You will be a dream wife for a Farah. You are basically giving him a green light to marry a second halaal wife, on top of that, u will support him instead of say......burning his house down
Is it wrong I want my husband to find a second spouse so I don’t have to birth more children and we aren’t always together
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You will be a dream wife for a Farah. You are basically giving him a green light to marry a second halaal wife, on top of that, u will support him instead of say......burning his house down
QueenofKings
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If your man can afford 3 more wives ManshaAllah, maybe he can direct some of that money towards, employing a carer and childminder for just 1 day a week. Take that 1 day as self care.
How many kids do you have now? Maybe explain to him if he wants more kids you can’t be out here working 6 days a week. It’s not sustainable or fair. You either raise a family or work. He can’t ask you to do both.
How many kids do you have now? Maybe explain to him if he wants more kids you can’t be out here working 6 days a week. It’s not sustainable or fair. You either raise a family or work. He can’t ask you to do both.
Alhamdulilah we have 3 and inshallah if allahs wills will have more in the future but he is from back home so he has told me multiple times he would like as many as allah swt will give him but because I have had 3 c sections already it isn’t advised to do anymore
vanilla
i think with my heart
nothing wrong with wanting someone to share the wifely duties with you..... I would also prefer to be in polygamous marriage in the future because I enjoy spending time with me. It is time to take care of myself,.. both physically and mentally... in this day and age, theres huge expectations on us and i think is just nice to have that time to be free and just be..... maybe ask a family member to speak on your behalf?
QueenofKings
Kick in the door wavin the .44
How will a second wife help you have more time for yourself?
QueenofKings
Kick in the door wavin the .44
I see, about the money ... why can’t he pay for a child care/carer for 1 day a week, he has the money after all.
she can always say--- to her husband
Honey ---this weekend i need to be by myself. Go to @Hodan from HR am not feelin` it
Halimo-2018
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I can see why you would want to do that. I dont like being a possessive lover myself however more children and another woman can complicate your life as well as your childrens life. If you can handle what comes with it then I would say go ahead with it.beat of luck to you.
Damn you tired of him in just 8 years? Lol joking, wallahi I think it’s great. You have a lot of iman mashAllah because most people are too selfish to care about their spouse’s needs or wants. It takes a mature and smart kinda person to realize what they can and cannot do and to come up with a solution. Also don’t listen to this naysayers, Allah allowed men to marry four if he can afford it but make sure you get to know the woman or maybe you can arrange someone you know because you want someone with iman and not a evil greedy one. Good luck, iA it will work out and be patient.
QueenofKings
Kick in the door wavin the .44
she can always say--- to her husband
Honey ---this weekend i need to be by myself. Go to @Hodan from HR am not feelin` it
But the time demanding things are kids and chores - not husbands. Him marrying another woman doesn’t cut down on the chores or chid responsibilities. It might make it worse because now you don’t have your partner available to help as often. What’s really been achieved here?
Also time spent with husbands should he enjoyable... what’s happening in these relationships where the husband is a burden that needs to be of loaded to another woman.
But the time demanding things are kids and chores - not husbands. Him marrying another woman doesn’t cut down on the chores or chid responsibilities. It might make it worse because now you don’t have your partner available to help as often. What’s really been achieved here?
Also time spent with husbands should he enjoyable... what’s happening in these relationships where the husband is a burden that needs to be of loaded to another woman.
u live in feminist Disney land huuno
QueenofKings
Kick in the door wavin the .44
If you feel burned out how will more time away for your husband help ? Polygamous marriages rarely work in the long run and the first wife always bears the brunt. Try other alternatives first and do couples counselling and therapy before you make any final decisions.
KingSomali999
UNKOWN.
if his financially stable than why don’t you not work and use the time u were suppose to be at work for urself? Also what do u exactly want to do on your free time? do u just wanna watch netflix and relax or do u wanna play sports? or go out with ur friends?
thats a bit to much , and wrong to say becouse we dont know everything about their marriage
If it’s not advisable then your health come first. I’m sure your husband don’t want to risk the health of his kids mother. A second wife add nothing but more headache your situation. It would mean not only less resources, but time he spends with current kids will diminish as he now has to alternate between two households
