Why hide it...it will eventually come out especially when everyone around me comments on how weird you are...
Is it unethical to withhold mental conditions whilst dating
- Thread starter Siddhartha
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It wouldn’t matter then, first let them fall under that trap that is called dating or marriage then they will realise and accept it.
My standard are already low though as it is but mental illness is a no go from me. Yep
If find out late in. I'll be disappointed and she's definitely lose a few points of respect from me. The lies would definitely make me lose a lot of trust in her and over think in other areas that are completely lies but how I would handle the situation? Don't know. Too many things to consider
If find out late in. I'll be disappointed and she's definitely lose a few points of respect from me. The lies would definitely make me lose a lot of trust in her and over think in other areas that are completely lies but how I would handle the situation? Don't know. Too many things to consider
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xLibaxsenderx
Hana deul
I figure it'll show during the talking stage, but then again they might conceal it until your fate is sealed
Radical
Joined: 2025
You shouldn't hide anything from your spouse. If you're scared they won't see you the same way after being true to yourself. Then that person ain't the one. Also lying is just terrible.
Is it unethical to you @Siddhartha to withhold your past ciyaal suuq activity (stuff you say you’ve done) whilst “dating”?
Idk what you mean I don't hide anything. I'm an open book
Lying about your health is a big no, no but then again I would consider how long it took before they revealed it to me. For example, if it was early talking stages and they were trying to gauge if we were compatible before revealing then fair play. But if it’s been over a month and you’re still concealing a part of yourself that will affect both you and me in the future ehhhh 
. Also I don’t understand why there’s huge stigma. I care more about how you are coping with your diagnosis and if you have healthy habits and are proactive when you see the signs appearing.
. Also I don’t understand why there’s huge stigma. I care more about how you are coping with your diagnosis and if you have healthy habits and are proactive when you see the signs appearing.
bidenkulaha
GalYare
I have zero mental illness so I have to disagree. It’s all about the chemical imbalance or a trauma for those who do have it
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Good. I was checking if you are the same irl as you are online. Are you trying to decide if you should reveal your mental health struggles to someone?
Matters of personal health are private unless you are trying to build a future with someone. Even then, people may not trust the individual they’re speaking with enough to divulge that private info right away. It takes time to build trust. I agree though. People with mental health ailments should not shy away from being upfront about their diagnosis when necessary. It’s because there’s a huge stigma that people run away from bringing up this topic.Lying about your health is a big no, no but then again I would consider how long it took before they revealed it to me. For example, if it was early talking stages and they were trying to gauge if we were compatible before revealing then fair play. But if it’s been over a month and you’re still concealing a part of yourself that will affect both you and me in the future ehhhh
Agreed but I don’t think you should wait too long because then you may end up getting hurt if they reject you because of that. If someone runs away when you tell them you have a mental health condition or a certain health condition say Alhamdullilah. That person was not meant for you. Allah has protected you.
That’s a lie. We are going through shit.even our prophets did.
I will not share everything with my spouse. It is not healthy. My spouse is not my therapist I have God given right to privacy. I never said lie. And as someone who’s shared something’s with people I trusted only to be used against me I say be very selective with what you share with people regardless of how much you love them.
Radical
Joined: 2025
There's a difference between being secretive and sharing everything. You don't have to tell him about that time your lunchbox got stolen in elementary.
But if the situation calls for it, or if he/she asks directly. Then there's no reason to lie/refuse to answer.
Now there is that occasional spouse who demands to know everything that happens in your life. The paranoid obsessive types. Which are a huge red flag. A healthy relationship can respect privacy while not being deceitful.
No need to be deceitful if your mental health has no affect on your spouse no need to share it with them.
I think every women has mental issues tbh.
Please don’t hide it, as I had a first cousin who’s husband hid the fact he had bipolar disorder. The type 2 one, and he didn’t tell her.
Throughout the marriage, his emotions were all over the place and he got physically aggressive with her for no reason. He claimed it was the migraines making him like this.
Eventually she got a hold of some of the medications he was always taking secretly and googled them.
One was for the bipolar, and another was for something to control his psychotic outbursts.
When she confronted him, he denied it but then eventually admitted it. She wanted a divorce and him and his fam tried to make her feel bad for divorcing someone for having a mental illness.
Like huh ? She has the right to do so, especially since he hid it during the courting stage, and he was taking out his aggressions and outbursts on her. He then demanded the mehr back and the ring, and spread rumours about her to everyone that she’s a h0e, smh.
