Is it xasiid to your parents to not mary?

[Wervelwind]

I don't want to marry and I don't think I'll change my mind but I do feel bad for my parents because they're really on it now (I'm male, 32 yrs old for reference)
I'm hoping one of my younger brothers will marry soon

 

[Wonyluvr]

It’s not xasiid

 

[Xeda]

It’s not xasiid if you don’t wanna get married, it’s your life not your parents.

 

[Wervelwind]

@Wervelwind You should make this an open poll and ask people to elaborate, instead of having this thread pile up with yes/no answers.

If I put a poll it might lead to ppl just voting instead of commenting. I like reading what they havge to say

 

[DojaKhat]

If I put a poll it might lead to ppl just voting instead of commenting. I like reading what they havge to say

Fair point.

 

[DojaKhat]

My answer is NO.

I don't think anyone should force themselves onto a path that isn't suitable for them for the sake of pleasing their parents.

You're the one who has to carry the burden of marriage and children, not your parents, so you should be (or should have already since you're over 30) making your decision based on your own needs, wants and priorities.

 

[El Nino]

This is the 10th thread you have made of the same topic, I know the pressure is getting hectic sxb.

Ask Allah SWT for help.

 

[Omar del Sur]

you may have a legit reason not to marry. for example, you may not be ready financially. however, if you willfully reject marriage without a valid reason, you are going against the sunnah. further, what about your bloodline? I think no one should reject marriage without a valid reason. Marriage is part of the sunnah, half of the dīn.

 

[Sup]

I don't want to marry and I don't think I'll change my mind but I do feel bad for my parents because they're really on it now (I'm male, 32 yrs old for reference)
I'm hoping one of my younger brothers will marry soon

If it’s not to personal of a question, why don’t you want to get married exactly ?.

 

[Omar del Sur]

It was narrated from Aishah that:
the Messenger of Allah said: “Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him get married, and whoever does not, then he should fast for it will diminish his desire.”

Sunan Ibn Majah 1846 - The Chapters on Marriage - كتاب النكاح - Sunnah.com - Sayings and Teachings of Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه و سلم)

Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (saws) in English and Arabic

sunnah.com

 

[mohamedismail]

Forget about your parents, it's Xaasid upon yourself. If you are physically , mentally and financially capable of marriage why don't you get married. Why make yourself live a life of single good when you can have a partner to share life with.

Second of all yes it's Xaasid if you are your parents only son. You should want to give your parents grandchildren and give your father a continuation of his lineage.

However if you are avoiding marriage because you have a valid reason then thats a different story.

 

[Angelina]

Some people are asexual and in those cases, marriage isn’t a necessity tbh and you’ll be making the life of your partner more difficult.

Sit down and figure out why you don’t want to marry.

 

[CABDULWALI XASAN.]

sad

 

[Vapour]

Singledom will have you like this:

It's harder to make and maintain new friendships as you get older because you are not forcibly put into social situations where making friendships is the natural outcome. From around 0 to 25, you have ample opportunities to socialize as you have more free time. You meet more people (especially at uni), you can't ignore people you meet as they are in your class, and you are more likely to find people you can relate to due to being of a similar age. The new people you meet as you get older don't need what you have to offer to them in the way of socialization. Most friendships wither away as people get jobs and families. You will become incredibly lonely if you are not already.

In short: Abso-fucking-lutely. Get married.

 

[Ximan iyo Xadeed]

I don't want to marry and I don't think I'll change my mind but I do feel bad for my parents because they're really on it now (I'm male, 32 yrs old for reference)
I'm hoping one of my younger brothers will marry soon

I feel you, I'm getting older now and I find it harder to get married. Healthwise and emotion wise , I don't want that baggage.


I got relatives on my moms side who didn't get married at the end of the day marriage is something we can't control but if it comes to you and you find your 1 you should go for it.

 

[Gacmeey]

If you are an only child yes. Otherwise you got siblings to give them grandchildren

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Are you a gay or something ?

 

[Sharab]

Are you a gay or something ?

Caadi saas ha dhahin odeyka. I never wanted to marry too it just happened out of nowhere My homies were yaabka yaabka thinking they did some sixir on me

 

[Shakespeare_aabihiis]

If you have male siblings then its ok not to get married and have kids. If you are the only boy or child your parents had then you have to get married.

 

[Moon-]

no its more xaasid if you get married when you don't want to someone who really does