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I'm not shy at all but when I tell you I'm awkward around men I like. Boii you ain't even ready!
My conversations: trash
My flow: weak
My jokes: cringe
My face: red
My nails: digging into my skin
My eyes: fixed on the floor or fan
My cheeks: burnt
The words that come out sound so stupid and not like me. I can feel myself go home and yell at myself for saying those things.
I just wish there was a different way to go about this. Like publishing an autobiography and approaching whoever's story you found interesting. Everyone would already know everything about each other so you don't have to struggle making conversation. THE WORST kind of dates are when you are set up with a double date and the other couple is there to see if their work will flourish. I was sooooo far gone. NEVER AGAIN!

Serious question: how do I get rid of my awkwardness ?
 

SumMo

very lowkey
I'm not shy at all but when I tell you I'm awkward around men I like. Boii you ain't even ready!
My conversations: trash
My flow: weak
My jokes: cringe
My face: red
My nails: digging into my skin
My eyes: fixed on the floor or fan
My cheeks: burnt
The words that come out sound so stupid and not like me. I can feel myself go home and yell at myself for saying those things.
I just wish there was a different way to go about this. Like publishing an autobiography and approaching whoever's story you found interesting. Everyone would already know everything about each other so you don't have to struggle making conversation. THE WORST kind of dates are when you are set up with a double date and the other couple is there to see if their work will flourish. I was sooooo far gone. NEVER AGAIN!

Serious question: how do I get rid of my awkwardness ?
Same... fml
:tacky:
 

RICH

The Qadr of Allaah ta’aala is always in our favor.
Cute, but can be cringy at times. Girl loosen up. Have a nice chat and get him. The guy may be even more nervous than you. Just act like you’re meeting up with friends. Are you afraid for rejection? I mean he isn’t your guy or whatever so who gives a damn if he doesn’t like you for who you are.
 
Its totally normal don’t stress too much about it eventually if you’ll open up to him and be so comfortable. The giddiness and shyness usually just lasts the first couple of dates :)
 
I'm not shy at all but when I tell you I'm awkward around men I like. Boii you ain't even ready!
My conversations: trash
My flow: weak
My jokes: cringe
My face: red
My nails: digging into my skin
My eyes: fixed on the floor or fan
My cheeks: burnt
The words that come out sound so stupid and not like me. I can feel myself go home and yell at myself for saying those things.
I just wish there was a different way to go about this. Like publishing an autobiography and approaching whoever's story you found interesting. Everyone would already know everything about each other so you don't have to struggle making conversation. THE WORST kind of dates are when you are set up with a double date and the other couple is there to see if their work will flourish. I was sooooo far gone. NEVER AGAIN!

Serious question: how do I get rid of my awkwardness ?

That use to be me. I just don’t give a f*ck no more and became comfortable. Don’t really talk to somali guys like that or any guy in fact but just be yourself banter let it flow macaanto don’t force your presence if you feel the need that it’s going downhill save yourself by dippin before it goes awkward by saying bye or you need to go somewhere.
 
That use to be me. I just don’t give a f*ck no more and became comfortable. Don’t really talk to somali guys like that or any guy in fact but just be yourself banter let it flow macaanto don’t force your presence if you feel the need that it’s going downhill save yourself by dippin before it goes awkward by saying bye or you need to go somewhere.

Ooh also do things that get you out of your comfort zones eg debating clubs if you’ve got that at uni/school. Extra things that help your communication skills which can in turn help you exchanging conversations with people in general
 
If a girl was really nervous and shy around you, how would you personally handle it? I just act amused, try to understand her and wait till she gets used to my presence.
I joke around with her, I'm quiet charismatic so it's easy to make people laugh.The reason someone is nervous is the anticipation of awkwardness, when you kill it with laughter it's a success.
 
I joke around with her, I'm quiet charismatic so it's easy to make people laugh.The reason someone is nervous is the anticipation of awkwardness, when you kill it with laughter it's a success.


Agreed. Once I met up with this xalimo at a local burger joint and she didn't say a single word. I was trying to keep the conversation going but all she was responding with was head nods and forced chuckles. I was pretty sure she wasn’t feeling a brother so I attempted to excuse myself from the date and go home.


