im actually so weak

[SSDF]

#1 rule of being a businessman like me is to never give homeless people money. am i an salvation army hop off my nuts and get a job. It aint like these niggas got two broken legs

 

[Gambar]

Nayaa is adkeyso!

 

[star]

Practice saying no and being more assertive otherwise people are going to trample all over you. When your passive what your really saying is that someone else's time is more valuable then yours (which it isn't) next time just say I have to go and keep it stepping.

Thnxx. That's so true.

 

[star]

you are gonna get eaten up. you need to be xaasid. . People will take advantage of of you in this world. you need to work for your own interests.

You're right... That's what I'm scared of.

 

[supz]

OP I think what your problem is that you feel that you owe the world something. or feel like you need to pay for your sins, so you are too "nice" and helpful as a form of penance. You need to understand that you are far too insignificant to hold such a burden. give a big f*ck you to the next person you see.

 

[Ubax45_]

Thnxx. That's so true.

Most people are selfish and crappy, don't give them the benefit of the doubt, think cynically he probably gave the same sob story to 20 other people that day *Puts on black hood*

 

[Bahal]

OP I think what your problem is that you feel that you owe the world something. or feel like you need to pay for your sins, so you are too "nice" and helpful as a form of penance. You need to understand that you are far too insignificant to hold such a burden. give a big f*ck you to the next person you see.

Ok Freud

 

[iui]

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That's just wrong

 

[random12345]

A somali man pretty much proposed to me today lool and I actually stood and listened to him speak for about 20mins

I've always had a hard time saying no to people.. best I can get to is "I'm sorry" or something similar. I also hate to hurt anyone... I'm way too weak.

Boy told me he was new here and wanted to find a woman to marry. Said he thought I was pretty and didn't want the opportunity to leave him. He was actually a nice guy but I wasn't interested.. Any normal person would leave but my head went on to thinking "he's Somali, be nice to him. Maybe muslim guys have a hard time getting married. You know Somali guys who've told you about thier experiences and rejection. Maybe he's a sweet guy simply trying to find a wife and hasn't been able to yet. Poor guy"

To make everything worse a homeless man asked me for money today. I had to actually mentally prepare myself to say no (no joke) but when he came to me, I pulled out whatever coins I had in my purse because I felt bad if I didn't. I gave a homeless man a whole $20 bill the other day because I couldn't say no (plus I only had 20s on me)

I'm an embarrassment wallahi. How do I toughen up

Am I even somali

Pakistani begged me for 200 riyals during Umrah and I gave it,,,,Another Pakistani came like a week later and I did the same. I'm now convinced that they're scammers with the same story

 

[Soulei]

Wow you're so sweet may Allah bless your soul sis.

I know how you feel, growing up I found it very hard to say no and always took the extra mile for others, but unfortunately this world is messed up--a lot of people are extremely selfish and willing to take advantage of anyone who lets them I had to learn that the hard way, and I hope you won't have to. So just try to be more assertive and look out a little more for your own best interests. You don't have to be completely self-serving, but just enough that you do what's best for you.

Oh and for homeless people, try giving/buying them food instead of money if you really can't bear to say no, that way you know for sure that they're not spending it on drugs or alcohol.

 

[star]

He must've been a fob.

Also this post feels like a humblebrag.

I don't get it but okay, sorry it seems that way..

 

[VixR]

You're a kind person. That's a good thing. What you have to worry about is protecting yourself bc people are without a doubt going to take advantage of that.

Homeless ppl are another story. I don't think when they ask. I'm pretty sure I've funded the drug habits of quite few homeless ppl in my city. I given out a $50 bill once and I've been scammed before by someone posing as a homeless person too.

 

[--Ajakis Lax Max--]

the thing about homeless people is to imagine they are evil people that will use the money for bad reasons. that way you feel good about not giving them money. spiting on them is optional though.

 

[Mercury]

Theres nothing wrong with being a nice person But be careful cause some people would try to take advantage of your kindness

 

[Inactive]

I find it difficult to say no as well.

Put earphones on and look like you're zoned out.

Or say you forgot your wallet/purse at the car or home

If anyone is interested in you and you're not interested, tell them you are engaged or married. It won't hurt them like a real rejection obviously.

 

[star]

I've been scammed before by someone posing as a homeless person too.

What's happened?

I find it difficult to say no as well.

Put earphones on and look like you're zoned out.

Or say you forgot your wallet/purse at the car or home

If anyone is interested in you and you're not interested, tell them you are engaged or married. It won't hurt them like a real rejection obviously.

Thankss

 

[star]

the thing about homeless people is to imagine they are evil people that will use the money for bad reasons. that way you feel good about not giving them money. spiting on them is optional though.

 

[government]

I thoughtthis was gonna be about physical strength lol

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

A somali man pretty much proposed to me today lool and I actually stood and listened to him speak for about 20mins

I've always had a hard time saying no to people.. best I can get to is "I'm sorry" or something similar. I also hate to hurt anyone... I'm way too weak.

Boy told me he was new here and wanted to find a woman to marry. Said he thought I was pretty and didn't want the opportunity to leave him. He was actually a nice guy but I wasn't interested.. Any normal person would leave but my head went on to thinking "he's Somali, be nice to him. Maybe muslim guys have a hard time getting married. You know Somali guys who've told you about thier experiences and rejection. Maybe he's a sweet guy simply trying to find a wife and hasn't been able to yet. Poor guy"

To make everything worse a homeless man asked me for money today. I had to actually mentally prepare myself to say no (no joke) but when he came to me, I pulled out whatever coins I had in my purse because I felt bad if I didn't. I gave a homeless man a whole $20 bill the other day because I couldn't say no (plus I only had 20s on me)

I'm an embarrassment wallahi. How do I toughen up

Am I even somali

Horta homeless people are becoming nuisance these days.

Yesterday as I came out of a store this cadaan guy with a bike asked me for 75c. I told him I'll get it from my car. I grabbed some coins and gave it to him.

Many times at the first traffic light off of the freeway I see a homeless with a sign and sometimes I like to give and do I rolled down my window and give them something.

However, today while putting air into my tire this homeless guy came right behind me on a bicycle again and at the same location as yesterday but this guy was different and he asked for money and then I said "I don't have it". He left repeating what I said to him.

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

@star that guy you wrote abt reminds me of me. I hold a conversation with Somali females that I ran into. They cool peoples runtii and they never hostile towards me.

Jus today I ran into a xaliimo at the grocery store and we happened to be waiting for an order and the lady was away. I didn't talk to her for maybe a 1 min before I striked up a conversation with her. She had a shopping with a baby that's perhaps 7 months and a 1.5 year old but I was hoping she was a newly divorced one. She was honest and said she was married and husband is a truck driver. She was kind of cute. I think she got married young. Oh well!