm saying in painstaking detail,Being dumb as a box of rocks = fail.

6.Must be willing to give me some "me" time now and then,guess what, I have friend, I've known them longer than you. Yes there are going to be times when I want to spend time with them instead of you, got a problem with it? Find someone else to smother, being a jealous, needy, clingygm girl = fail.

7.No history of long rap sheet of EXs and long term relationships even if no Haraam sex, If you can't count the number of guys you've had dated with on one hand, in my experience plenty of failed courtship with many guys brings insecurities and trust issues which is something I am not willing to deal with.

8.Must be reasonably attractive, if you fell out of the top of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, then Adios Amigo.

9.Must have some semblance of mental stability, I was talking to a girl once that I finally thought would be a good choice to date, she met all of the previous standards,then I found out she was believed superstitious things like Mingis and evil eye, she would tell me she was sick for a whole month because her neighboring family were jealous of her beauty and were evil eying her, or whatever that means, this was a good hint and I had to ghost her.

10.Must have a sense of humor, if you can't take a joke here and there without getting buthurt then piss off.
11. No double-standards,If you're allowed to do something, then so am I, don't you DARE ***** at me If you can spend your entire day shopping or at a random Somali wedding if I also spend my entire day playing video games or hanging out with friends at bowling alley.

Now, with this being said, I'm very picky oman about my standards on Halimos, I'd rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't get me, or that makes me physically ill to look at, being in a relationship is over-rated anyway and not for everyone, take one look at the Somali divorce rate and you'll see why I'm in no fucking hurry. People are too quick to rush into relationships with people they ultimately can't be happy with.

Are my standards finding a Halimo soulmate too much or unreasonable? Which one of these conditions should I cross off? What numbers on this list do you guys think is necessary or unnecessary?:kanyehmm:
 

Asli

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As long as you preach what you want then sure it’s fine, you have to be a virgin too. Especially if you are complaining about religious expectations. She deserves a virgin husband, it is what Allah wrote in the Quran. What do you have to offer?
 

Desert Flower

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Sorry about this long post but I was bored and had to vent and needed your input on this.

A good friend of mine and I just finished a conversation about how my standards in regards to women are "ridiculously high", how ever I don't think they're unreasonable,difficult and rare to find? yes, unreasonable? I don't see why they should be, I failed in my first wedding(my fault) and ended up as a single father hence why I don't repeat the same mistake again.

1. She has to be virgin who understands the importance of pureness and willing to answer the big question within the first week of our date,this is the most important aspect and it is a automatic deal breaker, there is nothing wrong with this and wanting a virgin and pious girl as my wife.

2. My future Halimo companion must be religious and has above average knowledge of the relgion and practice what it preaches,she also has to know to be fluent in Somali and loves our culture and country.

3. She also has to have to pass reputation background check in within the Somali community along with her siblings and relatives, good household most likely produces a great wife.

4. I will not even look at a woman that is obese, a few extra pounds is fine, you don't have to be an anorexic skinny but if I have to load you up on a crane to take you on a date and rent an African safari map guide to find your private parts then I'm not interested, I've met some large women that were sweet and had wonderful personalities, but they all remind me too much of my 250 lb aunties, anyone seeking a longterm relationship with me reminding me of my aunties=fail.

Also, letting yourself get that bad, at least in my book, shows that you don't care enough about yourself to take care of your body,no self-respect means no love for yourself. I don't hate fat people and don't have a problem with them, however as far as dating them goes...sorry, but no.

5.Must be able to carry on an intelligent conversation,I can't stand talking to someone that's so mentally dull that it's obvious within thirty seconds of talking to them that I'm talking way over their head. I like talking with people that are intellectually engaging, someone I can talk to about politics and current events with without having to explain everything I'm saying in painstaking detail,Being dumb as a box of rocks = fail.

6.Must be willing to give me some "me" time now and then,guess what, I have friend, I've known them longer than you. Yes there are going to be times when I want to spend time with them instead of you, got a problem with it? Find someone else to smother, being a jealous, needy, clingygm girl = fail.

7.No history of long rap sheet of EXs and long term relationships even if no Haraam sex, If you can't count the number of guys you've had dated with on one hand, in my experience plenty of failed courtship with many guys brings insecurities and trust issues which is something I am not willing to deal with.