Well, that’s when she finally spoke. She asked me why and told me to please stay...so I did, and then she continued to sit in silence. :tacky:


Looking back now I realize she was just nervous as hell but, man...at the time I really thought that I must have been horrible to be around. I just hope for OP’s sake that her problem isn’t crippling social anxiety.
 
Agreed. Once I met up with this xalimo at a local burger joint and she didn't say a single word. I was trying to keep the conversation going but all she was responding with was head nods and forced chuckles. I was pretty sure she wasn’t feeling a brother so I attempted to excuse myself from the date and go home.


Well, that’s when she finally spoke. She asked me why and told me to please stay...so I did, and then she continued to sit in silence. :tacky:


Looking back now I realize she was just nervous as hell but, man...at the time I really thought that I must have been horrible to be around. I just hope for OP’s sake that her problem isn’t crippling social anxiety.
yo saxib don't tell me you paid for the lunch
:mjlol:
As for charisma it's easy , try push and pull.Flirting is an art and makes a conversation a calculated battle.
:lolbron:
 
Agreed. Once I met up with this xalimo at a local burger joint and she didn't say a single word. I was trying to keep the conversation going but all she was responding with was head nods and forced chuckles. I was pretty sure she wasn’t feeling a brother so I attempted to excuse myself from the date and go home.


Well, that’s when she finally spoke. She asked me why and told me to please stay...so I did, and then she continued to sit in silence. :tacky:


Looking back now I realize she was just nervous as hell but, man...at the time I really thought that I must have been horrible to be around. I just hope for OP’s sake that her problem isn’t crippling social anxiety.

Ughh that’s my worst nightmare. why I wouldn’t go on a date alone it wouldn’t even be a date then but u kno
 
yo saxib don't tell me you paid for the lunch
:mjlol:
As for charisma it's easy , try push and pull.Flirting is an art and makes a conversation a calculated battle.
:lolbron:

Loool, don’t get me wrong. She was those really sheltered miskeen kind of girls with a strict curfew. She messaged me saying she had fun and would love to do it again. I noped the f*ck outta there.
 
I'm not shy at all but when I tell you I'm awkward around men I like. Boii you ain't even ready!
My conversations: trash
My flow: weak
My jokes: cringe
My face: red
My nails: digging into my skin
My eyes: fixed on the floor or fan
My cheeks: burnt
The words that come out sound so stupid and not like me. I can feel myself go home and yell at myself for saying those things.
I just wish there was a different way to go about this. Like publishing an autobiography and approaching whoever's story you found interesting. Everyone would already know everything about each other so you don't have to struggle making conversation. THE WORST kind of dates are when you are set up with a double date and the other couple is there to see if their work will flourish. I was sooooo far gone. NEVER AGAIN!

Serious question: how do I get rid of my awkwardness ?

You remind me of myself i had one guy tell me everytime i see you never look at my direction or your always running towards the other way. I was just intimidated since he was alot older. But once I got comfertable with him, we were able to have decent convos! with more exposure as other said plus with the guy being patient you'll feel less akward hun :)
 
I used to be in debate and speech and I was a champ. In the most humble way; I am articulate and opinionated. All of my friends are surprised when they see me behave the way I do because its like an out of body experience. Every person I have ever formed a non romantic relationship with, would never believe that I'm the same person who is shivering around not being able to be strong.
That's the part that is the most stressful; people simply don't understand just because you can communicate well, it doesn't mean you will be calm and collected in every situation.
My closest friends are catching on and they seem a bit concerned. They have been playing match maker for a while now, but nothing seems to be working out.
I'm better over text than I am in real life because there are no emotions associated with a screen.
I don't think I have crippling anxiety because the only time I act like this is if I AM PURSUING someone. Fear of rejection seems more like it.
Honestly this made me want to move away too because I can go somewhere I wont easily find somali people and just focus on my studies until I am actually ready for marriage.
 

Muji

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Don’t. Awkward and shy means she’s not used to the company of men, shows she has sharaf. It’s quite endearing, actually. :samwelcome:

Stuff like this is pathetic.

Everything is always centered around chastity with Somali men.

If you are from the West you are bound to have spoken to someone who is of the opposite sex.

Grow up and stop b img so insecure.
 
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