8.Must be reasonably attractive, if you fell out of the top of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, then Adios Amigo.

9.Must have some semblance of mental stability, I was talking to a girl once that I finally thought would be a good choice to date, she met all of the previous standards,then I found out she was believed superstitious things like Mingis and evil eye, she would tell me she was sick for a whole month because her neighboring family were jealous of her beauty and were evil eying her, or whatever that means, this was a good hint and I had to ghost her.

10.Must have a sense of humor, if you can't take a joke here and there without getting buthurt then piss off.
11. No double-standards,If you're allowed to do something, then so am I, don't you DARE ***** at me If you can spend your entire day shopping or at a random Somali wedding if I also spend my entire day playing video games or hanging out with friends at bowling alley.

Now, with this being said, I'm very picky oman about my standards on Halimos, I'd rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't get me, or that makes me physically ill to look at, being in a relationship is over-rated anyway and not for everyone, take one look at the Somali divorce rate and you'll see why I'm in no fucking hurry. People are too quick to rush into relationships with people they ultimately can't be happy with.

Are my standards finding a Halimo soulmate too much or unreasonable? Which one of these conditions should I cross off? What numbers on this list do you guys think is necessary or unnecessary?:kanyehmm:
1 you can cross that off. You’ve been married and have a child. Demanding something that you aren’t is a double standard.

Everything else is fine granted you can meet those standards yourself.
 

486th President

President of NSFW
Sorry about this long post but I was bored and had to vent and needed your input on this.

A good friend of mine and I just finished a conversation about how my standards in regards to women are "ridiculously high", how ever I don't think they're unreasonable,difficult and rare to find? yes, unreasonable? I don't see why they should be, I failed in my first wedding(my fault) and ended up as a single father hence why I don't repeat the same mistake again.

1. She has to be virgin who understands the importance of pureness and willing to answer the big question within the first week of our date,this is the most important aspect and it is a automatic deal breaker, there is nothing wrong with this and wanting a virgin and pious girl as my wife.

2. My future Halimo companion must be religious and has above average knowledge of the relgion and practice what it preaches,she also has to know to be fluent in Somali and loves our culture and country.

3. She also has to have to pass reputation background check in within the Somali community along with her siblings and relatives, good household most likely produces a great wife.

4. I will not even look at a woman that is obese, a few extra pounds is fine, you don't have to be an anorexic skinny but if I have to load you up on a crane to take you on a date and rent an African safari map guide to find your private parts then I'm not interested, I've met some large women that were sweet and had wonderful personalities, but they all remind me too much of my 250 lb aunties, anyone seeking a longterm relationship with me reminding me of my aunties=fail.

Also, letting yourself get that bad, at least in my book, shows that you don't care enough about yourself to take care of your body,no self-respect means no love for yourself. I don't hate fat people and don't have a problem with them, however as far as dating them goes...sorry, but no.

5.Must be able to carry on an intelligent conversation,I can't stand talking to someone that's so mentally dull that it's obvious within thirty seconds of talking to them that I'm talking way over their head. I like talking with people that are intellectually engaging, someone I can talk to about politics and current events with without having to explain everything I'm saying in painstaking detail,Being dumb as a box of rocks = fail.

6.Must be willing to give me some "me" time now and then,guess what, I have friend, I've known them longer than you. Yes there are going to be times when I want to spend time with them instead of you, got a problem with it? Find someone else to smother, being a jealous, needy, clingygm girl = fail.

7.No history of long rap sheet of EXs and long term relationships even if no Haraam sex, If you can't count the number of guys you've had dated with on one hand, in my experience plenty of failed courtship with many guys brings insecurities and trust issues which is something I am not willing to deal with.

8.Must be reasonably attractive, if you fell out of the top of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, then Adios Amigo.

9.Must have some semblance of mental stability, I was talking to a girl once that I finally thought would be a good choice to date, she met all of the previous standards,then I found out she was believed superstitious things like Mingis and evil eye, she would tell me she was sick for a whole month because her neighboring family were jealous of her beauty and were evil eying her, or whatever that means, this was a good hint and I had to ghost her.

10.Must have a sense of humor, if you can't take a joke here and there without getting buthurt then piss off.
11. No double-standards,If you're allowed to do something, then so am I, don't you DARE ***** at me If you can spend your entire day shopping or at a random Somali wedding if I also spend my entire day playing video games or hanging out with friends at bowling alley.

Now, with this being said, I'm very picky oman about my standards on Halimos, I'd rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't get me, or that makes me physically ill to look at, being in a relationship is over-rated anyway and not for everyone, take one look at the Somali divorce rate and you'll see why I'm in no fucking hurry. People are too quick to rush into relationships with people they ultimately can't be happy with.

Are my standards finding a Halimo soulmate too much or unreasonable? Which one of these conditions should I cross off? What numbers on this list do you guys think is necessary or unnecessary?:kanyehmm:
It’s not unrealistic or to high now a days women want you to have low standards but don’t listen to them when you marry someone they’re gonna be the love of your life and someone that will be with you for a lifetime so high standards isn’t bad for finding the right person good list saaxiib keep up the good threads 👍🏾
 

Asli

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As long as you preach what you want then sure it’s fine, you have to be a virgin too. Especially if you are complaining about religious expectations. She deserves a virgin husband, it is what Allah wrote in the Quran. What do you have to offer?
Oh and if you want a pretty wife, you have to be good looking as well. What comes around goes around
 

Asli

idiocy gives me energy
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Been married with a kid and he’s asking for a virgin ???? Bisinka
He has to marry a divorced woman. If he’s lucky enough to find someone that wants him. No virgin pious woman would want to take care of someone’s left over child :ayaanswag:
 

Asli

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Not even remotely IMO.
Honestly, if a woman made a thread like this with that long list then all these same men would bash her for being a “whœre“ and tell her that shes not good enough and that she should shut up and take whoever offers her. Double standards much?
 

Asli

idiocy gives me energy
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Btw, evil eye is a true and real thing. I could understand if you ditched her for being a tad creepy, but nothing wrong with believing in evil eye, it’s terrifying. If you deny this yet claim to love religion, don’t forget that the prophet himself got evil eyed sixir before...
 
Honestly, if a woman made a thread like this with that long list then all these same men would bash her for being a “whœre“ and tell her that shes not good enough and that she should shut up and take whoever offers her. Double standards much?
On here? The thread would get derailed with quickness. I don't think he asked for anything particularly unreasonable and if a woman made a similar list I genuinely don't believe that most men would have a problem with it. If they do, they're wrong.

Literally nothing he listed seems unreasonable. 1 makes things a little trickier, but I'd argue it heavily depends on his age.

99% of the calacaal from men comes from the same few talking points. A) girls asking for arbitrarily high mehr or B) homekeeping arrangements
 

Asli

idiocy gives me energy
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My personal opinion:

his expectations aren’t extreme and it’s reasonable. I agree with most things on that list and it could go the same for a male spouse. No extreme fat, humorous, non clingy, good hygiene . Not too bad. better than those who say “skinny but mega thick with an invisible waist but anime tits, no stretch marks, blonde hair, blue eyes, innocent yet freaky, virgin yet experienced... yada yada yada. Your list is fine
 

Ayatiin

Nuur Caraale ii geeya!
I found out she was believed superstitious things like Mingis and evil eye, she would tell me she was sick for a whole month because her neighboring family were jealous of her beauty and were evil eying her, or whatever that means, this was a good hint and I had to ghost her.

Reasonable expectations but you say you want a religious woman when you seem to know nothing about the religion yourself. The evil eye, sixir, jinn/possessions are ALL very real things that exist.
 

Manafesto

[Beeldaajiyaha Migiurtinia]#PIM#N&NDown
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You can easily spot the Non-virgin Halimos on this thread since they have a problems with number 1 out of all shit I listed, :pachah1:don't calaacal to me for demanding a virgin girl,I didn't make you open your legs.:comeon:

Sorry girls ,no one wants to take a used girl home, that is habaar and no real nigga marries those type of degenerates.
 
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Asli

idiocy gives me energy
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You can easily spot the Non-virgin Halimos on this thread by having problems number 1 out of all I listed, :pachah1:don't calaacal to me for demanding a virgin girl,I didn't make you open your legs.:comeon:

Sorry girls ,no one wants to take a used girl home, that is habaar and no real nigga marries those type of degenerate wome.
No one here is mad, get your head out of your ass and pay attention.
 

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